How NOT to be TOO emotional

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does your position in LI affect your post?

I've been thinking about this post for a very long time. It has been delayed due to the fact that this definitely is a very sensitive issue.

It's regarding the moderators.

My thoughts about this post came when on one post, I made a remark that implied that because one member was humiliating me, a certain mod would then have to shut the thread down.

Then I got a negative rep that implied that it was my fault that that member somehow retaliated. Then I remember that I gave that particular mod a negative rep on his/her post in which he/she used the "d" word, which I assumed was unacceptable. So, maybe it was a retaliation on his/her part, but, I just let it go. Since rep points are the least of my concern.

I felt that an injustice was done, since it's a fact that if posts are humiliating and uncontrollable, the thread should either be closed down or the member reprimanded.

Truthfully, when you have a position in any forum, are you writing as a member, or as a moderator?

If someone criticizes your post, do you take it as, someone is challenging your authority as a moderator or just being truthful about your post?

I don't know the answer to that. I'm sure the mods do.
 
^^ i dunno de answer to dat but as a reply to the actual thread...

my dad once told me dat i am tooo emotional n from dat day iv like sort of made an oth neva to cry....it helps actually. :happy:

i v been sad many times but i dont fink i cried after dat....i try to cover up my sad emotions wid anger. its bad i no but it helps

if my response is rong, correct me for i did not understand the irst thread... but guessing by the post n wen u first said 'stop whining'

:w:
 
salaam.

some good tips here masha Allah.

I say, always remember that when you are crieng, Allah is watching you and answering your tears. He wanted you to let your emotions out on him and ask Him! He says "walk to me and I will run to you." subhan Allah, He is so there for us that we lack to understand.

Always get busy in dhikr, read more of the Qur'an and of course, praying 5 times a day keeps you in touch with Allah and if the FIRST cure to our problems. We can't help not being emotional and I can understand why we shudn't be too emotional since it leads to one being ungrateful to Allah for all He has given us.

kheir insha Allah.

wasalaam
 
princes_muslima said:
salaam.

some good tips here masha Allah.

I say, always remember that when you are crieng, Allah is watching you and answering your tears. He wanted you to let your emotions out on him and ask Him! He says "walk to me and I will run to you." subhan Allah, He is so there for us that we lack to understand.

Always get busy in dhikr, read more of the Qur'an and of course, praying 5 times a day keeps you in touch with Allah and if the FIRST cure to our problems. We can't help not being emotional and I can understand why we shudn't be too emotional since it leads to one being ungrateful to Allah for all He has given us.

kheir insha Allah.

wasalaam
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Thank you for your post. It's very honest and sincere.

I agree with you that being emotional is good. Without emotions, we'll be dry, insensitive and incompassionate.

This thread serves to guide members how not to take posts personally or post personal attacks. It serves to enlighten those who tend to rather attack the issue, they attack the personality of the member who posts.

I'm not sure whether the examples I've put up still exists, but, if you see those examples, the posts clearly degrade the personality of the member rather than commenting the on the issue.

This disease is by my definition, being TOO emotional. The only cure is to revisit the intention and of course, READ, RE READ, RE READ your post before clicking SUBMIT REPLY.

Click it at your own risk. :)
 
Re: How NOT To Be Emotional

As-Salaamu `alaykum wa RaHmatullaahi wa Baarakaatuh!!! Maasha'Allaah, Nihonjin desu ka na? Sou da to omou, lol, Maasha'Allaah!!! Boku wa Eikokujin desu yo! Nihonjin no Musurimu ga hontou ni omoshiroi! Gomennasai, ke'igo ga wakannai to tsumannai yo, loool!!! Soretomo boku no Nihongo no sukiru ga hontou ni hetakuso da, loool!!! I only know a certain amount of Japanese, mainly because I am forgetting it day by day and I have only been to Japan once! I went to Hokkaidou for one month and it was AWESOME!!! Ah, by the way, boku wa 28 sai no shiro na hito to boku no tsuma mo shiro na hito da. Kanojo ga 19 sai to kanojo mo Musurimu da, Maasha'Allaah!
Itsu ni anata wa Musurimu ni natta ka na!? HONTOU NI OMOSHIROI YO, Maasha'Allaah! UK ni sunde'ru ka na??? Also, please tell me how you became Muslim in the first place, insha'Allaah, and I would be glad to exchange my story also! I practise Hanafi fiqh and I grew up in Wales but have lived in London for the past 12 or 13 years! My wife is from Banbury, Maasha'Allaah, and she will move in with me soon, insha'Allaah! We married on the 1st April this year (2006), al-Hamd-ul-Illaah, so we are a reasonably newly wedded couple, al-Hamd-ul-Illaah!!! BaarakAllaahu fiik, ukhti! Allaahumma Baarik fi Japan Muslimiin, Aamiiin! Allaahumma Baarik fi Ummah, Aamiiin! *Musa* :brother: *Amiinah* :sister: As-Salaamu `alaykum wa RaHmatullaahi wa Baarakaatuh!!!
 
