were to find a wife?

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some of u may know my situation if not the i will tell u in short my mom died when i was a kid and then my dad got married so i have a step mom and she is not good with me so she wont look for a wife for me and i want to get married but i dont know what to do my life is a hell at home just want to get married and have my own life but as all of u know familys are important when getting married but what can i do when they dont do what suppose to be done ? i want to get married but im lost i dont know what to do and how can i do it on my own and find a wife and get married i mean were can a find a wife?:embarrass
 
What about other family members like uncles, aunties, older cousins? Maybe you could enrol their support? Or practising friends? Have you thought about any of them helping you?
 
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brothers and sisters

some of u may know my situation if not the i will tell u in short my mom died when i was a kid and then my dad got married so i have a step mom and she is not good with me so she wont look for a wife for me and i want to get married but i dont know what to do my life is a hell at home just want to get married and have my own life but as all of u know familys are important when getting married but what can i do when they dont do what suppose to be done ? i want to get married but im lost i dont know what to do and how can i do it on my own and find a wife and get married i mean were can a find a wife?:embarrass
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I Feel like i wrote that post! i can understand how your feeling i lost my mum as a kid also:( only difference is my dad did not remarry just a girlfriend she is from the last 8years and shes no use to the family so she is not good with me either infact you can say she broke my family apart. she has never been any help to us and no support so ya u do have to go it alone in everything you will come across in your life :( i really dont know where you could find a wife maybe at your local mosque?
 
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khalid84 said:
..just want to get married and have my own life
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Do u have a good job and can live separately with your wife ( as atmosphere is not in favour at home ) ? As already suggested , u may talk to your local Imam , relatives , friends and others.

Also keep praying to Allah . InshaAllah you will be blessed with a pious wife at the correct time :statisfie
 
zakirs said:
Could you elaborate bro ? '

how is your dad like , is he supportive ?

:salam
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my dad isnt that good with me but he said he can do anything is my step mom wont do it bcoz on our cultur womens go and ask for some 1 hands for there sons but if i find some 1 then my dad maybe help out.

Aliyah_86 said:
What about other family members like uncles, aunties, older cousins? Maybe you could enrol their support? Or practising friends? Have you thought about any of them helping you?
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yes i have anutie but she is in holand far away and for cousins and uncle they just playing with me the truth to be told they say something but never does it they just kinda playing with my feelings so no they wont help

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I Feel like i wrote that post! i can understand how your feeling i lost my mum as a kid also:( only difference is my dad did not remarry just a girlfriend she is from the last 8years and shes no use to the family so she is not good with me either infact you can say she broke my family apart. she has never been any help to us and no support so ya u do have to go it alone in everything you will come across in your life :( i really dont know where you could find a wife maybe at your local mosque?
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sorry to hear what you have been going on an ya maybe mosque but how i dont nothing about how it works?
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Do u have a good job and can live separately with your wife ( as atmosphere is not in favour at home ) ? As already suggested , u may talk to your local Imam , relatives , friends and others.

Also keep praying to Allah . InshaAllah you will be blessed with a pious wife at the correct time :statisfie
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job is ok but not as ok ok but when i get married i will get a good job as right know i cant if u know my old story the u may understand:embarrass
 
Seeing as your dad isnt really going to help and nor are your other relatives I think the best thing would be for you to go and speak to your local Imam. I'm not sure how it all works either, but just go to him and tell him your situation i.e. you want to get married and you want to find a bride the halal way and I'm sure he'll be able to help you insh'Allah. Or he might know some people who could help you with your situation.

I pray that Allah makes this process easy for you and insh'Allah you will get a pious wife. Make dua bro.
 
:sl: bro how about getting in touch wid some afghan people in your locality? do you know of any? it might be easier to go find someone from your own country.
may Allah provide for you, grant you a pious practising wife and a beautiful life Ameen.
i will pray for you inshaAllah.
 
I wish it was easy....where are they bloody hiding?

What we need to do is send a delegation of our biological sisters to infiltrate muslimah gatherings and meetings to scout potentials for us
 
how i dont nothing about how it works?
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Its simple bro , In muslim communities Imam is supposed to be the community link and sort of head.He mostly has information of who can help you with your problem.You just need to go to him talk to him and tell about your problem.I guess he would tell you what to do and may be provide you with some contacts.
 
Malaak said:
:sl: bro how about getting in touch wid some afghan people in your locality? do you know of any? it might be easier to go find someone from your own country.
may Allah provide for you, grant you a pious practising wife and a beautiful life Ameen.
i will pray for you inshaAllah.
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Thanks sis but i dont i want to get married with some 1 from same country sorry but its my decisions and i dont want that i want to get married to some 1 from deferent country :hmm:

Aliyah_86 said:
Seeing as your dad isnt really going to help and nor are your other relatives I think the best thing would be for you to go and speak to your local Imam. I'm not sure how it all works either, but just go to him and tell him your situation i.e. you want to get married and you want to find a bride the halal way and I'm sure he'll be able to help you insh'Allah. Or he might know some people who could help you with your situation.

I pray that Allah makes this process easy for you and insh'Allah you will get a pious wife. Make dua bro.
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ya i think that will be a goog idea but im kinda of a shy person lol dont know if i can do it:phew

zakirs said:
Its simple bro , In muslim communities Imam is supposed to be the community link and sort of head.He mostly has information of who can help you with your problem.You just need to go to him talk to him and tell about your problem.I guess he would tell you what to do and may be provide you with some contacts.
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yes bro as said above kinda of a shy person u know what i mean
 
There is no need to be shy bro.I am shy like you.Infact i dont go to places with too many people.I am so shy that i am scared of talking to sisters who aren't my relatives.

But yet its your duty bro because some of the responsible people who should be doing this aren't.Now just put up a brave face and talk to him,He wont mind at all.


Common bro i know you are brave.. go go go!
 
Be brave Bro. I'm shy too, but there are some things in life that need to be done regardless of whether you are shy or confident and you just have to suck it up and do it. This situation being one of them!

Insha'Allah it all works out for you!!!

As the bro above said...Go go go!!!
 
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Brother, that is a very difficult situation. I am nobody to give you an advice. However, I can tell you that it is all in the destiny. Allah decides it all. I'd say that you observe the commands of Allah, then I assure you that Allah will open dors for you. If you worship Allah in everything you do you will be too busy focusing on all the commands of Allah forgetting your difficulties. Then, you will be happy with yourself because Allah is happy with you.

Marrage is a solution but it can also turn out into a nightmare if things go wrong(not done in a halal way).Do you have a job? This question will be wrong: can you support your wife with your salary?
 
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Well my parents found mine, a road away :statisfie

Keep looking!!!

FiAmaaniAllah
 
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khalid84 said:
.. when i get married i will get a good job
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bro , I think u should wait for marriage till u get a good job ; else situation can become worsen. Keep fasting until Allah increases your rizk .

In my country , sometimes marriage proposals and giving consent to the proposals take place over phone. U don't have to go back to your home country for marriage . But let's pray that u become independent financially .
 
hmmm but in london u get a house from council and for for the job i know i can do it
 

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