What is "love"

[The Ruler]

No, no,

Sometimes the corner of the smiles doesnt show and I forget. It's not that I don't respect you or anything.

Ah, I see.

I'm interested in your opinion regarding this:

I was wondering how doing "forbidden things to satisfy that person" is shirk? Haram, perhaps, but surely not shirk? At least, not in how I believe 'shirk' to be. Shirk is haraam, but what is haraam, is not shirk.

Even though I thought I found the answer, it wasn't as satisfying.

 

[Rasema]

How come you didn't greet Crazy_Lady like that?

How come you didn't greet me like that in the beginning????

I know very well what shirk is. But I was wondering how doing "forbidden things to satisfy that person" is shirk? Haram, perhaps, but surely not shirk? At least, not in how I believe 'shirk' to be. Shirk is haraam, but what is haraam, is not shirk. EDIT: I think I somewhat found the answer to that question.

Knowing that what one is doing is forbidden(haram) so they satisfy their loved one is Shrik. There are different types of shirks,as you know. If you love someone over Allah is Shirk. You disobeyed Allah to satisfy that loved person. Which is choosing that person over Allah.


I'm not saying either of those - though I'm not entirely sure what the first half of that question is asking. What I meant to say is that love is not a set of bullet point criterias. You can't stare at a couple, tick off the points, and declare them to be in love. For some, love is what they share in a look; for others, it's the caress of a man or even his words. For some, love takes the form of a human being; for others, perhaps a cat? For some, love is about sex, for others, it's a mere source of comfort, peace and solace.

If you don't know what I'm asking do not respond or politely ask me what do you mean?

:wa:

 

[The Ruler]

How come you didn't greet me like that in the beginning????

I don't normally.

Knowing that what one is doing is forbidden(haram) so they satisfy their loved one is Shrik. There are different types of shirks,as you know. If you love someone over Allah is Shirk. You disobeyed Allah to satisfy that loved person. Which is choosing that person over Allah.

I see, I see.

If you don't know what I'm asking do not respond or politely ask me what do you mean?

And what I said what impolite?

 

[Rasema]

What is love...? Wow, you could write and essay on thi topic.

Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed us with big hearts, and we all feel some kind of love/affection/emotion every day.

There are many different kinds of love.I mean for example, the love I feel for my daughter, my hsband and my mum are 3 completely different kinds of love. I would go as far as to say we cannot necessarily catagorise them, having said that, we can attribute certain factors to each kind of love.

Daughter - I cry when she learns something new. I feel immense emotion when she hugs me or says "mummy, i love you!".

Mum - I respect my mum. I value her guidance(to a point as she;s non muslim) he carring attitude towards me. Her support.

Husband - hmmmm, when I wake up and know that he is there for me. when he spends time with his child. he makes dinner for me. He protects me, he cares for me. I respect him. the deep friendship and trust we hold together.

One thing I realised while writing this is that I feel I cannot live without any of them. Whilst I know when Allah brings their time close I will have to deal with any loss, I still feel at this moment it will be unbearable. I don;t think this is a cause of love, but it is defniitely a consequence of loving someone deeply.

Whatever kind of love you are interested in, I feel this is the binding factor.

Based on this anyone could be subject to our love but it is with Allah;s guidance and through His will that people are chosen for us to love. I mean there are people who don't love their parents and parents who dont love their kids. and "usually" the feeling is mutual

Intense Rabi'ya. You could live without them.Once you have Allah you could. At some point you'll loose them. You might be even enemies on the judgement day. But I like my self alone in the rememberance of Allah without anyone else:statisfie

 

[TrueStranger]

Did not the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) love Allah, is wives, and his fellow Muslims?

 

[Rasema]

I don't normally.



I see, I see.



And what I said what impolite?

Alright my sister. May Allah,subHana wat'ala inbreath us with patience and endurance in this life.Ameen

 

[egyptballer]

salam,

I believe I heard in a khutbah that there are three stages of love.

1.) Raqba - inclination of love
2.) Talub - possessive love
3.) Muhaba - ultimate love, we always need that thing we love

Source:
http://islamicreminders.com/?page_id=94

 

[Rasema]

Did not the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) love Allah, is wives, and his fellow Muslims?

Who said that He,sallallahu alaihi wasalam, didn't???

