advice needed

['Abd-al Latif]

she is niqaabi sister and she is exactly what i am looking for. i message her but she is not replying either to my message or friend request.

You came to do and feel all that just by seeing the niqab? What if she's a gremlin underneath? (I don't mean this in a rude way)

Bro, if you want to marry then you can't go around looking for a wife on FaceBook. You're saying she's perfect for you because she wears niqab? Bro you haven't seen her yet!

If you want to marry her then get to know her by meeting her at her home with her parents – not by adding and harrasing her on FB.

Ask a sister in your family or a sister or wife of a brother you know to contact her – as long as it's a sister and not you. At this moment she's probably freaked out to get a message by a random man who's insisting to marry her.

 

[~Zaria~]

Awww, this is actually so sweet!

You say that your heart is always controlled by your mind, but the opposite seems true! lol

'The course of true love never did run smooth'.....

Dont worry akhee - insha Allah, He blesses you with marriage to a pious and loving woman - who is far better than the one that has currently captured your heart (or mind ).

Are there any single sisters in their 20s here? : )
(never mind.....or I may get myself into trouble with the mods )

 

[~Zaria~]

You came to do and feel all that just by seeing the niqab? What if she's a gremlin underneath?

Dont you know - niqaabi's are very beautiful women.....which is why they have to keep their faces covered up

 

['Abd-al Latif]

Dont you know - niqaabi's are very beautiful women.....which is why they have to keep their faces covered up

Nope, I don't know. If I did know then that would be a problem...

 

['Abd-al Latif]

I forgot to mention that it's possible that she could be engaged or married already. If this is the case then it's probably why her brother also won't add you.

 

[جوري]

if she's a gremlin underneath

That would be an added bonus and would cost him extra mahr

 

[anonymous]

You mentioned you live in the same city.. if possible, visit her parents in person?

unfortunately i don't know her address and even i don't know any of her brother FB contacts even worked in same city for 3 years.

 

[CosmicPathos]

u r rite bro. what upset me is not a closed door. i m not a fussy person and i openly ask her if she is engaged or not interested, she can simple block me or refuse me. but she is not replying even she didn't refuse my friend request and its pending. y is she not making me clear...

if you want to complain, complain to Allah that why did He put the decision to choose or discard in women's hand and not men's. Other than that, I'd tell you to roughen up, if you want to go down this alley of having a woman in your life, toughen up boy, you gonna have some rough times. Better be prepared for it.

start looking at rejections as "their loss, tu nahein tau aur sahee (i am not in shortage) etc " and not as " I am ugly, I suck, I cant get women." You will be at peace.

 

[CosmicPathos]

Ask a sister in your family or a sister or wife of a brother you know to contact her – as long as it's a sister and not you. At this moment she's probably freaked out to get a message by a random man who's insisting to marry her.

nah. she's enjoying the attention. But at the same time, who wants to have a needy miserable guy in her life? That's the reason.

 

[anonymous]

She is not the only woman in the world.

abdullahi yes she is not only in world but she is perfect for me in the sense we have much same.

You came to do and feel all that just by seeing the niqab? What if she's a gremlin underneath? (I don't mean this in a rude way)

bro plz dont try to underestimate/judge her. i just give u one indication niqaab that she is very practicing.

 

[CosmicPathos]

There is no better warning than from women who have put many Sasquatch-like men in limbo. Take heed my brother.

so spoke the experienced one!!

 

[CosmicPathos]

abdullahi yes she is not only in world but she is perfect for me in the sense we have much same.

therein lies your folly. Woman and perfect? No human is perfect. Women are bit more less perfect, you are always left to crave for more.

 

[anonymous]

plz bro don't try to be judgmental about her if u cant give me some suggestion. i don't think its very good approach.

 

[anonymous]

therein lies your folly. Woman and perfect? No human is perfect. Women are bit more less perfect, you are always left to crave for more.

thats what i am saying, no1 is perfect but someone can be perfect for u in the sense that u have same ideologies.

 

[CosmicPathos]

thats what i am saying, no1 is perfect but someone can be perfect for u in the sense that u have same ideologies.

That is BORING. Not perfect. lol. bro what you've been smoking? If you want same ideology, marry your image in the mirror.

 

[CosmicPathos]

the brother is already hurt cuz we are being judgmental of her. man this is love. You are in some deep waters here. bollywood style ishq to a face without identity hidden behind a niqab. lol

whaty if she has a mustache man behind that niqab???

 

[anonymous]

that her today's post on FB.

 

[CosmicPathos]

awwww .... cute... but i feel for you man. she will crush and crumble you. Dont be too "soft" for her. Bring this "soft" sided love of yours to bro-mance, your guy friends will appreciate it. Not to romance.

 

[anonymous]

That is BORING. Not perfect. lol. bro what you've been smoking? If you want same ideology, marry your image in the mirror.

bro do u think its work if a wife is strong follower of shiaism and husband is Sunni. so thats what i am saying she blv on same way as me.
Anyway PLZZZZ no more comments about her if u cant give some suggestion. i blv that developing felling about any non mahram b4 marriage is haram but i am saying it bcz i don't like to underestimate or judge any good muslim.

 

[CosmicPathos]

bro. listen to your self-esteem. Listen to that little man within you.

She ignored your msg to her. Not once, but many times. Do you really want to marry such a woman? At least love yourself a bit more than you love her.

I have nothing else to add.