What would you ask a potential partner?

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Muraad said:
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I think you're over complicating things.
If you want to ask, go ahead.
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Will do. I wasn't asking anyones approval...:$

My point was simply that it's not a religious criterion that should automatically give someone the stamp of approval or automatic dismissal.
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I got it... Really. I was just thinking out aloud and was genuinley wondering why else people wouldn't follow/like those imams besides the other 2 reasons you aforementioned.
 
Rasema said:
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HA! Before. Well, this is what I call a Muslim family.It is what I desire. I'm sick of non-practicing people oround me.

Last post on this thread.
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ok. i understood you meant that he'd marry just before he left or something which would-well itd be hard to find a woman marrying a man and living with his wife iykwim

caller- you may ask that but dont base a definite answer on it. its a touchy subject and even if a female says shes ok with it, when jealousy comes in after marriage, she may just change her mind.

how would it feel wearing the white wedding dress knowing it'll match the fridge,cooker and washing mashing?
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its silver all the way these days.
 
caller said:
i would ask if she would mind a second wife!!
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Thats jst off'puttin to the max, seriously?
ur supposedly talking to a potential spouse n all u have on ur mind is 'if she would mind a co-wife'?

2each their own....
 
well sis i knw it sounds harsh but many marriages ive seen have broken down because the wife is not willing for the husband to get married a second time and if the wife is truly looking for a pious husband for the right intentions regarding marriage then its best its cleared up ! thats my view may others wont agree
plus i think marriage is not about catching a spouse with a false appearance . everything should be set straight before hand esp when living in the west!
 
Danah said:
honestly ........ I will ask the following in the same order:

1. how many times you pray in masjid?
2. do you like to fast nafl?
3. what is your family to you (parents & sibling)?
4. what is the most thing made u upset?
5. what do you expect from me?
6. what do you think I expect from you?
5. what is your perspective of the other religions
*since I have the interest on the other religions*
7. how much time during the day you like to use computer
*supposing by default that he will be a computer Geek as me :-[*
8. what are the cultures that you like to know more?
*have the interest as well*

and thats all.........feel pity for him :-[



Edit: OMG Amat al Wadud ;D you will need a week to get answers to all those questions ;D
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Subahanallah,

As a woman, your concern should only be about his religion and his character..if a lady is telling me about her interest in other religions, i wouldn't even think twice. such ppl has such weak understanding about islam. is this how an islamic woman behave? imagine a woman asking Muhammad SAW this qn...

peace...
 
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caller said:
i would ask if she would mind a second wife!!
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you should marry a divorced/widow then? i find that they are the ones who usually dont mind a polygamous marriage and/or are expecting co-wives...



EDIT: i dont know if i've posted this before, but it would be worth asking, "what does it mean to you to be a father"...and "how often do you voluntarily fast?"
 
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oh so only divorced women are ok with second marriages gulp so i gota get 4 divorced then !! lol
to be a father means to take responsiblity of the childs welfare and upbringing and to fulfill the rights he has over me plus having mercy on him.
and fasting nafl well 6 shawal, aashoora, arafat, and rarely 13,14,15
 
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to be a father means to take responsiblity of the childs welfare and upbringing and to fulfill the rights he has over me plus having mercy on him.
and fasting nafl well 6 shawal, aashoora, arafat, and rarely 13,14,15
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i wasn't aiming those questions at you...i just posted them in light of the thread topic...
 
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caller said:
well sis i knw it sounds harsh but many marriages ive seen have broken down because the wife is not willing for the husband to get married a second time and if the wife is truly looking for a pious husband for the right intentions regarding marriage then its best its cleared up ! thats my view may others wont agree
plus i think marriage is not about catching a spouse with a false appearance . everything should be set straight before hand esp when living in the west!
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ya it dose break down but that is not the womans fault its her right to seek a divorce from her husband if she believes the reason for him wanting to marry another woman is simply because she feels that he might not be able to do justice with her and her children. many times in polygamy marriages when both women have children from the same man usual the children do not get on at all ive heard one such story the other day one family is having an awful problem there is a big backbiting problem going on between the both children of both the women. i think seriously people have to think twice if they want to do polygamy i find that it certainly do work though if you marry a widow as a second wife
 
Abdul Qadir said:
Subahanallah,

As a woman, your concern should only be about his religion and his character..if a lady is telling me about her interest in other religions, i wouldn't even think twice. such ppl has such weak understanding about islam. is this how an islamic woman behave? imagine a woman asking Muhammad SAW this qn...

peace...
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And who said that religion is not at my first priority? you jumped to the end and picked the comparative religions issue skipping all other things!! subhanAllah

Maybe I should update my qualifications list and add to it the following, since there are so many things changed in my life from the last year when I posted here last time:
1. how many juzz of Quran you memorized?
2. Are you planning to be a hafidh? and in how many months/years?
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As for why I am interesting in knowing about other religions its like some people interested in studying other type of sciences, I like to know about others' faith. I dunno about you "and don't even care of how many times you will think about it" but for me, everyday I know something new about other ways of life, I keep thanking Allah many times a day that he blessed me with Islam and with being guided in such a pure, clear, obvious way of life.

If you want to know how white really looks like, you gotta know how does black looks like so you may compare.

Above all that, how you are supposing to give Dawah if you don't know what others believe in??
 
Danah said:
If you want to know how white really looks like, you gotta know how does black looks like so you may compare.
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You are not supposed to dabble in other religions lest we might find ourselves entangled in it...the Quran has already mentioned enuff of the Jews and Christians already...thats enuff for dawah...if u wana use the bible to argue with the christian my sister, the arguement will go on forever...
 
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You are not supposed to dabble in other religions lest we might find ourselves entangled in it...the Quran has already mentioned enuff of the Jews and Christians already...thats enuff for dawah...if u wana use the bible to argue with the christian my sister, the arguement will go on forever...
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I think there is a difference between debating and mere asking questions, and in both cases that's up to me at the end.
Anyways thanks for your opinion and sorry for the late reply.
 
Danah said:
I think there is a difference between debating and mere asking questions, and in both cases that's up to me at the end.
Anyways thanks for your opinion and sorry for the late reply.
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Well, ok...whatever u do...its ur freedom..but the sunnah of Muhammad and his companions is not to read bibles and debate with christians...Salam...
 
Abdul Qadir said:
Subahanallah,

As a woman, your concern should only be about his religion and his character..if a lady is telling me about her interest in other religions, i wouldn't even think twice. such ppl has such weak understanding about islam. is this how an islamic woman behave? imagine a woman asking Muhammad SAW this qn...

peace...
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i dont think she was asking your approval to begin with...do you think its any of your business what sisters want in a husband...? ridiculous.
 

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