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I was just wondering... Is it wrong to try and change someone so they can become a good Muslim? You see I have this cousin who is 2 months older than me and she is into Music, Films, etc, etc.

I keep on telling her about the Day of Judgement and death and to change before its too late and no one knows when they are going to die, but she keeps on ignoring me or saying things like 'Don't talk about this I've got a headache.'

How can I make her understand?

Please reply brothers and sisters

Tkcr

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Sis U Shud Sit Dwn And Talk To Er Politely If Not And She Refuses Not To Listen To U Then U Can Get Some Hadith's Or Sum Information That Talk's About Here After If She Still Refuse's Not To Listen To U.... Which I Hope She Doesn't Then U Can Tell Her That U Have Gt The Wrong Intention And That Get Up And Pray If She Still Refuse's To Not Listen To U Go A Head And SPeak To Her Parent's And Am Sure They Can Talk To Her.... Cuz At The End Of The Day God Knw's That Ur Gaining A Gud Deed And Leading Her To The Right Path But She Refuses To Listen To U....

So My Point Is That You Should Sit Down And Talk To Her And Tell Her That God Knows When You Are Going To Die So Talk To Her Parents If She Still Does Not Listen To You... ALSO TELL HER WOT'S THE POINT OF BEING A MUZLIM WHEN U ARE NOT FOLLOWING WOT THE PROPHET DID!

And Sis Bare In Mind Your The On Who Is Going Ta Get Rewarded For This Cuz Your Leading Her To The Right Path But She Refuse's Ta Listen To You

Sis U Dn't Wori And Take It Easy And Step By Step K

If U Need Any Help Plz Do Ask Me :) I Will Try Ta Help You In Every Kind Ov Way K

Take Care
 
:sl: sister

ALhamdulillah you are doing a very good thing. Of course you should not give up, but perhaps try to be a little less obvious about things. Perhaps you could be more subtle. Try giving her nasheed CD's or Quraan recitation as a gift.

Try giving some books on the Sunnah of the Prophet(pbuh) and the etiquettes of a Muslim. Especially with regards to hobbies and pasttimes.

If you attend a halaqa or meeting you could invite your cousin to go with you and try to mix her with your friends too.

May Allah help you and keep both of you on the straigth path...ameen

:w:

Rabi'ya:rose:
 
Thanks sis ^^^ I've tried to tell her in every possible way but she just doesn't seem to want to go on the straight path :confused:
 
Also Sis U Can Introduce Your Friends And Am Sure They Can Help You But Plz Dn't Give Up Cuz Ur Doing A Really Gud Job And U N God Knw....

Also U Can Ask Ur Cuzin If She Want's Ta Cum On This Site And Am Sure Sum Sistaz Can Talk To Her And SpreAd The Word Izlam

Take Care
 
Inshallah I'll try.. But i think its very hard.. Shes married...shes 17.... shes got guy mates... I dnt no... :confused:
 
Pagal Kuri said:
Thanks sis ^^^ I've tried to tell her in every possible way but she just doesn't seem to want to go on the straight path :confused:
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SIS BARE IN MIND THAT GOD IS WIV YOU ALL THE WAY SOON SHE WILL REALISE THAT ''YEA I SHUD HAVE LISTEN TA SO N SO AND I DID A BAD THING...'' SIS U DN'T WORI AM SURE UR UPSET NW BT LUK AT HER PARENTS AM SURE THERE EVEN UPSET JUST PRAY TA GOD AND U JUS A GO ALONG WIV IT AND LYK SIS RABIA SAID GIVE HER A GIVT OV NASHEEDS AND AM SURE SHE WILL LYK EM AND SHE WILL REGRET IT... (I HOPE SO)

THE DEVIL IS LEADING HER TO THE WRNG PATH AND SOON GOD WILL LEAD HER TO THE RYT PATH....


SIS MAY I ASK HOW OLD IS SHE? ( IF U DN'T MIND ME ASKIN)

TAKE CARE
 
Pagal Kuri said:
Inshallah I'll try.. But i think its very hard.. Shes married...shes 17.... shes got guy mates... I dnt no... :confused:
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WELL SIS ATLEAST UR DOING A GUD JOD AND SHE REFUSE'S NOT TA LISTEN TO U WHICH IS NOT RYT AT ALL SOON SHE WILL REGRET IT!

