were to find a wife?

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Rasema said:
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Can you tell us abit about the coucil?

Get a job first, then a house then a wifey.Trust me that is better.
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the council give u house if ur not working or working part time and money for food etc .

Muslim Woman said:
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U mean , as soon as u will get married , Council will give u a house ?? Are u sure of that ?
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not as soon but if u find a place they will pay the rent
 
the council takes 3 or 4years they put you on a list fancy waiting that long for your lovely wife lol
 
Sorry i'm replying from my mobile by mistake posted as anonymous Internet is not working at the momment so can't use my laptop.
Who is the other anonymous replying it's not me:(
 
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AnonymousGender said:
So what's the. Solution then ?what should I do I realy want to get married:embarrass
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Prophet pbuh advised to keep fasting those who want to marry but can't afford it .

Try to find a job ; do some business , keep praying . InshaAllah bad days will be passed fast :statisfie
 
I don't have any sisters. :hmm:

But if you go to your local Masjid, or perhaps friends.. Ask around! :D

What about your aunts? they say after your mom, the next person you can trust is your aunt. That was in a story from Hadhrat Jalaluddin Rumi. :X
 
Rashad said:
I don't have any sisters. :hmm:

But if you go to your local Masjid, or perhaps friends.. Ask around! :D

What about your aunts? they say after your mom, the next person you can trust is your aunt. That was in a story from Hadhrat Jalaluddin Rumi. :X
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Yes I have many aunts and I trust only one but she is in Netherlands she is like my mom after my mom she is the only one who grow us up till my dad got married again but she is not well she had a hearth Atack
some time ago but she is fine know allhamdullilah the thing is she does not want to make my father upset if she find a wife for me my father well get angry and my step mom won't do that and my dad can't do anything or won't let any one else do it and I'm stuck if I don't do anything my self no one else well and if I get married I will come out of the problems I'm having at home some of u know about it.
 
I don't have any sisters.

But if you go to your local Masjid, or perhaps friends.. Ask around!

What about your aunts? they say after your mom, the next person you can trust is your aunt. That was in a story from Hadhrat Jalaluddin Rumi.
Yes I have many aunts and I trust only one but she is in Netherlands she is like my mom after my mom she is the only one who grow us up till my dad got married again but she is not well she had a hearth Atack
some time ago but she is fine know allhamdullilah the thing is she does not want to make my father upset if she find a wife for me my father well get angry and my step mom won't do that and my dad can't do anything or won't let any one else do it and I'm stuck if I don't do anything my self no one else well and if I get married I will come out of the problems I'm having at home some of u know about it.
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Brother ..I suggested you get a job and then marry as many others said.I am sorry to hear about your aunt.Make sure you take super care of her.
 
zakirs said:
Brother ..I suggested you get a job and then marry as many others said.I am sorry to hear about your aunt.Make sure you take super care of her.
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but what if after getting married everything becomes good some say after every successful man there is a womens hand .
 
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khalid84 said:
but what if after getting married everything becomes good .. .
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If your step mom and dad don't want that u get married now , then surely they won't welcome your wife at thier home. As you are not legal yet in the country , possibly u can't find a good job and good home right now . So , be practical bro .

Have patience and keep fasting and praying .
 
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If your step mom and dad don't want that u get married now , then surely they won't welcome your wife at thier home. As you are not legal yet in the country , possibly u can't find a good job and good home right now . So , be practical bro .

Have patience and keep fasting and praying .
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i know sis but thats why i want to get married to get away from them and if i get married then i will get my visa iswell i didnt get married all this time bcoz i tought if i get married to some 1 they will think i marry them bcoz of visa lots of people do these kinda stuff but i cantimsad
 
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khalid84 said:
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i know sis but thats why i want to get married to get away from them and if i get married then i will get my visa iswell i didnt get married all this time bcoz i tought if i get married to some 1 they will think i marry them bcoz of visa lots of people do these kinda stuff but i cantimsad
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awww pet i know not everybody is like this. cheer up and don't think negative:) where are you living? so i take it ud leave the country but why?
 
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khalid84 said:
..lots of people do these kinda stuff but i cantimsad
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some have bad intentions like they get married just to get legal documents to stay in a country , then divorce wife. Surely it's bad. If u don't have any such intention , then may be u can marry a girl who is Brit citizen and can help u to stay there legally.


Offer Istekhara salat before getting married .
 
Muslim Woman said:
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some have bad intentions like they get married just to get legal documents to stay in a country , then divorce wife. Surely it's bad. If u don't have any such intention , then may be u can marry a girl who is Brit citizen and can help u to stay there legally.


Offer Istekhara salat before getting married .
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ya i know but who will marry some 1 like me:embarrass there maybe few and dont know were to find some who can accept me for how im and understand my setuation.
 
Brother ,

Thats the reason u need to get a job.Once you get a job you can marry easily.Without job finding a wife would be more difficult since her father would be apprehensive about how you would feed and take care of her.


Try some marriage agents or something , etc ? Did you try talking to imam ?
 
zakirs said:
Brother ,

Thats the reason u need to get a job.Once you get a job you can marry easily.Without job finding a wife would be more difficult since her father would be apprehensive about how you would feed and take care of her.


Try some marriage agents or something , etc ? Did you try talking to imam ?
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no brother as said b4 im kinda not kinda alot shy person:embarrass and i can manage it after i get married but when they give me work permit i will get a good job and they give u house if ur not working i know a person who did the same they council gave him a house after getting married .
 
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:wa: Marriage is a blessing and if you feel like you need to get married, then may Allah help you. Since you stated that it's going to be hard because you don't have much support from your parents, but do you know anyone you would like to marry? Maybe someone in your work place or someone you met? If you know someone, then you just go and talk to your father. InshaAllah he will understand. Just tell him that you want to get married and tell him to whom. But if you don't know anyone, then still let him know that you want to get married and he can help you. Maybe marrying someone from your country will make things easier. You two will be able to understand one another better. But if you don't want to, then there is someone you know from your area? And don't worry akhi :) there is surely someone for you :) And ya the other suggestion talking to the Imam, don't be shy ;) InshaAllah he will help you.
 

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