What is "love"

[Rasema]

^hmm.... I don't get it, :exhausted

:wa:

Assalamu Alikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
This is what I meant.The brother was correct, it doesn't have nothing to do with the topic.

92. Az-Zubayr ibn 'Adi said, "We went to Anas ibn Malik and complained to him about what we had met with on the part of al-Hajjaj. He said, 'Be patient. There is no time without the one following it being worse than it until you meet your Lord.' I heard that from your Prophet.'" [al-Bukhari]

93. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Race to good actions as fast as you can. What are you waiting for except delayed poverty, oppressive wealth, debilitating illness, dottering senility, a swift death or the Dajjal? Or are you waiting for an unseen evil, or the Last Hour? The Last Hour will be most bitter and terrible." [at-Tirmidhi]



you will surely journey (tarkabunna is actually tarkabūnanna, but the nūn of the indicative has been omitted because of two identical letters following one another, and the wāw [is omitted] because of two unvocalised consonants coming together), from stage to stage, state after state, namely, death, then life, then what comes afterwards of the states at the Resurrection.

(Al-Inshiqaq verse19)

Don't get me wrong when I say my translation says this but the modern one this. Scholars are trying their best to bring out the verse's message by using different words that mean the same etc...

Allah knows best.

 

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

Sorry..It's my fault for not getting it..can you clarify once more please?

 

[Rasema]

Sorry..It's my fault for not getting it..can you clarify once more please?

No apologies necessary. I over think things and don't specify that what is in my head. My teacher was explaining a romance movie. While so, she looked at me and said that something happens when two people see eachother, it's the difference between humans and animals. I don't believe that "something happens" we are simply animals. :embarrass

Lets end it here: Love is in nature of the human beings,nothing less or more.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

Love is a very broad concept and it is not always easy to explain what love is as it can have a number of different meanings. It initially begins with physical attraction between two parties and this is the reason why Allah has ordered the beliving men and women to lower their gaze. The eyes are a gateway to the heart and one may fall in love with an image of a person.

Falling in love is not haram because it happens and you cannot control it as every heart is in the hands of Allah and the one who falls in love should not be blamed. It is a sign of their perfection, and of Allah's favors upon them. When people fall in love, they fall out of character and this is natural as long as it doesn’t lead to something that is haraam, there is no problem. Love in this sense will remain one of the marvelous secrets of Allah's creation.

The definition of love in dictionary.com is as follows:

–noun
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1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis. a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.

–verb (used with object)
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15. to have love or affection for: All her pupils love her.
16. to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
17. to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
18. to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.
19. to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.
20. to have sexual intercourse with.

–verb (used without object)
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21. to have love or affection for another person; be in love.

—Verb phrase
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22. love up, to hug and cuddle: She loves him up every chance she gets.

—Idioms
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23. for love,
a. out of affection or liking; for pleasure.
b. without compensation; gratuitously: He took care of the poor for love.
24. for the love of, in consideration of; for the sake of: For the love of mercy, stop that noise.
25. in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion: a youth always in love.
26. in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea, occupation, etc.); enamored of: in love with the girl next door; in love with one's work.
27. make love,
a. to embrace and kiss as lovers.
b. to engage in sexual activity.
28. no love lost, dislike; animosity: There was no love lost between the two brothers.



There are also different levels of love. In Islam some forms of love are encouraged such as the love of Allah and the love of His Messenger :saws: as this is the highest form of love. Then there is natural love suchas between family members, a husband and a wife for example. Love in it self is not prohibited in religion because it is a natural feeling that every human has but what is prohibited is when one performs a haram act due to his love. Another form of love that is prohibited is religious love directed to other then Allah such as love for all false dieties.

The signs of love are many such as the following:

• The brooding gaze. The eye is the gateway of the soul, and so they can basically reveal your soul.
• The lover will direct his conversation to his beloved.
• The lover listens to his beloved's speech, and marvels at everything said- even if it is nonsense.
• The lover hurries to the spot where his beloved awaits him.
• The lover is overcome by a sudden confusion when beloved comes suddenly upon him.
• The lover is abundantly and excessively cheerful at being close to his beloved. e.g in the beginning, they use the "love seat" so that they can be near each other.
• They engage in playful tug-o-war. For example, in the beginning the husband offers to do the dishes, and the wife says, no, I'll take care of it. And they go back and forth, back and forth, until the dish falls and breaks. Then they both smile, and the husband offers to clean it up, and the wife says no, and they start all over again. However, later, the husband doesn't even bother to ask, he just expects his wife to do it, and if the dish breaks they start yelling at each other.
• Leaning toward each other.
• Touching. 'Aisha narrates that Rasulullah would grab the hand of his wives when talking to them.
• Drinking from the same cup, and touching the lips on the exact spot where the beloved's lips touched. Rasulullah would grab a piece of meat that 'Aisha had eaten from and then eat from the same spot as she. He would also grab her cup, after she had finished drinking from it, and turn the cup around, and place his lips on the exact spots her lips touched.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

I don't need love !


http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=article&id=42​

So many people have tried to define love. Often it means different things to different people.

Everyone admits they need it.