Sorry I sound rude. I love my Muslims as well, and, of course, I love my Allah.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

 

[IslamicRevival]

Love Has No Description

 

[Soulja Girl]

Intense Rabi'ya. You could live without them.Once you have Allah you could. At some point you'll loose them. You might be even enemies on the judgement day. But I like my self alone in the rememberance of Allah without anyone else:statisfie

^Actually, I fink that's where you're wrong... :><: Yes, we do need Allah but we also need love from our fellow humans and no, we can't live wivout them! At all! And hey, if they're good, they won't necessarily be your enemies on the day of Qiyaamah... Nuff said.

Oh yea, and back to teh main question, love is like heaven but hurts like hell! :exhausted

:wa:

 

[Rasema]

^Actually, I fink that's where you're wrong... :><: Yes, we do need Allah but we also need love from our fellow humans and no, we can't live wivout them! At all! And hey, if they're good, they won't necessarily be your enemies on the day of Qiyaamah... Nuff said.

Oh yea, and back to teh main question, love is like heaven but hurts like hell! :exhausted

:wa:

I don't mean that you will be the only human on the planet. I mean that you can live as an individual, without family,husband,wife, etc..... I hope.

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

Love is something that those who have been in it, know of it. You can't explain it or rationalize it to those that have never experienced it.

 

[Rasema]

Love is something that those who have been in it, know of it. You can't explain it or rationalize it to those that have never experienced it.

:wa:

I don't know why are people trying to make it seem so special. The Qur'an says that as you get older your life gets harder,unless I misunderstood it.

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

:wa:

I don't know why are people trying to make it seem so special. The Qur'an says that as you get older your life gets harder,unless I misunderstood it.

I can't really explain it to you. Love is love, I can't rationalize it for you and tell you it's this or it's that. It is what it is and the only to know it is to have experienced it. As Ibn Hazm (rahimullah) said: Love is something within the soul itself.

What does life getting harder as we get older have to do with this though? And where does it say that?

 

[Snowflake]

- I think sister Rasema, means this ayah here..


"....And We cause whom We will to remain in the wombs for an appointed term, then We bring you out as infants, then (give you growth) that you may reach your age of full strength. And among you there is he who dies (young), and among you there is he who is brought back to the miserable old age, so that he knows nothing after having known." (22:5)

 

[Najm]

Love is neither disapproved by Religion, nor prohibited by the Law; for every heart is in God's hands. - Ibn Hazm Al-Andalusi

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

SubhaanAllah!!

There is no other universial word than love, as to each one of us it is something unique, and it is the deepest of emotions.

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[Cabdullahi]

lets not question the existence of love its abit futile to do so
if my mum didnt love me then i would have been a neglected child but because she looked after me i stand above 6 ft in height and in strength im as strong as an ox
the love she showed me as a child and is still giving me i will retain , learn and absorb to give me an understanding of how to love someone else in the future

 

[Rabi'ya]

Intense Rabi'ya. You could live without them.Once you have Allah you could. At some point you'll loose them. You might be even enemies on the judgement day. But I like my self alone in the rememberance of Allah without anyone else:statisfie

What I mean to say is that you feel you cannot live without them. they provide such a support for u and care and respect you in return. Of course we can live without people but it still causes a pain in the heart and a longing and we still miss these people. We wouldn't be human if we didn't feel these emotions.

 

[Rasema]

I can't really explain it to you. Love is love, I can't rationalize it for you and tell you it's this or it's that. It is what it is and the only to know it is to have experienced it. As Ibn Hazm (rahimullah) said: Love is something within the soul itself.

What does life getting harder as we get older have to do with this though? And where does it say that?

Here is the verse. But I read the Qur'an in a different language and mine says that you will hit on harder and harder stage(sorry I'm a terrible interpretear). I know that what I'm doing is wrong especially without Tafsir but there are hadeeths that support my claim clearly.

So I do call to witness the ruddy glow of Sunset; (16) The Night and its Homing; (17) And the Moon in her Fullness; (18) Ye shall surely travel from stage to stage. (19)


And by the night and all that it enshroudeth, (17) And by the moon when she is at the full, (18) That ye shall journey on from plane to plane.

 

[Humbler_359]

^hmm.... I don't get it, :exhausted

:wa: