To be happy with a woman is to understand her first

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Yes, if you threaten to beat wife she will probably laugh or say bring it on. As wife probably has a little anger to take out on the man too.

If you threaten to beat brother or father then they think twice. Only do if you are capable of doing so otherwise things can get messy.

Would you seriously beat her father or brother up when she doesnt obey you?? :heated: Dude...

 

[Ali_008]

^^I'm just wondering where did this thought of beating the father/brother come from to the original poster???

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Yes, if you threaten to beat wife she will probably laugh or say bring it on. As wife probably has a little anger to take out on the man too.

If you threaten to beat brother or father then they think twice. Only do if you are capable of doing so otherwise things can get messy.

im just imagining what my parents would do if my husband actually did beat them up/threaten them. im telling you the chances of them actually taking that crap are so unlikely its making me laugh. no joke. my aprents would probably thump him in return.
i dont think someone 20/30 years older would stand for that. not a chance.

 

[waqas maqsood]

# Stop thinking women are either backbiting or putting on Henna when they come together:heated:Or backbiting while putting on hennamg:

Arrghhhh... I hate the smell of henna! +o(


But anyway, I came on this thread very late and pretty lazy to read all the posts, in order to be happy in a marriage/relationship, I don't think understanding is the main problem or issue (because that should be common sense) but the fact that putting up with each others bad habits and being there for each other through thick and thin.. In this, both parties are happy.

A womans relation is different to her husband, father, brother and sons.

Oh and excuse me if I have derailed this topic.

in my case, I am very laid back and when my sister or mother are telling me off, I have this filtering ear and all I do is nod every 30 sec.. works for me :statisfie

 

[syilla]

:salamext:

maybe i should ask my husband to come and teach how to clean up the house...because he is very good at it.

He always tell me to look after the kids and let him do the house chores. Especially during those weekends.

Don't ask me how he did it...because i don't know how he has all the energy.

Sometimes he even cook for the family...huhu

 

[bewildred]

:salamext:

maybe i should ask my husband to come and teach how to clean up the house...because he is very good at it.

He always tell me to look after the kids and let him do the house chores. Especially during those weekends.

Don't ask me how he did it...because i don't know how he has all the energy.

Sometimes he even cook for the family...huhu

Salam Sylla,

I think we've got something in common. Ain't it great to have such a wonderful hubby????

It all depends on the way women educate their boys. It all began before the Islamic era (Talking about our societies). When women had baby girls they went like "urrrrghhhh" +o( and when they had boys, it was the fetival for weeks in the villages. Unfortunately, this ignorant behavior still exists nowadays. Certaine families raise their sons like kings and overprotect them. They already grow with a slight feeling of superiority over girls.

In my humble opinion, it all begins with the primal education of boys. My mother in law (That 8I love tremendously) was very ill. Her sons helped with everything. They know what it is to take care of a family and to work outside. They all are great husbands. Allah bless their hearts.

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Salam Sylla,

I think we've got something in common. Ain't it great to have such a wonderful hubby????

It all depends on the way women educate their boys. It all began before the Islamic era (Talking about our societies). When women had baby girls they went like "urrrrghhhh" +o( and when they had boys, it was the fetival for weeks in the villages. Unfortunately, this ignorant behavior still exists nowadays. Certaine families raise their sons like kings and overprotect them. They already grow with a slight feeling of superiority over girls.

In my humble opinion, it all begins with the primal education of boys. My mother in law (That 8I love tremendously) was very ill. Her sons helped with everything. They know what it is to take care of a family and to work outside. They all are great husbands. Allah bless their hearts.

Yeah about that...where in the world did you find them? And where can I get one of those, a good one haha!

Yeah i agree with you. My little brother, not so little he is 17!, doesnt do ANYthing seriously. I have to make up his bed, clean his room, pick his clothes off the floor and dust of and everything. My mum has raised him as a prince, he doesnt do chores, he doesnt work. Only good thing he does is go to school. The rest of the time hes on the PC, playstation or watching TV or hanging out outside. Talked to my mum about it and she says: he doesnt know how to do chores. Well: people actually have the ability to LEARN!
Tried leaving his room as it is but then mum started cleaning his room. Felt guilty about it so started cleaning hes room again so mum doesnt have to do it...:raging: seriously...
Do you know when i seriously had enough of him. When he once was hungry and asked me to make him potato chips. Not the ones you actually make yourself out of real potatos. Noo the deep frozen ones!:raging:
How hard is that??

