Need advice: Friend unsure about her engagement?

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good decision....
about the other thing dont be too certain though, shaytaan is always there, it can take just a few kind words...
 
amani said:
good decision....
about the other thing dont be too certain though, shaytaan is always there, it can take just a few kind words...
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Sure. But you really consider that a work of shaytan? That is just human nature and nothing happens without the will of Allah.
 
the sister is engaged..it is not down to human nature if she is talking to someone who is not her mahram and possibly developing feelings for him. that is a disaster and the work of shaytaan
 
agree i dont know why your getting involved in an ingaged womans buisness. don't try and say the shayytan wont play his tricks because he will. it might be that you wont fall for her but women are different humans entirely and are more inclined to get attached quicker because of there sensitive nature. you might end up giving her all the wrong signals and making her confused

the second thing is you dont know the other guy just because she is going to do arranged marriage dose not mean its a bad thing. if she gave any hint that shes being foced into it then she should get in touch with another sister. dont just assume.

i kinda agree with alpha dude too, women are kinda like that maybe she wants you and she giving you hints
 
The point I'm trying to make is...
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the point we are making is...
A human being is hanging on by the skin of their teeth. If they let go they'll fall off the cliff. I want to help this human being. I see that the human being is a girl. So what I just back off because she's a girl, make no contact, and let her fall? Because there's no one around. If there was I'd certainly find a female to help her up. I'm just trying to help her. I haven't seen her in 3 years. The only advice I'd ever give to her would be through text. Letter writing
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since when did doing somthng haram be ok to help someone which you are not even sure it will be help
 
That it is a good advice. If he is interested in her he should offer her security on the level that
she currently has.
 
Gabriel Ibn Yus said:
That it is a good advice. If he is interested in her he should offer her security on the level that
she currently has.
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Why did you say it was very manly? Lol. Am I supposed to take that as a compliment? Not that I mind, just saying.
 
theStig said:
If she's giving me hints, then what am I supposed to do about that?
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She is not allowed to consider two proposals at the same time. She can only consider your proposal, should you desire to marry her, after she explicity says no to who she has atm.

If she really is trying to give you hints, it's better you just ignored.
 

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