Would you marry someone you meet online?

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I would obviously want to meet her in person before making that big decision, but if she is the right one, then yes.
 
I would too but only after a few meetings with mehram present. cos people behave differently in person to online. and she might not like you in person cos you have a really bad laugh or something lol or you have other bad habbits that they find anoying.
 
I already did it to :hiding:

Infact the first person I used to live with I met online and we were together for 7 years.

But there are many dangers involved online now, wasn't as bad 10 years ago like it is today :statisfie
 
^ two words : gold digger



she out there fo yo monies ;D
 
The Ruler said:
I just want to marry an uncharitable guy so I can put his money to good use (i.e. charitable causes).
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This is your purpose of marriage. What if he refuses after getting married? You can't disobey your husband.
 
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The Ruler said:
I just want to marry an uncharitable guy so I can put his money to good use (i.e. charitable causes).
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that's brilliant but you'll have to compete with other gold diggers and i think you wont make it so become a silver digger this is better for you if you suffer from lack of confidence and poor self esteem that sort of stuff
 
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This is your purpose of marriage. What if he refuses after getting married? You can't disobey your husband.
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His money is rightfully mine. If he doesn't share, he'd be oppressing me. Besides, if he's being uncharitable and doesn't give to charity, I do believe I hold the right to set him straight. Islam before the man, where Islamic obligations are concerned.

Abdullahii said:
that's brilliant but you'll have to compete with other gold diggers and i think you wont make it so become a silver digger this is better for you if you suffer from lack of confidence and poor self esteem that sort of stuff
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I'm not competing. I can't find competitionblehbleh.
One can't possibly predict the future. Perhaps some convulsed event might make silver a more worthwhile element than gold?
 
The Ruler said:
His money is rightfully mine. If he doesn't share, he'd be oppressing me. Besides, if he's being uncharitable and doesn't give to charity, I do believe I hold the right to set him straight. Islam before the man, where Islamic obligations are concerned.
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Ok but there is a limit which you can't cross.
 
Say you do find someone. How would you go about asking for their address so you can send your parents over? You can only ask for their address if they fully know you and you know them i.e they've spoken to you online. There has to be a starting point which leads you to marriage and this starting point maybe you talking to a non-mahram which is not allowed.

In a situation (without internet) you observe how a person behaves and you send your friend to ask for the address.
 
Yes I would marry (though unlikely) However I wouldn't certainly search for a spouse from the net. (I'd also be very cautious so I wonder how anyone will be able to gain my trust :D)
 
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I actually met my husband online. Neither one of us was searching for a spouse. This was before I converted and we connected through talking about Islam. I had friends that were Muslim and was curious in learning more.

Before we were married he met my family and I met his a couple of times, and we knew each other for about 3 years. I decided to convert by my own choosing and it just so happened we married about 6 months after that. We decided that what we were doing wasn't right and may lead to great sin, so the logical step was to get married. Our families at first thought it was a little soon I was 19 and he 21, but now they are very happy for us. It's been tough because we do not live in the same state yet, due to college and various other reasons.

InshAllah we'll be moving together this summer.

I wouldn't necessarily recommend meeting someone online or going online to search for a spouse because of the dangers. You never know who you are talking to, it just so happened that it worked out great for me and my husband. We have been married just over a year now and are happy with our decision. We often talk about how crazy it was that we met online and how well it worked out for us.
 
The Ruler said:
His money is rightfully mine. If he doesn't share, he'd be oppressing me. Besides, if he's being uncharitable and doesn't give to charity, I do believe I hold the right to set him straight. Islam before the man, where Islamic obligations are concerned.



I'm not competing. I can't find competitionblehbleh.
One can't possibly predict the future. Perhaps some convulsed event might make silver a more worthwhile element than gold?
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How is his money rightfully yours, islamically? His Islamic responsibility is only to provide you with your needs, luxuries are optional and recommended though to some extent. But "his money is rightfully yours," thats called a free-ride and unheard of in Islam. Of course unless he gives all of his money to you, which no sensible man would do.

"If he does not share, he'd be oppressing me." Islamically, thats not a right of a wife over his husband: to share his money. I am not sure if anyone would want to marry you if you tell them that them not sharing their money with you would be taken as "oppression" by you.

