Is crying Good for you?

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It is a widespread belief in the western world that crying is therapeutic and also the converse, that failure to cry is a danger to our health. Randolph Cornelius (1986) systematically analysed the content of popular articles on weeping in the press from 1850 to 1985 and found a major theme was that crying was considered an important means of releasing physiological tensions; if it wasn't released, it would find an outlet in some other way, such as affecting the person's body and possibly causing disease. 94% of articles recommended letting tears flow.
Psychotherapists and counsellors from nearly every school or persuasion regard crying during the process of therapy as constructive rather than destructive, though there may be some exceptions to this general rule such as depression, some neuropsychological conditions and manipulative crying. Sometimes a patient enters the therapy office for the first session and may cry with relief within minutes in the presence of the therapist, who is effectively a total stranger. Often patients who cry during sessions whilst talking about subjects of crucial emotional importance to them, spontaneously say how much better they feel or may report in the next session how they were upset at the time but felt much better afterwards. Whereas in normal life people may try to steer others away from crying, in therapy the psychologist often steers into crying.
From a biological perspective three kinds of tears are distinguished (Lutz 1999); "Basal tears" are continuous and lubricate our eyes; "reflex or infant tears" occur when we chop onions or receive a blow to the eye; "emotional tears" are psychologically caused. Frey, Desota-Johnson, Hoffman & McCall (1981) present experimental evidence of the difference between the biochemical composition of emotional tears compared to irritant tears. The protein concentration of emotional tears was 24% greater than irritant tears. The complex proteins in emotional tears were those involved in the human stress response. Frey et al proposed that tears performed a sort of physical catharsis, expelling toxins from the body.
A type of physiological catharsis was proposed by Efran & Spangler (1979). Following a period of sympathetic nervous system hyperactivity, crying is part of a parasympathetic rebound effect in which tears serve to discharge arousal.
Cornelius went on to conduct research into whether the belief in the value of tears was justified. In his review of the literature on crying and catharsis (Cornelius 2001) we are left more perplexed than before. When people are asked in interview (Cornelius 1981), questionnaire (Lombardo et al 1983) or through diary keeping (Frey 1983, Kraemer & Hastrup 1986), they report feeling relieved, more relaxed or in a better mood after crying. This held over a 29 nation study of crying (Vingerhoets & Becht 1997). However, when Cornelius reviewed experimental studies of crying, which usually take the form of showing a sad movie and taking measures of crying and mood, something different was found. There is very little evidence of physiological or mood benefits after weeping, sometimes the reverse.
So there is a dilemma - people universally report crying is beneficial but the laboratory says something different. Perhaps this simply reflects the difference between the laboratory and real life. The laboratory requires experimental stimuli that are objectively similar for all subjects and the 'weepie' movie is ideal. Stimuli need to be applied within a controlled time and place. In real life the stresses are personally meaningful and build up over days, weeks, months or sometimes years. They spontaneously come to a head; the person cries. This natural and personalised event is difficult to capture and study and the laboratory may simply be failing to come to grips with 'the real thing'.
On the other hand, it has been suggested that during crying the person experiences raised levels of physiological arousal. When the arousal returns to previous levels, it is experienced as feeling better (Kraemer & Hastrup 1988). In other words, the person does not really feel better but only feels better by a sort of 'contrast effect' with their distress during crying. In this scenarios all the self report interviews could be nothing more than self delusion.
So is crying good for you? - as long as you don't do it in the laboratory.
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http://www.emotionalprocessing.org.uk/tears/is crying good for you.htm
 
Pls feel free to express if you feel some sort of relief after a good cry...

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Whats makes you make this thread sis? Haha cry sometimes when i feel like it alhamdoellilah. Do feel relieved after. But crying enough doesnt do it for me, need my prayers and duas as well. I was wondering whether it is permitted to cry? Have an islamic book that states that crying is not encouraged in islam. Was wondering if anyone had some knowlegde about this.
 
I am curious as to whether folks feel relieved after a good cry. I don't know if people can just will themselves into tears? I think one has to be in a heightened emotional state.. I would like to know if crying them brings relief from that?

I would be interested in the Islamic stance as well, but I was always under the impression that spontaneous crying during prayer isn't discouraged..

and Allah swt knows best

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I am curious as to whether folks feel relieved after a good cry. I don't know if people can just will themselves into tears? I think one has to be in a heightened emotional state.. I would like to know if crying them brings relief from that?