Seriously...im gonna stop now feel very angry suddenly

Salaam

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Arrghhhh... I hate the smell of henna! +o(


But anyway, I came on this thread very late and pretty lazy to read all the posts, in order to be happy in a marriage/relationship, I don't think understanding is the main problem or issue (because that should be common sense) but the fact that putting up with each others bad habits and being there for each other through thick and thin.. In this, both parties are happy.

A womans relation is different to her husband, father, brother and sons.

Oh and excuse me if I have derailed this topic.

in my case, I am very laid back and when my sister or mother are telling me off, I have this filtering ear and all I do is nod every 30 sec.. works for me :statisfie

What if one of them asks you to repeat what she just said. Then your busted seriously. Or when she asks you like: Have you seen a cow flying by lately?
And you go::happy: AGAIN busted!!

 

[bewildred]

Well, al hamdullah, sister. I was very young when we married. When he proposed, I did the Istikharah and I had a good sign in my dream. It's been twelve years we're together. He was my inspiration Islam-wise.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

^MashaAllaah thats soo beautiful man ..Alhamdulilah your marriage is well sis InshaAllaah and that it remains that way .

 

[Raaina]

Yeah about that...where in the world did you find them? And where can I get one of those, a good one haha!

Yeah i agree with you. My little brother, not so little he is 17!, doesnt do ANYthing seriously. I have to make up his bed, clean his room, pick his clothes off the floor and dust of and everything. My mum has raised him as a prince, he doesnt do chores, he doesnt work. Only good thing he does is go to school. The rest of the time hes on the PC, playstation or watching TV or hanging out outside. Talked to my mum about it and she says: he doesnt know how to do chores. Well: people actually have the ability to LEARN!
Tried leaving his room as it is but then mum started cleaning his room. Felt guilty about it so started cleaning hes room again so mum doesnt have to do it...:raging: seriously...
Do you know when i seriously had enough of him. When he once was hungry and asked me to make him potato chips. Not the ones you actually make yourself out of real potatos. Noo the deep frozen ones!:raging:
How hard is that??

Seriously...im gonna stop now feel very angry suddenly

Salaam

My brother is just like this. My brother does absolutely nothing for himself, my sister is nearly as bad, but my mom still runs around after them and if mom isn't home and I am, my brother is asking me to fix him food, make him a bath, fetch him towels, etc etc. :heated:

Going slightly off topic, was there every a thread about understanding males? mg:

 

[Alpha Dude]

To be happy with a woman is to understand her first.

This means it's impossible to be happy with a woman - zAk.

 

[Uthman]

Check this out as well: http://www.islamicboard.com/manners...-prophet-muhammad-husband-extroardinaire.html

And this one: http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-purification-soul/134292505-what-did-you-say-honey.html

:nervous:

 

[★ηαѕιнα★]

Check this out as well: http://www.islamicboard.com/manners...-prophet-muhammad-husband-extroardinaire.html

And this one: http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-purification-soul/134292505-what-did-you-say-honey.html

:nervous:

Prophet Muhammad [صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم] understood women. He knew that women are created physically beautiful and attractive, but also possess volatile, easily-aroused emotions, resulting in natural behavioral shortcomings, which their husbands will just have to learn to take in stride throughout their lives. He knew that patience, a wise selection of words, and restraint from losing his temper, are mandatory qualities for a husband to possess, in order to enable him to effectively deal with his wife’s intermittent bouts of irrational thinking and emotional instability.

Yeah well...I think you brothers have "behavorial shortcomings" as well:hmm::nervous:

 

[bewildred]

To be happy with a woman is to understand her first.

This means it's impossible to be happy with a woman - zAk.

loooooooooooool too funny dude!!! ;D

 

[happy]

How man thinks

Why should I remind you that “I love you?” I already told you once.


I’ll do anything for sex; even commit to you for life.