TELL HER PARENTS ABOUT THIS AND IF SHE IS MARRIED THEN Y HAS SHE GT GUY MATES:heated: :heated:

TAKE CARE
 
ok i would suggest you give her the hadiths on women spending time with guys. ask her about this, why does she spend time with guys.....i used to....because i couldnt chat to girls the way i could with guys. but once i got used to talking to girls i was fine(i was brought up with 4 brothers no sisters- male orientated life)

ask her if she loves her husband, doesnt she want to please him. get her to think about how her husband feels when he knows shes out with guys...and if he doesnt know why doees she feel the need to hide it...

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Rabi'ya:rose:
 
firstly sis ask allah to guide her
do alot of ducaa coz u can never guide someone unless allah allows them to be guided. choose a reasonable time to talk to her like a time she is very happy. talk to her sofly n politely. tell her allah loves her n talk about the janah with her. remind her that the world is temporary n great people like the prophets who walked on earth are now dead(may allah have mercy on them). n follow the sisterz advice inshallah i'll pray to allah to make thingz easy for u n to guide her. ameen
salaamz:)
 
Rabi'ya said:
ok i would suggest you give her the hadiths on women spending time with guys. ask her about this, why does she spend time with guys.....i used to....because i couldnt chat to girls the way i could with guys.

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Rabi'ya:rose:
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Dats what she sez az well.. Her best mate is a guy who likes one of her other mate :heated: Its all messed :heated:
 
Yea And Also Y Is She Doing This To Her Husband Am Sure That Is Not Allowed In Izlam Well Acctually It's Not Allowed In Any Religiopn So She's Playing On Him...

Tell Her If You R Refusing Ta Listen To Me I Will Tell Ur Husband That U Go Owt Wiv Other Lads And Tell Her Why Is She Hidding It Then...

Take Care
 
mashaallah said:
remind her that the world is temporary n great people like the prophets who walked on earth are now dead(may allah have mercy on them).
salaamz:)
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Thats the problem, whenever I try to tell her that she says that I'll change in my own time, i go to her u neva know if u die 2moro - what are u going to answer to your lord - she goes leave me alone :confused:
 
Sis I Knw Where Ur Cumin From Bt This Si Not Allowed You Should Tell Ur Mum And Tell Her That She Is Refusing Ta Listen Ta Me And She Is Going Owt Wiv Sum Uda Ladz And Cheating On Her Husband Cuz Firstly That Is Not Ryt At All And Secondly Tell Her She Is Hanging Around Wiv The Wrng Mates... Trus Mi Sis U Shud Introduce Ur Mates To Her Am Sure Your Mates Are Much Betta That Her's And Am Sure They Can Becum Friends..

Also You Should Sit Down Her And You When She Is In A Gud Mood And Tell Her Ta Pray And Ask Forgivness From God...
Help Her When She Is In A Happy Mood And Also When She Is Alone :)

Take Care
 
she may well be just friends with them.Allah knows her deeds and intentions.

you should make 70 excuses before accusing her.

Keep talking to her sis. perhaps indirectly. Dont pressure her or she'll just think your preaching at her. try just being friends with her. perhaps go shopping together or sk her if she would mind accompanying you to an islamic event near you....theres lots of possibilities

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Rabi'ya:rose:
 
Pagal Kuri said:
Thats the problem, whenever I try to tell her that she says that I'll change in my own time, i go to her u neva know if u die 2moro - what are u going to answer to your lord - she goes leave me alone :confused:
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TELL HER UR WRNG AND STP ACTING LYK THIS ASK HER DO YOU LOVE YOUR LORD MORE THAN U LOVE UR LOVE MUSIC?
ASK HER WHO CUMZ 1 GOD R MUSIC?

THEN ASK HER WHO DO U LOVE UR HUSBAND R DEM UDA LADS ON THE STREETS AND HOW WUD U FEEL IF THAT'S WOT UR HUSBAND DID TO U?

TAKE CARE
 

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