Re: How NOT To Be Emotional
Wa alaykum salam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
Takumi-Firstly this post has no emotional attachment to what I’m about to say, so read this in a non-critical manner..
I always do except when members write about ME instead of my opinions. I'm sure you realized that by now.
our first post mentioned how you did not what psychobabble yet most of your post analyzes the psychological mindset of which the post could have been written in and what emotions could have been expressed. I find that contradictory to your first post. Do you have a fascination for psychology? ..
While psychologist claim savoire faire on the subject, I don't feel it's necessary for me to be a psychologist to commonsense-ly evaluate a post that clearly attacks the personality of the writer rather than the opinions brought forward. Those were mere suggestions and they may be agreed and disagreed upon. The point is sister, HOW do we agree and disagree?
Do we taint it name calling [foolish, idiotic, moronic, wack, police ] or we keep our cool and adress the issue?
Psychology is a great subject from what I have studied but people can find it annoying if not patronizing to break down their posts and interpret what they could have implied. What is the purpose behind your thread?
My apologies if the purpose of thread is ambiguos to you. This thread serves to exchange tips on How NOT to be Emotional when we respond to other people's post. True, like any other threads, this thread suffers from inconsistency and off topics, but that's no biggie, if those posts are sane and not attacking anyone's personality. The moderators are always here to remove those posts and we gotta be content with that. Such are the rules.
You could spend years trying to analyze and interpret what everyone is trying to say, however, you won’t come to an answer. Rather it’ll be a baseless theory that can easily be disproved by simply getting one person to contradict just one of your claims. So is there a point? Perhaps you find benefit to this thread, if so my mistake.
Forum is a place where you may do that. Disaprove my claims, go ahead. But in that process, keep your gender prejudices, assumptions about me, adjectives to describe my mental health and whether or not I want to have the final word, aside. I fail to see that happening in some posts responding to my posts and many other posts for that matter. Most of them, by members whose opinion I have refuted or been refuted, attack me or other members personally.
Tell me, sister, those posts that you read in this thread, that I've used as an examples of bad, emotionally and personally driven posts, do they reflect opinion-based posts? I don't go to Cambridge nor Oxford but my common sense tells me that they're not. They attack personality.
In addition I have noticed that you look at other people’s post and judge whether there is emotional drive behind the words and speak of emotional diarrhea. The irony is if you closely analyzed your posts you’d find the same thing and same for me. I can get anyone’s post here and tell you the emotional that can be retrieved from them merely by looking closely into few phrases. Surely we have to be critical of ourselves first before looking at others.
Diarrhea refers to an acute, uncontrollable defecation usually associated with food poisoning or abnormal peristalsis. In short, defecation is a normal process, but when you have diarrhea, your defecation habit goes haywire.
To have a post that is emotional is habitual, maybe for many people, but to have an emotionally diarrheic post, people attack personality not the issue. It's an acute, uncontrollable EMOTION suffered during that time of writing. Thus forgetting the reason why he/she's posting and sometimes, forgetting what the issue at hand.
Although I said this post is written from a non-attached emotionless attitude, I myself could sit here and pick out what emotions could have been expressed in my own post. It is difficult, if not impossible, may be impossible to write anything without there being emotion present.
You are certainly right. I might be wrong to say that while you wrote the post, you were calm and composed, you were not trying to diss me, your primary concern was to present your views without ascribing me to any degrading attributes. Or, I might be right; by just reading your post.
You're a perfect example of how opinions may be brought forward sans name calling and dissing personaliy.
So my question is, what is the point?
I hope you don’t take this post as being anything other than advice.
All opinions in this thread will be treated as OPINIONS and we will disagree or agree with that opinion only. I believe I named the thread incorrectly. I'd like the mods to change the name of this thread, to
How NOT to be TOO emotional please to prevent further misunderstanding.
I thank you for your input. Your post to this thread is greatly appreciated.
Peace.
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