Re: How NOT To Be Emotional

london brother said:
As-Salaamu `alaykum wa RaHmatullaahi wa Baarakaatuh!!! Maasha'Allaah, Nihonjin desu ka na? Sou da to omou, lol, Maasha'Allaah!!! Boku wa Eikokujin desu yo! Nihonjin no Musurimu ga hontou ni omoshiroi! Gomennasai, ke'igo ga wakannai to tsumannai yo, loool!!! Soretomo boku no Nihongo no sukiru ga hontou ni hetakuso da, loool!!! I only know a certain amount of Japanese, mainly because I am forgetting it day by day and I have only been to Japan once! I went to Hokkaidou for one month and it was AWESOME!!! Ah, by the way, boku wa 28 sai no shiro na hito to boku no tsuma mo shiro na hito da. Kanojo ga 19 sai to kanojo mo Musurimu da, Maasha'Allaah!
Itsu ni anata wa Musurimu ni natta ka na!? HONTOU NI OMOSHIROI YO, Maasha'Allaah! UK ni sunde'ru ka na??? Also, please tell me how you became Muslim in the first place, insha'Allaah, and I would be glad to exchange my story also! I practise Hanafi fiqh and I grew up in Wales but have lived in London for the past 12 or 13 years! My wife is from Banbury, Maasha'Allaah, and she will move in with me soon, insha'Allaah! We married on the 1st April this year (2006), al-Hamd-ul-Illaah, so we are a reasonably newly wedded couple, al-Hamd-ul-Illaah!!! BaarakAllaahu fiik, ukhti! Allaahumma Baarik fi Japan Muslimiin, Aamiiin! Allaahumma Baarik fi Ummah, Aamiiin! *Musa* :brother: *Amiinah* :sister: As-Salaamu `alaykum wa RaHmatullaahi wa Baarakaatuh!!!
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Whoah, whoah dude! Use some paragraphs and more English next time! :p :D
 
:sl: lol u took the words right outa my mouth!!! lol :p now....let me tell you why i used that smiley....

i used it so that the previous brother knows that i was kiddin but also so that the London brother knows i'm not making fun of his language.

anyway..back to the topic.....why would anybody want to know how NOT to be TOO emotional??? :?

i used that smiley coz i'm confused!! lol

i mean...if you're an emotional sort of person you know what i say....? i say....let it all out!! at least your not afraid to show your feelings and whet you're really thinking....:heated:

i used that emoticon to show that somebody might be feeling frustrated and its a good thing to tell others if you are so they can help you out!

well...thats all i have to say for now...:sister:

i used that coz im a krazy ukhti!! lol

btw, just for your info...i'm a teenager and have been crying alot recently due to some problems...now tell me....is that a bad thing??? and if not, whats the point of this thread? ;D

now i used that emoticon coz people will probably think i'm talking a load of rubbish an i find that funny!!!


lolz peace out!!!
 
:sl: omg!!! how come nobodys replyin to this thread now!!!! lol

[BANANA]hope it wasnt sumtin i sed![/BANANA]
 
Takumi said:
does your position in LI affect your post?

I've been thinking about this post for a very long time. It has been delayed due to the fact that this definitely is a very sensitive issue.

It's regarding the moderators.

My thoughts about this post came when on one post, I made a remark that implied that because one member was humiliating me, a certain mod would then have to shut the thread down.

Then I got a negative rep that implied that it was my fault that that member somehow retaliated. Then I remember that I gave that particular mod a negative rep on his/her post in which he/she used the "d" word, which I assumed was unacceptable. So, maybe it was a retaliation on his/her part, but, I just let it go. Since rep points are the least of my concern.