It seems to be an emotion; a feeling on bonding between people. But does it occur in a snap?
There are certain ingredients which it contains; upon which it is built. Without them, love will not be found. People need to be respected, listened to , forgiven, taught and their needs must be met. If such aspects are missed love does not emerge.

How often people look at their spouse and think that at that moment, they really hate them. Then at a future time see another aspect of their personality and feel a deep loving feeling towards them. No one loves somebody all the time. Human beings are very complicated and can experience so many emotions at the same time. There are also many sides to our personalities.

Yet relationships are often based on this abstract emotion called 'love' and when it disappears the relationship often dissolves.

Perhaps if we wait a little and be patient we will see another side of the person which is more acceptable and to our liking.

We can learn to 'love' that part of the person and try to ignore the other parts.
People are not disposable.


Written by : Velma Cook

 

[Somaiyah]

Salam,

The Koran, 30:21
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

 

[Rasema]

Salam,

The Koran, 30:21
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

That better convince me.

But I still think that one can live without a partner and not commit zina.I don't think anyone disagred on this:heated:+
:wa:

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

wa alaykum us-Salaam

While so, she looked at me and said that something happens when two people see eachother, it's the difference between humans and animals. I don't believe that "something happens" we are simply animals. :embarrass

your teacher is dead right..haven't you seen 2 people when they like each other, the way they look at each other

 

[Muhaba]

^I agree. something happens. our hearts are not made of stone. love is such a great feeling & when you love Allah and all of humanity, it is the most awesome feeling. It's like the heart is soaring in the sky. & if you fall in love with someone and he loves you back it is a truly awesome experience, one that can truly lift you, increase your confidence, even affect you at subconsious levels so you become different (in a good way) but don't even realize it, like you may become more confident etc.

if you've felt love you will understand it. everyone should try to feel it, even if it's only for nature, animals, all of humanity, etc. That's the caring type of love and it comes with loving Allah & all of His creation, caring for them, wanting them to be in comfort, etc.

there is also such a thing as chemistry. i never would've believed it if i hadn't felt it. like when you're near someone the sparks fly, it's truly amazing.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

That better convince me.

But I still think that one can live without a partner and not commit zina.I don't think anyone disagred on this:heated:+
:wa:

If you're young then wait a few years and then we'll talk. Allah will test you and life won't be so black and white except if Allah grants you firmness in faith.

 

[Rasema]

If you're young then wait a few years and then we'll talk. Allah will test you and life won't be so black and white except if Allah grants you firmness in faith.

Sisters, you don't get it. I don't want to have this feeling, ever!!!

Because I don't want to abandon my sister and mother. I have to support them,financialy.

I like this responce about firmness in faith. Everyone is the way they want to be and I want to be firm in my faith.

Thanks

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Sisters, you don't get it. I don't want to have this feeling, ever!!!

Because I don't want to abandon my sister and mother. I have to support them,financialy.

mashaAllah! may allah reward you for your good intentions :statisfie do note though that you still can have feelings for someone and look after your family. and yes, even when you are female.

having feelings for someone certainly does not denote abandoning your family, and if the one that you have feelings for expects that/wants that from you then they arent even worth your energy.

and btw, even if you dont want to have feelings for someone, that's exactly what may happen despite your despise for it...because well, the Hearts aren't in our hands.

I like this responce about firmness in faith. Everyone is the way they want to be and I want to be firm in my faith.

may allah grant you steadfastness in your faith as well. but it is still possible to have feelings for someone, and still be pious

im not trying to force my views down your throat, but trying to make you see it in a different light

 

['Abd-al Latif]

Sisters, you don't get it. I don't want to have this feeling, ever!!!

Because I don't want to abandon my sister and mother. I have to support them,financialy.

I like this responce about firmness in faith. Everyone is the way they want to be and I want to be firm in my faith.

Thanks

I'm not a sister.

Be patient until that comes because every human must be tested with this. Allah has created everything in pairs and there is wisdom behind this which you will only comprehend through experience. Knowledge alone does not suffice.

 

[Rasema]

I'm not a sister.

Be patient until that comes because every human must be tested with this. Allah has created everything in pairs and there is wisdom behind this which you will only comprehend through experience. Knowledge alone does not suffice.

I'm not sure if I understood you but when a human has other hardships you forget about yourself and your needs.

I can't say that I've never looked at someone and liked the way that person is, but it is not something you prefear over everything else. This "love" is the last thing you focus on,in my case. As for others well we're all different. This thread needs to get deleated,please.

Thanks.

92. Az-Zubayr ibn 'Adi said, "We went to Anas ibn Malik and complained to him about what we had met with on the part of al-Hajjaj. He said, 'Be patient. There is no time without the one following it being worse than it until you meet your Lord.' I heard that from your Prophet.'" [al-Bukhari]

93. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Race to good actions as fast as you can. What are you waiting for except delayed poverty, oppressive wealth, debilitating illness, dottering senility, a swift death or the Dajjal? Or are you waiting for an unseen evil, or the Last Hour? The Last Hour will be most bitter and terrible." [at-Tirmidhi]



you will surely journey (tarkabunna is actually tarkabūnanna, but the nūn of the indicative has been omitted because of two identical letters following one another, and the wāw [is omitted] because of two unvocalised consonants coming together), from stage to stage, state after state, namely, death, then life, then what comes afterwards of the states at the Resurrection.