I would be interested in the Islamic stance as well, but I was always under the impression that spontaneous crying during prayer isn't discouraged..

and Allah swt knows best

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No no i didnt mean the ones during prayer. I ment the crying when facing trouble, a test from Allah swt. I cant make myself cry when I want to btw.
There has to be a good reason for it, sadness caused by some sort of situation or so.
 
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No no i didnt mean the ones during prayer. I ment the crying when facing trouble, a test from Allah swt. I cant make myself cry when I want to btw.
There has to be a good reason for it, sadness caused by some sort of situation or so.

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I can't imagine something so natural and spontaneous being discouraged.. unless it is for no apparent good reason.. as in someone who is acting and whining... I mean tears were created for a reason, and I was amused to know that there is a different composition in tears that come from grief to those who come from trauma or onions.. etc..

and Allah swt knows best

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I cry when i am really tired and/or when someone is constantly annoying me. It builds up and i burst out crying. It makes me feel better. :) I cry even more when people keep asking me why you're crying. lol
 
I do not see how crying is discouraged in Islam? Is not crying the pure emotion that erupts from the depths of one's heart regarding the pitiful state of oneself? Of being stuck in life? I mean yes we can be hopeful from God for receiving salvation but the Islamic stance is that indeed mankind is in loss. I use that as my starting point and see oft crying as a means of getting closer to God. Being able to recognize that indeed man is in loss from every aspect, birth, knowledge, understanding, via crying is the only natural pristine selfless emotion towards God that I have seen in universe. Crying, tears and melancholy puts my existence in perspective to me: mortality and erosion from the sands of time as generations will pass by and no one will remember I once existed.

Crying also allows me to put disparity in world in perspective. Crying before God is the only way to talk to Him regarding what one sees around himself: murders, genocides, poverty, fragility of life, winter, spring, flowers, thorns, peacocks, lizards ...

Or unless one wants to take the stance that crying is an act adopted by us as part of evolution for clearing ones eyes? Then I do not have anything to say to that person.
 
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Nope i never felt relieved after crying matter of fact i don't see it as a way to relieve stress or anything else as a matter of fact ......
 
Wa alaykum salam,

I think crying can be a form of heartfelt intuitive 'dua' to Allah, where you beg for what you want without having (or even being able) to put what you want into words.
 
Wa alaykum salam,

I think crying can be a form of heartfelt intuitive 'dua' to Allah, where you beg for what you want without having (or even being able) to put what you want into words.

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that is interesting.. can it act as a substitute for du3a? sometimes one is to weak to open their mouth to ask Allah swt for relief and the best their beaten body can offer are tears of resignation...
 
Crying really really helps, it takes this weight off your shoulder, and i love the feeling post crying,

But i will never try to cry on purpose just to realease my stress , i need a geniune reason,

But do we have to raise our hands to the sky to make a dua,
Because im in bed lying down, tears rolling down, you make a silent dua
will this not be accepted

Is their a verse in the quran, saying to call Allah swt , standing, sitting lying
 
Wa alaykum salam,

Hmm, I wouldn't quite use it as a substitute. I believe the sunnah way is to put your requests into word, right?

However, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to make dua in words at those times when you are able but then allow yourself to be overwhelmed with crying straight after. You can sort of just 'pause' that moment and stay suspended with tears in your eyes and have full attentiveness toward Allah while pleading to Allah from the depths of your heart.
 
I haven't actually cried in about 15 years....family won't allow. But when i did, all it did was clear my sinuses...:p
 
well when im taking alot of tension about something i cry and cry after crying for hours the tension finishes and i no longer think anymore. i actually become stone hearted for a long time:p
 
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crying definatley releases tension and it is this case more so when dua is involved.
 
i find it hard to cry...i just don't know how to do it .. :(
 
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i find it hard to cry...i just don't know how to do it .. :(

Its not your fault. Its the jokingcells within your body that put a stop to those tears. Like a sheperd stopping his sheep from running away. ;D
Sorry.. just couldnt stop myself from commenting on that. ;D
Have you tried watching a very sad movie? You now like that verryyy sad ones about war or something?
Or about a mom loosing her child. Those tend to make you cry a lot.
 
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i think moderate crying does release some stress. especially when emotion keeps building inside you and you need an outlet. but when i cry too much, all i get is a headache and swollen stinging eyes.
crying is not worth it unless it is to Allah SWT..if not then it is an extremely useless self torture task.
 

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