fraud marrige

[ria]

Assalam o alikum plz mujha batain agar fraud kar ka shadi ki jai larka mently thq na ho aur us ka parents larki walon ko na batain aur pata chalna par shadi ka baid jhoot bolain aur jab khula ki baat aya tu us sa sara kuch wapis la liya jai tu kya islam mein yeh jaiz hai ka nai

 

[Periwinkle18]

Assalam o alikum

Sis didn't ur father or brother check the guy?? Didn't you guys ask the guys relatives?? App nay kisi say poocha nai that shaadi kernay say pehlay?? Khula leyna is allowed if you feel you cant live with the guy you tell your parents they'll help u.

Lykin Jahan talk mujhay yaad hai wen u take a khula the girl has to return her mahr I'm not sure I hope someone will correct me if I'm wrong.

App Kay Abu ya bhai nay larkay say baat nai kiya tha??

Unko nai Pata chala that he had a mental problem ??

 

[Periwinkle18]

Someone plz correct me

Khula( girl asks for divorce) may the girl gives the mahr back not everything else. I think Allah knows best someone cn correct me if I'm wrong.

 

['Abd-al Latif]

:salamext:

If there is a serious defect in him that he hid from you, like mental instability in this case, then you can have your marriage annulled.

 

[Periwinkle18]

Its just very sad I've heard such cases a lot I srsly don't know y they have to lie.

 

[tw009]

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I will never understand why people feel the need to lie and be dishonest to the person they will marry. and then they expect the marriage to be blessed! how can a marriage be blessed when it all started from a lie?!!! The older I get the more I see how impure and ugly this dunya can be, you really can't trust anyone.

I pray that Allah(swt) makes things easier for you and may he guide your husband and his family. and I pray to Allah that we remain honest to ourselves and never hurt anyone that we love or meet and may he keep our hearts and intentions pure. Ameeen.

 

[CosmicPathos]

how do we judge if someone is mentally unstable or just has eccentric and unique views?

 

[May Ayob]

Can someone please translate the op into english. I would appreciate it very much. jzakum Allah khair.

 

[Periwinkle18]

how do we judge if someone is mentally unstable or just has eccentric and unique views?

Akhi u just kinda find out my sis was engaged to someone like tht n at first we didn't now anything everything was fine we uses to ask his parents they used to be like ppl do hasad with us they don't want my child to get married n all buh mum kept reciting the dua we istikhara n Alhumdulilah we found out my older sis talked to him Cuz something happened n the guy just went crazy he had some psychological prob he wouldn't understand anything , wouldn't listen to anyone so Alhumdulilah we found out n broke the engagement

What made me mad was tht no one told us abt the guy buh once we got a ph call from his cousin she kinda secretly called n told us buh we didn't believe her at first.

SubhanAllah istikhara helps I would suggest ppl do for everything even making small decisions Allah does help.

 

[Periwinkle18]

Can someone please translate the op into english. I would appreciate it very much. jzakum Allah khair.

W/salam

Basically the op got married to someone who lied to her the guy had some mental prob n she found out after marriage n what I understood was tht she wanted a divorce n when she asked for it they guy ppl took everything they gave from her so she wants to ask if that's allowed.

Do the guy ppl take everything back when u ask for khula ( girl asks for divorce).

 

[ria]

Assalam o alikum

Sis didn't ur father or brother check the guy?? Didn't you guys ask the guys relatives?? App nay kisi say poocha nai that shaadi kernay say pehlay?? Khula leyna is allowed if you feel you cant live with the guy you tell your parents they'll help u.

Lykin Jahan talk mujhay yaad hai wen u take a khula the girl has to return her mahr I'm not sure I hope someone will correct me if I'm wrong.

App Kay Abu ya bhai nay larkay say baat nai kiya tha??

Unko nai Pata chala that he had a mental problem ??

walikum salam first of all brother parents tu pura deakh ka karta hain but wo nasha karta tha and ap larka ho u no better ka nasha ak baid insaan ka dimag mafloj ho jata hai jo bhi kaho usa wo han ya na mein jawab data hai r chup rahta hai aur usa med da akr bethata tha taka wo chup raha zyda fazool na bola aur unknown ak ghar insaan 1 hour ka liya hi ja sakta hai is sa zyda nai tu kesa pata chal sakta hai kuch bhi us ka realitives acha hain sara lakin wo nai ab area ka logon sa pocha hai tu unho na sub kuch batya hai and i take khula from him last week bht mushkil sa pray for me

 

[ria]

walikum salam first of all brother parents tu pura deakh ka karta hain but wo nasha karta tha and ap larka ho u no better ka nasha ak baid insaan ka dimag mafloj ho jata hai jo bhi kaho usa wo han ya na mein jawab data hai r chup rahta hai aur usa med da akr bethata tha taka wo chup raha zyda fazool na bola aur unknown ak ghar insaan 1 hour ka liya hi ja sakta hai is sa zyda nai tu kesa pata chal sakta hai kuch bhi us ka realitives acha hain sara lakin wo nai ab area ka logon sa pocha hai tu unho na sub kuch batya hai and i take khula from him last week bht mushkil sa pray for me and plz guys kesi ki beti ko la kar musibat mein mat dalo aisa kam hi na karo ka dosra ki beti roya hamesha ya socho apni bhi bhan hai aur agar us ka aga kuch a gaya tu kya ho ga mat karo nasha plz mat kesi ki beti ko takleef 2 s larki ka parents ko aur apna parents ko sub kuch such such batao yeh bhi batao ka kesi larki chiya jis sa shadi karna chahta ho aur shak mat karo us pa plzz mehrbani ho gi sub ki

 

[Periwinkle18]

walikum salam first of all brother parents tu pura deakh ka karta hain but wo nasha karta tha and ap larka ho u no better ka nasha ak baid insaan ka dimag mafloj ho jata hai jo bhi kaho usa wo han ya na mein jawab data hai r chup rahta hai aur usa med da akr bethata tha taka wo chup raha zyda fazool na bola aur unknown ak ghar insaan 1 hour ka liya hi ja sakta hai is sa zyda nai tu kesa pata chal sakta hai kuch bhi us ka realitives acha hain sara lakin wo nai ab area ka logon sa pocha hai tu unho na sub kuch batya hai and i take khula from him last week bht mushkil sa pray for me

umm im not a brother im a sis

oh so he used drugs n u guys didn't know

whats mafloj??

Alhumdulilah may Allah keep u happy always ameen

 

[Muhaba]

why would you not want to return the mahr when asking for khula?

 

[ria]

bcz this is fraud case aur fraud case mein mehr nai wapis hota aur waisa bhi mehr gift tha mera anywayz mein na tu da kar jaan chorwai hai in logon sa lakin plz apni life ka faisla khud karain har baat pa comprommise karna larki ka hi farz nai banta larka ka bhi banta hai aur us ki family walon ka bhi banta hai aur jo log shadi sa pehla itni demands karain tu deakh laina chiya ka wo shadi ka baid bhi is sa double karain ga

 

[ria]

sorry mjha pata nai tha sis han j humain nai tha pata wo drugs bhi lata hai

mafloj mean sensless

 

[Periwinkle18]

Umm sis some ppl don't understand urdu here it would be good if you reply in english inshaAllah.