My brother's problem in getting married

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In my family, only I and my brother are reverts to Islam. I have no problem practicing my religion because my husband is also Muslim and we live in America. But my brother lives in India and is alone to face the hostility and criticism from my parents and relatives. There's no way that my family members in India are going to help my brother to find a wife. And that too, a Muslim wife.

My brother has been looking for a Muslim girl to marry on his own. But since he is new to the religion and because he is so shy, he has been unable to find a Muslim girl he can marry. He has been asking me to find a girl for him in the US but I don't think I can be of much help to him.

What do you suggest my brother should do to solve this problem? Where can he get help or advice in this matter? He lives in Bombay.
 
Maybe he should go to a masjid in bombay and ask the imam to keep an eye out for him. Most masjid's offer marriage services anyway.
 
sister flame u always forgot ur 2nd bro, i mean tigerkhan....LOL....i am just joking but i mean i am also in the same situation, even my family is not non muslims but non coeprating. and i know in indo-pak without support of family, and if a person is muslim also, its very difficult to find some good partner. i am also in this trouble so how can i suggest u some solution....LOL... if i have some solution i can marry 3 years b4.
but seriously, i know how much its a severe problem, i am not aware of indian environment but i had decided to move Sydney and my sister is also there and maybe if i find some good person i will marry there. i have no choice in pakistan.
about ur bro, blv i cant say something, i know its difficult situation. but what do u think marrige is not more easy in west than indo-pak. bcz in indo pak ppl only marry once in life and its too difficult (tradition and culturalism), but i think in west its easy procedure. so try some good girl from america.
 
Salahudeen said:
Maybe he should go to a masjid in bombay and ask the imam to keep an eye out for him. Most masjid's offer marriage services anyway
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but bro problem is most of time these girls are not much educated, otherwise educated and well setteled families always prefer a boy with strog family background...and most of the times these matters are done by families elders. so without family support, u know its very difficult for a single individual. there is v.strict and problematic culture and traditionalism.
 
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I would recommend him to visit the IRF center at Dongiri. A lot of people revert through this organization so there's a high chance that he may find his match there. Also, they have a marriage bureau to help people find pious soul mates:statisfie
 
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tigerkhan said:

but bro problem is most of time these girls are not much educated, otherwise educated and well setteled families always prefer a boy with strog family background...and most of the times these matters are done by families elders. so without family support, u know its very difficult for a single individual. there is v.strict and problematic culture and traditionalism.
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Brother why does a wife need education for if she is going to be a house wife. Unless you want your woman out working. If you mean islamic education then you can teach her yourself.
 
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Brother why does a wife need education for if she is going to be a house wife. Unless you want your woman out working. If you mean islamic education then you can teach her yourself.
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For many reasons. Firstly, knowledge from which comes understanding. The children could greatly benefit and learn from the mother's knowledge, she could help them in their homework and exams (school takes over 12 years of a child's life, having an effect on their future). Depending on her education, perhaps even more.

As for the brother teaching his wife Islam, let's hope the wife would have the will and intention to learn and seek knowledge after marriage, insha'Allah.
 
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Why shouldn't a house wife seek education?
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I did not say she shouldn't seek an education, by all means she can if she wishes, however I don't see why a man would reject a woman because she's not educated in a particular field. Would you reject a pious woman because she doesn't have a degree?


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For many reasons. Firstly, knowledge from which comes understanding. The children could greatly benefit and learn from the mother's knowledge, she could help them in their homework and exams (school takes over 12 years of a child's life, having an effect on their future). Depending on her education, perhaps even more.

As for the brother teaching his wife Islam, let's hope the wife would have the will and intention to learn and seek knowledge after marriage, insha'Allah.
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I agree, but when I was talking about education I meant in a particular field at degree level, I don't believe that's an essential requirement in a potential spouse, that she should have a degree in a particular area. Would you reject a pious woman because she's not educated?

To further elaborate, is an education required by a woman to carry out the duty of being a wife? Does she need to know how to do Math, Science and ICT in order to be a good wife? I'm not saying she shouldn't have a education, she can if she wants, however I don't think it's an essential requirement that she knows how to do Math etc.

As for helping the kids with homework then that can be done by any person who went to primary/secondary school and achieved good grades. And in the west nearly ever person went to primary/secondary school.
 
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Salahudeen said:
Brother why does a wife need education for if she is going to be a house wife. Unless you want your woman out working. If you mean islamic education then you can teach her yourself.
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bro one thing is "tarbeeat" and that can never be acquired from schools but home. esp by parents.
 
^ atleast i had this wish bcz u know there will be alot of diffrence bcz of this.
 
In my humble opinion

Its said by many that the first type schooling a child recieves is from the mothers lap.

My mother is orginally from pooch in kashmir pakistan and she lost her own mother at a very young age she recieved no formal education but as a mother myself
born and brought up in the west with a MSc too, I can truly say she gave the most important education in life. My mother is a true blessing. SubhanAllah
 
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tigerkhan said:
about ur bro, blv i cant say something, i know its difficult situation. but what do u think marrige is not more easy in west than indo-pak. bcz in indo pak ppl only marry once in life and its too difficult (tradition and culturalism), but i think in west its easy procedure. so try some good girl from america.
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Difficult in India and difficult in America. Dunno what to do. :hmm:
 

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