jazakom Allah khayr
I think he is mix of the second and the third type, he insists on wearing extreme literal versions of Islamic clothing and think that muslim must dress this clothes ,he want me to wear niqab while I am wearing tall and respectable hijab ,he was studding medicine in USA then he left his collage before graduating just because someone told him that as a muslim he have to leave country of (sherk) and imagrate to an Islamic state,he don`t want to do anything in his life other than lestning islamic lectures and stay at masjid,many things which I know that it is halal he think it is haram.
I think it`s not right to continue with him,
so plz make dua for me to find good muslim husband and dua for him too to find his soul mate.
Well as you can see, some muslims here are stricter than others and it is all relative, so by the very fact that you were uncomfortable enough with his habits to write, I would advise you to look elsewhere even if some muslims think there is nothing wrong with what he is saying. You need to marry someone who will be your healing balm against the harshness of the World and be your shoulder to cry on when you are disappointed, not be the SOURCE of harshness or disappointment (either at yourself for not changing to what he says is proper or at him for not changing to someone you more expect him to be).
Sister Amani, just a correction: As per three of the four math-habs (Haneefi, Maliki, Shafei) Niqab is optional or mostahab, not wajib. Only Hanbali math-hab regard it as a wajib (and most of the Saudi scholars are which might explain the frequency of hearing it is wajib). Even though I lean mostly towards Hanbali myself, I do agree with the majority of the math-habs on this one considering the evidence that the verse of the niqab had a specific reason in it "so that you are not known and may be harmed", which shows that niqab was a matter of protecting the women of the prophet and the important sahaba from being targeted by ambushing mushrekien.
Additionally, the sahih hadith of the prophet saying "A Muhrima (woman in haj or Omra) does not wear niqab or gloves". This goes to show that the face and hands are specifically to be shown in haj by order, and therefore are not Aawra (as in forbidden parts of the body), otherwise worship would not be appropriate showing a Aawra.
Additionally Asmaa's hadith also of the prophet telling her "A woman reaching puberty should only show this and these" and he -pbuh- pointed to his face and his hands.
Anyway, that went off on a tanget. If anonymous sister wishes to wear niqab, that is fine and good. But for a man to insist on it and getting harsh with it is not appropriate. I think though we all already agree that ditching medicine school and wanting to do nothing but listen to Islamic lectures and no work is a pretty wrong angle. This hijrah thing suggests sectarian influence like some posts suggested, but we can't judge for sure. The prophet however said clearly after Fat-H Makka "No hijra after the Fat-H". Still a minority of scholars say muslims even with nationalities of non-muslim countries should leave and come to muslim ones, but if they do so then none will be left to actually educate and influence the remaining population, or maybe as in Europe now begin to take over the population and effect its policy.
For starters how will he provide for you properly without a degree? Sitting in a masjed all day praying and hope for food and rent money? That will be like the man the prophet saw and asked about where he was getting his sustenance, and when they said his brother works and spends on him but doesn't pray that much, the prophet said "his brother is better than him". It is the duty of men to seek work and employment and benefit society.
Good luck sister and as per your request I will make duaa for you to find your dream muslim suitor.
