I don't think it is, though it may be tied to one's response to religion.
I know you are on the Catholic Answers board, and honestly I run into more conflict there than I do here. So much in fact that I haven't been on it in nearly a year. But I don't think that has anything to do with religion because I've never experienced any animosity from either Catholics or Muslims in my real world experience, even though we've engaged in some heavy theological discussions and joint ministry efforts.
What I've run into is that in real life my biggest conflicts have come from others who happened to be close in beliefs to mine, but who were not content unless mine actually mirrored theirs precisely. Thus, not one's actual views, but intolerance of others who hold differing views (to whatever degree) seems to be the trigger. And then there is personality, that some are more acerbic than others in the way they communicate. (Those "thinly veiled insults", sometimes outright and unveiled, that Sol mentioned.) Given that human history illustrates religious views are often held deeply and strong, this way of relating to others with whom we might disagree can compound an already volatile situation.
I think a good word for Christians is: "Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." (Romans 12:17-18)
Perhaps a similar good word for Mulims would be: "O you who believe; people should not mock other people, for these may be better than they are." (49:11) Unless Muslims understand this to be applicable only to other believers? Is there a word on how Muslims are to treat non-Muslims?
Peace Gene,
Good points. It is true the closer people are the greater the animosity. Perhaps it is because we all have what we consider to be self evident beliefs. When somebody agrees with us part of the way we assume they actually already know what we believe to be true and they are deliberately rejecting it. this causes blood pressures and tempers to rise. Sort of like most of us are stricter with our own kids than we are on the neighbors kids. Oddly in some ways this hostility can be seen as a misguided love.
Regarding this paragraph:
Perhaps a similar good word for Muslims would be: "O you who believe; people should not mock other people, for these may be better than they are." (49:11) Unless Muslims understand this to be applicable only to other believers? Is there a word on how Muslims are to treat non-Muslims?
Surah 49 is directed specifically as to how Muslims should treat Muslim. but it may not be a bad idea to to extend the thought towards all people as much as possible. For specific treatment of non Muslims we do have similar wordings. Such as:
From surah 60, Yusuf Ali translation:
1. O ye who believe! Take not my enemies and yours as friends (or protectors),- offering them (your) love, even though they have rejected the Truth that has come to you, and have (on the contrary) driven out the Prophet and yourselves (from your homes), (simply) because ye believe in Allah your Lord! If ye have come out to strive in My Way and to seek My Good Pleasure, (take them not as friends), holding secret converse of love (and friendship) with them: for I know full well all that ye conceal and all that ye reveal. And any of you that does this has strayed from the Straight Path.
2. If they were to get the better of you, they would behave to you as enemies, and stretch forth their hands and their tongues against you for evil: and they desire that ye should reject the Truth.
3. Of no profit to you will be your relatives and your children on the Day of Judgment: He will judge between you: for Allah sees well all that ye do.
4. There is for you an excellent example (to follow) in Abraham and those with him, when they said to their people: "We are clear of you and of whatever ye worship besides Allah. we have rejected you, and there has arisen, between us and you, enmity and hatred for ever,- unless ye believe in Allah and Him alone": But not when Abraham said to his father: "I will pray for forgiveness for thee, though I have no power (to get) aught on thy behalf from Allah." (They prayed): "Our Lord! in Thee do we trust, and to Thee do we turn in repentance: to Thee is (our) Final Goal.
5. "Our Lord! Make us not a (test and) trial for the Unbelievers, but forgive us, our Lord! for Thou art the Exalted in Might, the Wise."
6. There was indeed in them an excellent example for you to follow,- for those whose hope is in Allah and in the Last Day. But if any turn away, truly Allah is Free of all Wants, Worthy of all Praise.
7. It may be that Allah will grant love (and friendship) between you and those whom ye (now) hold as enemies. For Allah has power (over all things); And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
8. Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.
9. Allah only forbids you, with regard to those who fight you for (your) Faith, and drive you out of your homes, and support (others) in driving you out, from turning to them (for friendship and protection). It is such as turn to them (in these circumstances), that do wrong.
Note ayyat 8 especially--- essentially that says we are to treat non Muslims in a similar manner to how we treat Muslims. Providing they are not waging war against us because of our Faith.