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Hi everyone,

My name is harmony, I am a French woman living in London. I have been interesting in Islam for over 2 years now. But still lost!!
My background is quite complicated. My father is a Muslim, but my parents divorced when I was only a few month, and he didn’t take care of me. I am now 28 years old and have not met him yet, but we talk by phone for over a year. So I had some bitterness against him and Islam in general, I (with the help of my mother) mixed this up when I was teenager. In my mother side they are Jewish and not really open mind apart of my grandmother.
My partner is Muslim but doesn’t practice for now; I have always thought that is part because of me. When we met, we spoke a lot about his religion, culture; and I spat all my rage out, I remembered him remain still and smiling. His answer was that I might more believer than him and one day I will realize it. Those words calm me down. He has taught what he knows about Islam since then, with no rush and no pressure...he knew that what I needed.
2 years ago, I went in Paris to a mosque wanted to learn more about Islam, it was a hard experience, and felt reject again by Islam.
Now I live in London where being Muslim seems easier than in France, I am willing to learn.....but again the doors look closed....so here I am trying to find a mosque, Islam centre or just someone wiling to help me discover this religion that I feel being MY religion since the beginning...
Thanks for your help
 
It is quite a journey you are traveling. While the path does not yet seem clear as you travel you will discover that you had always been Muslim. You are now on the path of returning home.

It is both an enjoyable, but scary path. each moment of beauty seems to be followed by moments of fear and doubts. But learning becomes the key to overcoming fears. As soon as you see you are making a return to home, the path will become more easily seen. It is not a very complex path and actually very simple to follow.

Perhaps the biggest fear at this moment is a fear that you will become alienated from family and friends. Although that does sometimes happen, it need not be the case. Many times family will become supportive once they see it is leading one to a virtuous and happy life.

Read and learn all you can and never forget to pray often for guidance.
 
Dear Sis,

It's unfortunate that your father didn't take care of you for a long time.It's also wrong to close the doors to someone investigating Islam.

While it is obligatory that all attributes of all Muslims are Muslim, outwardly it is not always thus. Similarly, not all the attributes of all infidels have to be infidel and to arise from their unbelief. So too, all the attributes of all sinners do not always have to be sinful and have arisen from their sinfulness.

Feel free to ask any question about Islam.The people in this forum will answer politely.

Peace!
 
Assalamualikum wr wb dear sister Titmony! and welcome to the forum! :smile:

you have come to the right palce to learn about Islam sister; just ask any question you want in the appropriate boards and inshALlah you will recieve many insightfull answers; have a look around the boards and there should be a lot about the basics of islam anyway

this is indeed your religion from the beggining sister and how blessed you are to be of a muslim father; he may not have looked after you when you were young and he may not keep regular contact with you now, but your connection with Islam [your feeling that this is what you should be] is laregly due to him? and trust me, once you know indepth about the immense blessing of being a Muslim, you'd be ever greatfull to ALlah for giving you that Muslim heritage

here is a link that will help you find a mosque in your area:

see mosque-finder. com

keep trying the mosques also sister; you need to find one with a sisters gathering and attend the gatherings to learn about Islam and i'm sure you'll make good freinds there too...

see you around!

salaam!
 
Hi titmony :)


I hope that you will check this link in french;

http://www.islam-guide.com/fr/


It will give you good information on Islam and why it is the truth.

If you have more questions after this, please do ask :)



Also, remember to keep a good connection with your dad, and why not ask him if you can meet with him in real life?
 
titmony said:
Now I live in London where being Muslim seems easier than in France, I am willing to learn.....but again the doors look closed....so here I am trying to find a mosque, Islam centre or just someone wiling to help me discover this religion that I feel being MY religion since the beginning...
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Peace, harmony, and welcome to the forum,

If it may help, can I ask whereabouts in London you live? Perhaps we may then be able to find where the local mosque/Islamic Centre in your area is for you.

May Allah make things easy for you and guide you, and us all. Ameen.

Peace.
 
First, thank you so much for your answer!!!

Woodrow: You are so right, and that what scared me so much. I can hear this voice inside telling that I am Muslim, that somehow, even after all the trouble have been through, Allah is here for me. Everything will end up well. And I am healthy i have a home foods in my fridge. I am happy for that.
My biggest fear is not my family. I made a choice when I fell in love with my partner. I lost my family and some friend and I have never regretted this. My biggest fear is my partner himself. He is Muslim but doesn’t practice. And when we speak about Islam I can feel his fear. He is afraid of me converting. He will accept it enjoy it but he is scared that I become too extreme. In France it is not like here so it gives trouble, it will be long to explain.

Selsebil : For my father, I was lucky to have a great step father, and it made me stronger :-)
I know they were wrong but still it hurts when you hear they is no place for someone like you. but I am sure i ll find some great people.

Abu Abdullah: About knowing the immense blessing of being a Muslim, I have always noticed that Muslims seem calm allay and in our stressful society, I wandered why, I think i am starting to know...
For the mosque, I have a lot near my home. But to be honest I am scared. Might be my first step in a new life or I might be rejected again. But I have found 2 mosques which have a service for new Muslim (east london mosque and the central mosque of lodon)

Qotad : Thanks for the french links. and for my dad, I hope one day i will find the strength

Insaanah : I leave in east london, near stratford eastham, and i ve got my oyester can i can travel if needed.

Thanks again !
 
titmony said:
For the mosque, I have a lot near my home. But to be honest I am scared. Might be my first step in a new life or I might be rejected again. But I have found 2 mosques which have a service for new Muslim (east london mosque and the central mosque of lodon)
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Peace, harmony,

Apologies for taking so long to reply.

You're right there are some mosques nearer to you, but if you are interested to get advice, support and information for someone interested in Islam, East London Mosque will be the best.

New Muslims

As more people find out about Islam, some decide to convert. The East London Mosque provides advice, support and friendship. Weekly sessions are also provided so that they can learn to pray, read the Qur‘an and perform the other duties that Muslims are required to carry out.
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Source.

What I would do though, is to phone them first, and arrange an appointment. Explain that you would like to get some more information on Islam, and may consider reverting and is it possible for you to come and speak to someone that can spare some time to help. Then one of the imams may either arrange a time themselves, or may arrange for one of the knowledgable sisters to speak to you, or they may even say just pop in at any time. I think they will probably have literature that you can take away and read too.

When phoning, try to avoid the prayer times (displayed on the website), as it's possible the phone may not get answered then.

The contact details, if you need them, are here: http://www.eastlondonmosque.org.uk/contact

Update: I just spoke to someone in East London Mosque, and they said that every Saturday at 2pm they have a small circle for people who are not Muslims but are interested in Islam. And you just turn up for that, no need to phone in advance. And after that finishes there are opportunities for you to ask questions on a one to one basis.

I hope that helps a little bit inshaaAllah (God willing), but let us know if there is anything we can do to help some more.

Peace.
 
If you need any help being convinced, or if you want us to help figure out what you should say to your partner, please don't hesitate to ask.
 
titmony said:
Hi everyone,


. His answer was that I might more believer than him and one day I will realize it.
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...and his answer is perfect..
..have u read Kuran about Queen of sheiba(Bilqis) and Prophet Suleiman?
she was sun worshiper, but she had something inside her, after knowing the truth she bowed;
and see "namroid' King at the time of Prophet Ibrahim(aleyhi salaam)he i.e king urged with Prophet while he was convinced to the truth-but rejected.

so keep on searching not for a day or two ....be sure Allah is all Wise and Akram L akrameen.

Allah Maak.
 

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