Firstly:

The rights of the wife which are hers alone:

The wife has financial rights over her husband, which are the mahr (dowry), spending and accommodation.

And she has non-financial rights, such as fair division between co-wives, being treated in a decent and reasonable manner, and not being treated in a harmful way by her husband.

1. Financial rights

(a) The mahr (dowry). This is the money to which the wife is entitled from her husband when the marriage contract is completed or when the marriage is consummated. It is a right which the man is obliged to pay to the woman. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]

The prescription of the mahr demonstrates the seriousness and importance of the marriage-contract, and is a token of respect and honour to the woman.

The mahr is not a condition or essential part of the marriage-contract, according to the majority of fuqahaa’; rather it is one of the consequences of the contract. If the marriage-contract is done without any mention of the mahr, it is still valid, according to the consensus of the majority, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“There is no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched (had sexual relation with) them, nor appointed unto them their Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage)” [al-Baqarah 2:236]

The fact that divorce is permitted before consummation of the marriage or before stipulating the mahr indicates that it is permissible not to stipulate the mahr in the marriage-contract.

If the mahr is stipulated, it becomes obligatory upon the husband; if it is not stipulated, then he must give the mahr that is given to women of similar status to his wife.

(b) Spending. The scholars of Islam are agreed that it is obligatory for husbands to spend on their wives, on the condition that the wife make herself available to her husband. If she refuses him or rebels, then she is not entitled to that spending.

The reason why it is obligatory to spend on her is that the woman is available only to her husband, because of the marriage contract, and she is not allowed to leave the marital home except with his permission. So he has to spend on her and provide for her, and this is in return for her making herself available to him for his pleasure.

What is meant by spending is providing what the wife needs of food and accommodation. She has the right to these things even if she is rich, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis” [al-Baqarah 2:233]

“Let the rich man spend according to his means; and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allaah has given him” [al-Talaaq 65:7]

From the Sunnah:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Hind bint ‘Utbah – the wife of Abu Sufyaan – who had complained that he did not spend on her: “Take what is sufficient for you and your children, on a reasonable basis.”

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: “Hind bint ‘Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyaan, entered upon the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man who does not spend enough on me and my children, except for what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. Is there any sin on me for doing that?’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Take from his wealth on a reasonable basis, only what is sufficient for you and your children.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5049; Muslim, 1714)

It was narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon:

“Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner” (Narrated by Muslim, 1218)

(c) Accommodation. This is also one of the wife’s rights, which means that her husband should prepare for her accommodation according to his means and ability. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means” [al-Talaaq 65:6]

http://islamqa.com/en/ref/10680/wife money

Off topic though. I went into this detail because if all Muslimahs start thinking like you, we guys will never get married, especially in this economic situation. I hope you change your wrong opinion after this evidence.
 
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already married...so i don't have to answer :p

But i have a few friends that successfully married to one (online)...huhu
 
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One of the differences in meeting a person online verses having a marriage arranged is that the arranged marriage is vetted on your behalf and the online arrangement allows you personally to vet the person. If you have a persons Name, DOB, SSN (Social Security Numbers) (In the United States one of the primary purposes is to track individuals for taxation purposes and now to apply for credit), National Identity Cards in Europe because they usually use debit cards, Korea has the KSSN. So with technology a person can be vetted. (Schools attended, Degrees acquired, Criminal Background, Family, etc.) In some cases vetting a person online maybe more complete. What family or Imam actually does a Criminal background or go beyond excepting a persons word? Arranged marriages are more informal and requires a family to vouch for character.

Yeah it has you thinking.

Extreme caution is advised using the Internet for any physical meetings that do not require your Imam and family’s involvement.

If a person is a revert the things you did before accepting Islam is forgiven, Insha Allah. Not repeating those old dunya habits that have nothing to do with Islam is important in not repeating the past sins.

It appears that when you begin these posts without any guidance in Islam and questions are generalized it opens the door for Muslims to openly admitting unknowingly conduct outside the pale of Islam.

Before posting reply’s take the time to review the information you give to this Islamic Forum

Insha Allah

Allahu ‘Alim.
 
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