I hate arguing with you. I’d much rather find a compromise.


I love long hair. Sorry, but I do.


When you speak softly, I can’t help but listen.


I need to be told “no” sometimes. Not a lot, but every now and again reminds me that you are expensive.


Please don’t ask me how you look unless you’re willing to trust my answer.


My eyes notice other women a lot more when you are upset with me.


When you’re happy with me I can’t help but want to please you.


If I don’t feel I can make you happy, it makes me feel less than a man.


I expect you to be ready when I pick you up.


Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy.


I'm scared if I let a woman inside my heart, she'll take advantage of me.


If you can’t stand up to me when I’m a brat, you’re too weak for me to open up to when I’m upset.


Sitting quietly next to me after you’ve made me a meal is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free ticket. You’ll be surprised how quickly I can forgive.


You did something hurtful. If I never bring it up, I’m considering leaving you.


I don’t read minds. Remember, I’m not a woman.


You may know fashion, but I wish you’d dress to please me, not other women.


If I’m losing my hair, it’s not funny. Would you like me to joke about your weight?


When I talk to you about golf and you act bored, it would be nice for you to remember all the times I’ve listened to you talk about what is important to you.


The woman I love is easy to please. She appreciates the effort I put into making her happy, even if I get the details wrong.


You look hot in a dress.


I hate being told what to do when I don't ask for help. It makes me feel like you're my mother.


If you sleep over, I might eventually marry you, but I'm less motivated.

 

[zakirs]

I disagree not all men are alike .. Isn't it uncle Woodrow


Anyway isn't this thread a bit tooo off-topic now ?

 

[Zico]

1. When a woman talks a lot and you had enough of it and you want to make her stop , so how do you do it?

Duck-tape her mouth?

2. When they complaint
Man always seems to think that when a woman complaints it is as if the world is going to end. “So what I’m going to do??? I can’t fix that!!!!”

Easy, complain back! That would do it.

3. They just being emotional.

I don't cater to emo's thank you very much.

4. When she is being disobedient.

Kick her out of the house?

5. Shows your emotion.

See #3

6. They need support

Give her a bear hug!


I'm joking btw But thank you for this!:statisfie

 

[Cabdullahi]

Yeah about that...where in the world did you find them? And where can I get one of those, a good one haha!

Yeah i agree with you. My little brother, not so little he is 17!, doesnt do ANYthing seriously. I have to make up his bed, clean his room, pick his clothes off the floor and dust of and everything. My mum has raised him as a prince, he doesnt do chores, he doesnt work. Only good thing he does is go to school. The rest of the time hes on the PC, playstation or watching TV or hanging out outside. Talked to my mum about it and she says: he doesnt know how to do chores. Well: people actually have the ability to LEARN!
Tried leaving his room as it is but then mum started cleaning his room. Felt guilty about it so started cleaning hes room again so mum doesnt have to do it...:raging: seriously...
Do you know when i seriously had enough of him. When he once was hungry and asked me to make him potato chips. Not the ones you actually make yourself out of real potatos. Noo the deep frozen ones!:raging:
How hard is that??

Seriously...im gonna stop now feel very angry suddenly

Salaam

i think there might some exaggeration in that because i have half a dozen sisters and there's no father around but i always make my specific meals of high protein

 

[Predator]

I think this is an important point since I’ve met a few couples who let his woman have her own way in so many things. At the end of the day the man can’t controlled her. Everytime they argue the woman surely will wins.

This Reminds me of the below hadith

Sahih Bukhari, The book of Belief, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 28:

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas:

The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."


Prophet Muhammad was very specific about why many women will end up in hell. The reason is because many women don't appreciate their husbands!. How good is a woman who doesn't appreciate her husband, and doesn't care about him enough, that if he does something bad to her, then she'll remember it for him for the rest of her life? How good is a woman who doesn't remember much of the good that her husband does for her?

Women of that kind are not accepted in Islam. Women in Islam must honor their husbands and seek with their best ability their comfort. A woman who doesn't appreciate her husband is in reality treating him as a working slave for her and for their kids.

Islam does not generalize against women. The sayings above were very specific and were only talking about a group of women, and not all women