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would a brother mind a sister who is studying...i mean say he proposed and she was in the middle of a degree...would most brothers mind if she continued to finish her degree (whilst she is engaged/married) or would he prefer her to stop for marriage (even if she doesn't intend on working, etc after wards)..

i hope im making sense here...
 
:sl: I am in the same situation. :p I'm nowhere near done, so yeah at the end of the day he's gonna be the one that provides right? So it really shouldn't be a problem inshaAllaah.
 
i dont know , if she isnt going to work after shes done, then i dont see the point.
but on the flip side , its good to get knowledge.
 
Well it depends on how many years she has left.

If it's only one or two years then it won't be a problem....I guess.
 
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Let her finish...as it long as it's not too long.
 
Umm ul-Shaheed said:
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would a brother mind a sister who is studying...i mean say he proposed and she was in the middle of a degree...would most brothers mind if she continued to finish her degree (whilst she is engaged/married) or would he prefer her to stop for marriage (even if she doesn't intend on working, etc after wards)..

i hope im making sense here...
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

I would get married to her rather than wait as well as let her continue her education! Whether she wants to work or not should really matter! <<< its her choice to work. But she must work in a place where im comfortable with

Marriage shouldnt mean end of the world!!

FiAmaaniAllah
 
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I often found a sister who still studying after married.
And I often found a sister who stop studying after married. Her study is not stoped by her husband, but by herself. Husband usually allows his wife continue her study.
However, that is in Indonesia. Husband in other country maybe has different minds.
 
^but how about a boy interacts with her while you are married to her,that would be sin for her so rather wait then get bad deeds,right ? You have to think...
 
I wasn't able to attend university when I was 18 due to my personal circumstances. So after I got married and had my daughter, my husband said that rather than work I should study. He knew I wanted to but he actually encouraged it. InshAllah after 2 more years Ill have graduated. I'll be so glad when it's over and through everything I've had the support of my husband at every step of the way :)
 
^You sure ? Think of the bad points not to discourage people but alert them:
• Interacting
•Fitnah
•Girls might backbite
All this = Bad deeds and your relationship is already to a bad start with Allah.
 
Alpha Jr said:
^You sure ? Think of the bad points not to discourage people but alert them:
• Interacting
•Fitnah
•Girls might backbite
All this = Bad deeds and your relationship is already to a bad start with Allah.
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yup, im sure. i cant keep my wife locked in doors all day while im at work. id trust her to main good adab until she gave me a reason not to.
 
Yeah all Alphas think alike.LOL I just saw thats ur personal message....

Btw convert nice answer but dont be blindfolded too much.
 
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Alpha Jr said:
^but how about a boy interacts with her while you are married to her,that would be sin for her so rather wait then get bad deeds,right ? You have to think...
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She must tell that boy, "I have married. If you want to be my friend, it's okay, but don't so close and don't fall in love with me, or my husband shall kill you". ;D

Just kidding. :sunny:
My wife had finished her study when I married her. She was born in a poor family. Her parent can't afford to pay study fee in Uni but she wanted to study higher than high school. So, she took a 1 year diploma program in computer. And I spent my saving for paid her study fee.
 
Alpha Jr said:
^You sure ? Think of the bad points not to discourage people but alert them:
• Interacting
•Fitnah
•Girls might backbite
All this = Bad deeds and your relationship is already to a bad start with Allah.
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.....It's the same thing whether you're married or not. What's the difference? :mmokay: Fitna doesnt automatically dissipate from the planet once you are married...
 
I'm still going to study afterwards, but the only difference is it'll be Islamic Studies InshaAllah. All my regular studies I will finish beforehand...inshaAllah.
 
Alpha Jr said:
^You sure ? Think of the bad points not to discourage people but alert them:
• Interacting
•Fitnah
•Girls might backbite
All this = Bad deeds and your relationship is already to a bad start with Allah.
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you sure make it sound like women let loose cant control themselves:mmokay:

BTW all those points are valid for men too..
 
and also i wud mind if a sister is studing further education i want a wife who is on the deen 100 percent:thumbs_up
 

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