I felt that an injustice was done, since it's a fact that if posts are humiliating and uncontrollable, the thread should either be closed down or the member reprimanded.

Truthfully, when you have a position in any forum, are you writing as a member, or as a moderator?

If someone criticizes your post, do you take it as, someone is challenging your authority as a moderator or just being truthful about your post?

I don't know the answer to that. I'm sure the mods do.
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Perhaps you are not exactly familiar with a moderator's guidelines when posting. Indeed, there is a big difference when a moderator posts, and when a regular member posts. Please do not be so niiave to think that moderators and members post alike.


What are moderators?

Moderators oversee specific forums. They generally have the ability to edit and delete posts, move threads, and perform other manipulations. Becoming a moderator for a specific forum is usually rewarded to users who are particularly helpful and knowledgeable in the subject of the forum they are moderating.
 
Re: How NOT To Be Emotional

Muezzin said:
I use these smileys so people know I'm joking. The one or two times I've told a 'joke' here without a smiley, people get all offended and start calling me kafir and stuff. Hence: :p

You're right though, Brother Takumi, it is often difficult to gauge the emotion of a member just by reading the words of their post. In that respect, smileys and exclamation marks help to communicate the spirit in which the message is being given.

That said, there are some really silly smileys. Take the 'Offended' one for example.

:offended:

I mean, what the heck is that? It looks like a burnt tomato.
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I thought it was racist at first....

But yeah, it's not good to get too angry. But i don't think there is a problem with being too happy..... or is there?
:w:
 
how can you feel without commas dots exclaimtion and make sense of a sentence without the tools and make sense etc
 
huh??? :? basically you think we should express our emotions...right??
 
Halima said:
Perhaps you are not exactly familiar with a moderator's guidelines when posting. Indeed, there is a big difference when a moderator posts, and when a regular member posts. Please do not be so niiave to think that moderators and members post alike.


What are moderators?

Moderators oversee specific forums. They generally have the ability to edit and delete posts, move threads, and perform other manipulations. Becoming a moderator for a specific forum is usually rewarded to users who are particularly helpful and knowledgeable in the subject of the forum they are moderating.
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Moderators are human beings whose opinions are as fragile and as susceptible to criticism and rebuttal as the opinions of others.

If a moderator thinks that his/her opinions carry more weight that regular members' opinion just because of his/her position, I strongly believe that he/she needs to chill down and back off a little bit.

No sane moderator would unjustly act because he/she felt threatened due to a rebuttal of his/her views.

Unless, he/she is being TOO EMOTIONAL about it and retaliate blindly.

Duh! :)
 
I've been watching 'House' to help me through times of stress by deflecting criticism with wit, sarcasm and a stone cold heart.

It's great if you're moderating the World Affairs section - wisecrack and kick the crap out of anyone who steps out of line, Muslim or non-Muslim. Inflicting torture is good for the soul. Well, mine at least.

;)
 
Strange thing about emotions. We all enjoy having them. They are one of the things that seperate us from animals. Yet, emotions can be destructive, when allowed to run without internal guidance.

As people we begin life as letting our emotions determine our judgement. If it feels good we consider it right and repeat the act. If it causes internal pain or sadness, we stop.

Later we discover that sometimes we need to act in opposistion to our emotions. We often run into choices that will bring use great fear and pain, yet we learn we must still do them.

So it is in posting. It is always woderfull to post things that bring good feelings. But, there are times, for the sake of truth and justice, we can not let our emotions rule.
 
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Woodrow said:
Strange thing about emotions. We all enjoy having them. They are one of the things that seperate us from animals. Yet, emotions can be destructive, when allowed to run without internal guidance.

As people we begin life as letting our emotions determine our judgement. If it feels good we consider it right and repeat the act. If it causes internal pain or sadness, we stop.

Later we discover that sometimes we need to act in opposistion to our emotions. We often run into choices that will bring use great fear and pain, yet we learn we must still do them.

So it is in posting. It is always woderfull to post things that bring good feelings. But, there are times, for the sake of truth and justice, we can not let our emotions rule.
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Beautifully said. indeed overly emotional ppl are suspectible to maltreament of others...

so we shudnt speak in vain...rather control our long senseless talks..into short juggemental words...which will make sense and help cut down the drama with others!
 

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