Love and marriage

Love is a great thing, but forgive me for sounding superficial, love won't pay the bills. Do you have the means to provide for her? Does she have a job? Not trying to patronize you here.
 
Boaz said:
Love is a great thing, but forgive me for sounding superficial, love won't pay the bills. Do you have the means to provide for her? Does she have a job? Not trying to patronize you here.
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If your in Love the bills and payment is the last thing in your mind lool, also if your in love why would you worry and stress about money, I rather get married even if I was poor rather than losing the love of my life for money!!

Iam not being racist or streotyping you but why are jewish materialistic ? Everytime i notice jewish either worry about money or land and correct me if im wrong
 
Materialistic? Oh no, this isn't the Jew in me talking and it is not fair of you to call us materialistic. It's not about the money, and if I had a choice between being with the love of my life and being wealthy, I'd take the love of my life. What I was saying was, does he have a job or a way to provide for her? I certainly wouldn't get married at such a young age.
 
Boaz said:
Love is a great thing, but forgive me for sounding superficial, love won't pay the bills. Do you have the means to provide for her? Does she have a job? Not trying to patronize you here.
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Money is not a problem I can assure you this
 
Just Curious said:
A very simple question

If a guy and a girl are in love, or they are simply interested in marrying each other, then what is the Islamic rules for this.

Just to give you an indication of what kind of love, and I use that carefully, these two people are in.. they will never be able to leave each other.

Her family will have no problems, his father on the other hand is very unlikely to accept given the girls parents are divorced, and this is looked at in a bad way.

What are the options for this young couple, who are willing to sacrifice everything, but are fully aware of the importance of parents in Islam.

Needless to say, I am this young boy, and I've made up my mind regardless, as I can't ever be with any other girl, and can never see her with any other man. Of the four things, I can't marry her for her family status or wealth, as her family has a bad status and her wealth is equal to mine. From this family was born an angel, who is religious and absolutely beautiful, the two qualities that I makes me want to make her my wife.

It would be fantastic if you guys could tell me what you know about this particular situation. Thank you
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Yuo took this straight out of the movie "Jodha Akbar" or "Mohabbatein" didn't you?
 
Boaz said:
Materialistic? Oh no, this isn't the Jew in me talking and it is not fair of you to call us materialistic. It's not about the money, and if I had a choice between being with the love of my life and being wealthy, I'd take the love of my life. What I was saying was, does he have a job or a way to provide for her? I certainly wouldn't get married at such a young age.
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Oh.well is alright is just that i noticed that jewish people like jobs, houses, lands i mean just look at what they are doing now at Palestine they building houses in a country that they don't own and they killing people for land ? land is nothing. Sorry if I have offended you or your people but iam just saying what i am seeing around the world.
 
It's alright, apology accepted. And please let's save the politics for another thread. I do like jobs because I value a work ethic. More than that, I value creativity.
 
Why is there so much drama wen people want to get married...Seriously wats wrong wit our Ummah?:exhausted
 
Brother, Islam permits you and the girl to get married assuming that she is a muslim too. But obeying your parents is also an important message of Islam. My personal opinion would be that you speak to your parents and if they dont agree at all then you can convince them on taking an Istikhara for marriage. If the girl is the one Allah has chosen for you, you and your parents will get the answer through Istikhara. But its important to remember that once Istikhara is taken, the message you get from Allah is supposed to be followed, that is what we are told.

As far as the intensity of your relationship is concerned, if we keep in mind that Islam does not permit a man and a woman who are not directly related, to mix with each other, such strong feelings wont develop at all. anyhow, now that you do feel so strongly for the girl its advisable to try your best to convince your parents, take Istikhara and then follow what Allah swt will guide you towards.

And one thing you mentioned was that the two of you can not live without each other, brother, its only Allah who knows what is best for you so you should pray and seek His help. Allah knows best.
 
Dear Brother

I so understand your situation...to want to marry the one you love...U can love her this feeling is not given to everyone i met ppl in life who say I never loved i never culd feel love...us blessed but one thing make sure from my own life experince tell u this never let this person be ur everything 1 of all Always Allah and then others...bcs when 2 ppl love each other to much they forget ofthe world of everything...we pray and think and rememeber Allah but not with full heart...just be in the way of Allah perform ur prayer of Istikhara and InshAllah everything will be right...will remember u in my prayers inshAllah
 
Marjona said:
Dear Brother

I so understand your situation...to want to marry the one you love...U can love her this feeling is not given to everyone i met ppl in life who say I never loved i never culd feel love...us blessed but one thing make sure from my own life experince tell u this never let this person be ur everything 1 of all Always Allah and then others...bcs when 2 ppl love each other to much they forget ofthe world of everything...we pray and think and rememeber Allah but not with full heart...just be in the way of Allah perform ur prayer of Istikhara and InshAllah everything will be right...will remember u in my prayers inshAllah
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Thank you akhi
 

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