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I feel so empty and so low. Waited two years and he didn't save a penny, maybe I'm at fault for accepting these things as I thought I was being unreasonable. Two years ago I prayedmy heart out to Allah to marry and this brother came into my life. I don't understand life I just don't know what to do anymore
 
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I feel so empty and so low. Waited two years and he didn't save a penny, maybe I'm at fault for accepting these things as I thought I was being unreasonable. Two years ago I prayedmy heart out to Allah to marry and this brother came into my life. I don't understand life I just don't know what to do anymore
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As'Salaamu Alaaykum

follow brother Hamza's advice.

Yes it is true we all make mistakes, but remember it may be a test from Allaah to let you realise that you must accept what has happened and that if its not for you, you then must trust in him and move on.

Think about it, has anything of this gotten you closer to Allaah? you say you feel empty, this is the month of ramadhaan, most importantly you should be thinking about the forgiveness and mercy of Allaah.

If insha'Allaah when the blessed month (ramadhaan) is over, speak to your parents to speak to his and then see how it goes, if hes interested and so on. but untill then trust in Allaah and use your time to gain emaan.

Wake up for tahajjad salaah and ask Allaah for what ever you want, be sincere, but also have trust in him that whatever happens is for the best. And if you dont recieve what you want in this life, he may give you what you need instead, and may grant you it in the next life, he may also be testing your patience, testing you. but try not to give up.
 
My parents have never even looked for me for marriage as they don't know anyone. An Allah is really testing me he really is. I know Allah tests those he loves but I'm struggling.
I have taken a week unpaid off @ work for Allah last ten days so I an concentrate on Islam but is all getting too much for me
 
Sister, why don't you try the website pure matrimony, it only has practising men on there who pray etc this is what I heard. It wouldn't hurt if you check it out, just make sure your family know and put your wali's contact details down. http://www.purematrimony.com/
 
All men are the same. Even on martrimonial sites. They have wrong intentions and privacy talking to about ten girls at the same time. I give up.
 
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All men are the same. Even on martrimonial sites. They have wrong intentions and privacy talking to about ten girls at the same time. I give up.
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As'Salaamu Alaaykum

I disagree, not all men are that way. In a big world there are bound to be good brothers and sisters out there who are worth being married to, we cannot make a judgement based on a past experience. Along with bad people there are good in every society. If you think like that imagine the brothers who think all sisters are like that, all the same, fact is not everyone is the same, keep in mind Allaah says he gives hidayah to whom he wills, so when they are guided by Allaah they will never astray, then you as a muslim have to trust in him, the most wise, the most loving, the all-knower. If you dont put trust in Allaah and ask him to grant you good out of something, how are you going get something like that? How do you just pass an exam without revising for it? you have to work hard, either you pass or fail. this dunya is like a big short exam, Allaah says if you follow his guidance you will never astray.

I agree with brother Salahudeen because he mentioned its a good site, you should maybe try out the site, and its not like your not going to meet the person, or if you dont like him or if hes a bad person you have to marry him, the decision is entirely up to you, and ofcourse in the right way with a wali involved.

I dont want to sound harsh but ive said it in my previous posts, one who gives up is a loser. If you want this, work hard for it, if you want a loving husband who fears Allaah and obeys him then do your part in finding such a brother, follow the steps that Allaah commands you, Allaah places barakah in the good steps you take.
 
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All men are the same. Even on martrimonial sites. They have wrong intentions and privacy talking to about ten girls at the same time. I give up.
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Ok how about marriage services that masjid's offer? I know here the masjid has marriage events, you could turn up with your father or brother maybe?
 
my family do not care about me. my brother is so concerned in his own marriage forgets he has a sister in her mid twenties and not married! my father also doesnt care if he did he would of sorted some thing out but he hasnt. so lets just say its down to me and i want to keep it halal which i was so keen on this brother as i prayed my heart out to allah two years back and he came into my life and he lives a few hours away from me. only thing is istikhara came out positive on his side (i shall do mine next week) but we seem to have so much differences.

allah knows best.
 
me and brother live in the same house and we never speak to each other. we have never ever seen eye to eye ever so we just never speak to each other. shame.
 
Well you need to get out there and start looking in places that are made for marriage, it won't happen by itself, you have to get out there and make it happen and make du'a at the same time.

The site I gave you has got practising men on there who also want to keep things halal, it's affiliated with Al Kauthar, it wouldn't hurt if you just checked it out would it? They make you swear by Allah that you're praying etc.
 
yeah but u need your father's details dont u. he wont know im on it so i dont want to lie.
 
anonymous said:
yeah but u need your father's details dont u. he wont know im on it so i dont want to lie.
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You don't need your fathers details but I recommend you inform them that you're looking because the brothers will want to talk with your wali at some stage, It's free to register and search on there in Ramadhan so why don't you register and check a few of the profiles to see if you see any compatible people.
 

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