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AnonymousGender said:
hes being cold now...probs to push me away...but before he was very sweet and caring.
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he is probably confused and wondering weather the two of yous are compatible or not because of the fact you guys argued alot during the end and he cut you off!

you see he probably has realised that he had done a major sin being in a haraam relation now looking over everything he probably believes you were wrong for him and all of this will only end up hurting him in the end because it started off haraam.

he probably feels that there is no blessing for the two of yous now and more then likely his mates will be guiding him also because he probably told them and they told him to finish it with you.

you see Allah forgives also thats probably what he is failing to realise also if the two of yous repent sincerely and get married. there will be a blessing inshallaah. Allah is all forgiving all merciful

if he loves you he will be back trust me. if he dosent come back then it means he no longer loves you sister and its something you will have to accept for putting yourself in a illegal relationship.

have patience inshallaah

but i think he might be confused right now. don't contact him and when he is ready he will come to you.
 
Sister how old are you?

I'm sorry but from all the posts you've posted it seems like he doesn't want to be with you. You can't force someone to be with you. You can try to talk to your family and his, but if he doesn't want to talk to you, it's kind of hard to get him to agree to marrying you.

I wouldn't rush anything between the two of you either. Like the others said, he may just be confused and needs time to think about things.

Don't base your life on some guy in your life. Do things that will benefit yourself and please Allah. You can live without him sister.
 
AnonymousGender said:
is our partner 'written' or 'chosen' for us?
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yes sister everything is chosen for us. Allah knows whats going to happen before we are even born and he makes decisions about humans later also but now that dosen mean to say that Allah chose this guy for you. he could be this guy out of millions:) you just don't know where your going to end up with and who with! if a couple gets married, that dosen mean to say that they will be with eachother forever dose it? only Allah knows where your life is going to turn sister. it would even surprise you but you cannot think straight now because you are in love
 
I get really confused - as some say allah has chosen our partners for us - as we are made from a man's rib - correct me please if i am wrong some say we make our own choices on who we marry - But Allah obviosuly knows who we will marry as Allah knows everything.

But then again dua can change destiny right??
It may mean he aint the one - But theres a chance he is?
 
yeah it can be possible he is the one but he has not spoken to you.

yeah your duas can be answered but Allah knows best. he knows whats good for you and he knows whats bad for you! if Allah knows this guy is bad for you, it could be that Allah will not answer your dua.

Just suspect that Allah has made his mind if your dua is not answered the way you would like
 
But Allah can make things right for us correct?

I understand if it doesnt get answered it was for the best - however it maybe a test of patience .. i know this is a test for me so im gonna put all my trust in Allah.

thank you Sister - cat eyes
 
inshallaah Allah will make things right for the two of you's again

have patience sis. take care
 
I tried to say this in so many ways but due to the nature of my belief, it still comes across as a bit blunt. Please forgive me for that. I honestly think if you love someone then you would let them go. His happiness is somewhere else. And love requires that you allow him to find it. Anything else is selfishness as you are not thinking about what he wants/needs but what you want/need.

He has seen the arguments between you two as something that he would not like in his married life and hence he no longer sees you as a potential wife. Women are more emotional and these emotions are constantly changing, enabling them to forgive, forget and try again. But men think more with their heads than their hearts and once they have decided a woman is not right for them, it is almost impossible for them to change their mind.

Love is when you let the other person be free and pray they find happiness despite them not wanting to be with you. That is their choice and that is what they want. If you can't be happy in that, then you have to ask what is it you actually feel? I think love is greater than that. The sad thing is, lots of people 'learn' how to love someone from how love is portrayed in books and films. When love for someone is born from the heart, then it isn't hard to let them go, if that's where their happiness lies. No matter how much pain their loss brings to you. They come first.
 
I have faith and hope in Allah .. i will not let anyone destroy my hope. Whatever Allah decides it is for the best and ill accept that...at the end of the day Allah knows best and knows the whole situation.

Remember me in your duas

Jazakallah
 
Everything is written, sis. Just Dua's can change your destiny.

I honestly think if you love someone then you would let them go. His happiness is somewhere else. And love requires that you allow him to find it. Anything else is selfishness as you are not thinking about what he wants/needs but what you want/need.
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I also used to say that first, but now i realized that saying and doing has lots of difference. it isnt that simple. Maybe if he is not for you, with time you will forget abt him or InshaAllah Allah will put him on your way again as you desire.
 
Aisha20 said:
Everything is written, sis. Just Dua's can change your destiny.

I also used to say that first, but now i realized that saying and doing has lots of difference. it isnt that simple. Maybe if he is not for you, with time you will forget abt him or InshaAllah Allah will put him on your way again as you desire.
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Thank you thats so reassuring.

Remember me in ur duas please and everythin works out for the best
 
Scents of Jannah said:
But men think more with their heads than their hearts and once they have decided a woman is not right for them, it is almost impossible for them to change their mind.
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i am amazed sis... that sounds right.


mashAllah u always amaze me :ooh:
 
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