I've honestly just had enough!
Sometimes I feel like what Is the point?!
Ill give you an example: I have been looking for a job for over a year now and finally got offered a job but the location wasn't feasible so why did Allah grant my dua when he knew I couldn't travel to work everyday?
Secondly I've been making dua to get married for 6 years. 2 years ago I had a rishta through, istikhara came out positive and do did general duas! We were meant to marry next year but it's been called off due to differences. Now please don't reply by saying he wasn't good for me because why did Allah bring him in the first place and why did istikhara and my general duas about this brother come true??
Asalaamu alaikum. In life we will not always get what we want and when we want it. Life does not work that way. Sometimes we have to go through trials and hardships and bare them with patience and eventually we will get what is best for us even though we may not know think it at the time.
I personally have know of many people who went through hardships and struggles due losses to health, wealth and family, and as hard as it was for them they kept continued to endure their hardships with patience and sincere dua. In the end their patience, perseverance and dua paid off and they ended up getting so MUCH more than they could of ever hoped for.
I know the following 3 points may sound like cliches but they are the best possible advice I can give to you. If you follow to these points to the best of your ability then the end result will be very good and you will be victorious:
1.
Patience: Never question Allah and say "Why". Accept the decree of Allah. If he is testing you then surely he is wanting good for you. He only tests those he wants the closest to him. So see it as a blessing in disguise and be patient. Patience is the best attribute to have but it is a learnt attribute. Allah is with those who are patient. So as long as a person is patient then Allah is with them.
2.
Keep striving and persevering: Keep striving and persevering in whatever you are wanting to achieve or whatever hardship or difficulty you are going through. In your case you need a job and want to get married then keep applying and looking for potential partners, and do not give up. As long as you keep making full effort then Allah will open doors for you as he opens doors for all those who continue to put in hard work and make full effort.
Your efforts will not go to waste as long as you are sincere and your intentions are right. So research, ask around and look at all your options and keep trying hard and striving in whatever you are wanting to acheive. Repentance also opens doors for a person in this life as well as helping one in the next life. So increase in repentance and continue to make sincere Dua, begging and crying to Allah if you can particularly in the latter part of the night after Tahajjud prayer and Allah will open doors for you that you never imagined.
3.
Put your hopes, trust and reliance in Allah: Know that we should always put our full trust in Allah as well as make effort as this is the best combination to recieve the best results in everything we do in this life and the next. We should acknowledge that everything that happens in our lives only happens from the will of Allah for all the power and might in the universe belongs to him.
So be patient, keep making effort and working hard, striving and persevering and put your hopes, trust and reliance in Allah. Know that he is there for you and does have something better in store for you. He created you so surely only he knows what is best for you so entrust all of your affairs unto him and you will be content and happy no matter what trials and hardships you go through in life.
Consider the following:
"The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited
island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him.
Every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming.
Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to
protect himself from the elements, and to store his few possessions. But
then one day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little
hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky.
The worst had happened , everything was lost. He was stunned with grief and
anger. "God, how could you do this to me?" he cried. Early the next day,
however, he was wakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the
island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was here?" asked the
weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal," they replied.
It's easy to get discouraged sometimes when things appear to be going badly.
But we shouldn't lose heart, because God is at work in our lives, even in
the midst of pain and suffering. Remember, next time your little hut is
burning to the ground, it just may be a smoke signal that summons the grace
of God.
For all the negative things, we have to say to ourselves, God has a positive
answer for it. Pass this on, you never know whose life may be in need of
this today. Believe me, there are some days when we all feel that our huts
are burning.
Hope that helped somewhat. If you need anymore help or advice with anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.
May Allah give you the best in this world and the next. Ameen
dear sister.
