What would you ask a potential partner?

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at the moment i cant think of anything really!! but am sure i will ask many questions but isa not to many lol
 
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Abdullahii said:
Easy question... there isnt any other moment where you should show abit of romance except when there is an argument.....spontaneity is key! my friends :D
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what if she is a woman who doesn't let her emotions sway her...
 
Grofica said:
wow hafsah has tons of questions...

how about:


How do you define love?

Do you love me?

What do your parents think about me?

Will you talk to me at night before we sleep?

Do you like to be affectionate? (hugs and squishys... inside of course)
Do you know when my birthday is?

Do you believe in helping with the house work (occasionally) like surpise me by washing the coffee pot or something.

What do you want in life?

What kind of furniture do you like? (if you cant aggree on furnature (or the small stuff) you will have problems later)

Do you know what colour my eyes are (shows if he really pays attention to you)

Will you support me in a career i choose or a project i want to undertake?
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how can he know that he loves you before marriage? How can he know what colors your eyes have while he has seen you once only and that in the presence of a wali?

Most of the questions here seem very shallow (no offense). For example one person asked "what are your views about polygamy, will you marry more than one?" and then "do you follow Islam more or culture more?" It seemed that person does not want the husband (potential) to marry more than one wife but at the same time wants that husband to be more Islamic than cultural? If that is the case, and the husband NEEDS to marry more than one wife (lets say libido is up the roof), then would this person not let him marry more than one? isnt then she being a hurdle in his fulfilling his Islamic needs?
 
crayon said:
Oh, I can think of a question or two... Or several thousand.
I'll edit some into this post as I think of them.

-How many times a day does he pray at the masjid? valid. At the same time he then has the right to ask how much does she pray.
-How much quran does he know, is he willing to learn more? He also has the right to ask how much Quran does she know.
-How important is travel to him? hmm
-What role does he expect the woman to have in running a household? And the man? He should expect a similar role woman should have that the Umm ul Momineen had.
-What does he think of my photography? (not whether he likes it or not, but how supportive he will be if i want to pursue a hobby/career in it) IN general, photography of humans is prohibited. If he denies you based on that, he has a valid point. and probably not a good match and shows his piety and religiosity.
-Does he have a temper? valid.
-Where does he want to live, and for how long? Valid i guess
-Goals in life? What goals would you expect? Win a Nobel Prize in medicine or exceed in Ibadah?
-When he makes a mistake, does he apologize?
-Does he smoke? (if yes, it's a definite no, unless he quits)
-Does he ever consider having more than one wife? If he needs it then what?
-I'll ask random subtle questions to try to figure out what comes first for him, culture or islam. Interesting. sort of relates to your previous question. If you find his liking of polygamy wrong (even though he does not want to get married more than once), then you are being cultural and NOT Islamic.
-Describe the person he wants to marry.
-Are the Jews behind everything bad that happens in the muslim/arab world? Maybe. Maybe not. If he says no and you accept it, it means you are taking a leap of faith in believing that everything bad in Arab world is not due to Zionist Jews. Who knows.
-Are the Americans behind everything bad that happens in the muslim/arab world? Most of the time it is true. Isnt it so? What is more "bad?" A murder of an innocent child by an American bomb or some other crime that a Muslim commits? A sinner Muslim is more dear to a believer than a lovey-dovey kaafir.


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Just for some fun.
 
After all the essential Deen questions about Salat, manners, alcohol and other matters, I would ask:

What is his view on women and careers? I'm not ready to go through five years of medical school just to be told I should stay home or become a primary school teacher. I'd rather be single.

Would he ever think of getting a second wife? If the answer is yes or even resembles a 'maybe' then again, I'd rather be single.

Is he interested in charity?

I would also explain that I'm not keen on the idea of having a baby a year, as I have many other goals in life, like looking after orphans, writing and excelling in my career. Would this be okay with him?


Probably not. LOL.
 
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i'll ask: what is your opinion on sheikhs ibn abdul wahhaab and al-albaani (rahimahumullah)
 
^OK. But what if they don't strictly follow a particular madhab and just to do the best they can? Should an issue on madhab be a priority in selecting your life-long partner?
 
^imo, theres no need to have a particular madhab as your priority for selecting spouse. but 3aqaid are far more important. they should definitely be a priority lest you end up marrying someone who thinks its ok to kneel before graves lol.
 
^huh? i dont think there exists a school of thought who approves of dancing in a masjid.
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Banu_Hashim said:
Hmm... interesting. But, what exactly is the relevance of that to the compatibility of two future spouses? :hmm:
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becuase you either love those 2 men, or you don't...there's simply no in between...and if he don't love 'em it means we're are on completely two different waves as some view their teachings to be quite controversial. both shaikhs have had some serious allegations and misconceptions surrounding them and based on that (from what i've personally noticed) you're either with them or not...and if he's not as i said it'll mean we are on two different wave lengths...
 
^(in response to squiggles post btw.) edit
yes you're right none of the four schools approve of bowing to graves, but their are people who follow the corrupted versions of their doctrines, claiming that they are strict followers of school so and so. one has to be aware of them. anyway too much offtopic. sorry mods. i am sure its going to be deleted anyway though :P
 

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