Would you marry someone who has kids?

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I am genuinely curious to know how many people who be open to marrying someone who has children already.

This is partly inspired by brother Rashad's post.
 
..It would be very awkward if the childs father was in regular contact with his ex wife regards to when he could see the child and various other issues..This would put me off immediately....

I wouldn't rule it out though. It depends on whether there's a genuine connection between potential spouse or not...
 
i wouldnt mind but it really depends on the age of the kids.

easier to live with kids that are older.
 
Troubled Soul said:
..It would be very awkward if the childs father was in regular contact with his ex wife regards to when he could see the child and various other issues..This would put me off immediately....

I wouldn't rule it out though. It depends on whether there's a genuine connection between potential spouse or not...
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yes that dose usually happen the ex husband keeps in contact in some stories ive heard that the woman returned to the ex couple of years down the line and divorced her current husband due to the child having a dislike to the man who's not his dad and being constantly reminded of that can be hard also so i don't blame any man who dose not want to marry a woman with kids. its understandable for me anyway. and Allah knows best there hearts.
 
Troubled Soul said:
..It would be very awkward if the childs father was in regular contact with his ex wife regards to when he could see the child and various other issues..This would put me off immediately....

I wouldn't rule it out though. It depends on whether there's a genuine connection between potential spouse or not...
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That's a legitimate concern.
Of course there are cases where the father is not involved at all. :hmm:
 
Would depend on the situation for me and it might even lead me to that but i dont think i would go out looking for a women to mary who already has kids :)
 
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This is not a reason to not get marry someone who u really want to share ur life... :happy:
 
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I'm not really sure. I've not thought about the question before, but there are lots of issues to consider. The age of the children. Your role with the children, would you have as much say with them as their real parents. Would the children even be living with you?

hmmm....something to ponder me thinks
 
I love kids, mine or not...but at the same time, I am too jealous to function. My husband having been in contact with another woman before me would kill me, let alone him being in regular contact with the mother of his children after our marriage.

I have nothing against it. It is just something I, from related experience, could not bare to do.
 
I love kids but would never marry a man who have kids from his previous marriage because it might often create tensions in the house like for example, you may have not done anything while your steps-children might create a misunderstanding between you and your husband.
 
I know someone, who has married someone who has 4 kids (there mother passed away), alhamdulilah shes managed to bring them up for 18 years now.
 
I wouldnt wanna marry someone who has kids. I LUVVV children but I dont think im ready to raise children as soon as i get married. When you marry someone who doesnt have any kids you can sort of grow into it. Start slowly with just the two of you learning how to take care of your husband first. And then you could have the first baby and learn how to take care of them. Further along the way you learn how to raise them properly using didactic methodes and stuff. Its an easy way, in stages, you learn how to deal with a family. When you marry someone with kids you do not have the time to learn and grow before these skills are needed. As a woman you are supposed to take care of yourself, your husband and children. You are responsable for the phychical en emotional wellbeing of the family. Thats a huge responsibility that shouldnt be taken lightly.

And besides I wanna be a child for a little bit longer after I get married! :D Travel and stuff.

Salaam
 
#thats why the prophet recommended that virgins should marry virgins because they are more playful.
 
Troubled Soul said:
..It would be very awkward if the childs father was in regular contact with his ex wife regards to when he could see the child and various other issues..This would put me off immediately....

I wouldn't rule it out though. It depends on whether there's a genuine connection between potential spouse or not...
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That can be troublesome. Especially if the ex-husband has issues on when he wants to see his kids. Such as he'll see them for a time then go a few months without seeing them, or is just unwilling to work around anyone else's schedule.
 
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Yes i wud if Allah (swt) wills for me to.

It also depends on the age of the kids (prefer sml kids) as u can train them ur way, & it also depends on the situations.

WAllahu 'Alam.
 
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It's a bit off topic perhaps but some things mentioned here have made me wonder about something..

It was said that it's recommended for virgins to marry virgins. Does it mean that when in my past life I've made some mistakes concerning this matter, I don't have the right to have a virgin wife? I'm also thinking that would it be kind of not right for me or somewhat injust of me to look for a virgin wife in the future while myself I've made some mistakes with one girl in the past while not being really a muslim yet.
 
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Hell no!!
I hate kids:raging:, I don't want kids even for myself. They are so annoying :raging:we can't predict when they're gonna cry and what do they want.
 
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