Should I tell someone they're being talked about in front of them in another language

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Social media is a bit of a double-edged sword, it can cause as much harm as it can benefits.

Unfortunately I have seen this happening a lot, it is backbiting straight out - it's beyond me why so many women seem to have no concept of sisterhood and act like spiteful kids, they seem to get a kick out of gossiping about people.

I don't think you should tell the girl, it will just upset her when she isn't at fault. However you can try to advise those two girls, warn them of just how serious it is what they are doing, and then distance yourselves from them. This is telling you a lot about their character and their idea of friendship - so if you do have regular contact with them, distance yourself a bit.
 
No. Why would you tell someone what someone else is saying? The arrow missed the mark and you are going to make sure it hits it next time around?
 
Bhabha said:
No. Why would you tell someone what someone else is saying? The arrow missed the mark and you are going to make sure it hits it next time around?
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Would you not prefer to know that someone is talking behind your back? This poor girl thinks these girls are her friends, all the while they're mocking her and having a laugh at her expensive. The longer this goes on the harder it's going to hit her when she finally foes realise.

2 weeks of being "friends" and you find out they're backbiting.
6 months of being "friends" and you fine out they're backbiting.

2 weeks is obviously going to be easier to deal with.
 
You still debating this thing.... it really cheeses me off that people get themselves all worked up over freaking facebook.

Guess what? Aint no facebook in heaven..

Scimi
 
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*charisma* said:
That's why you should talk to your cousins first. If they're relentless and continue to talk about her whether it be gossip or slander, then what I would do is tell the girl that they have bad intent or put my cousins on blast since they are writing it for everyone on their friend's list to see anyways.

Please be aware that my advice is not at all Islamic, because I don't know what the islamic way of handling such a situation would be. I would just try my very best not to create animosity or hatred between them or cause them to quarrel. Since this person is your cousin, it would be better to try to fix it from that end first, and then sticking up for the girl publicly (as in the same manner that she's being gossiped about), and lastly as a last resort if she does not stop, I would tell the girl to stop associating herself with them.
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*charisma* said:
Ignore him, it's almost his bedtime :D
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It's difficult for me to lecture her in what's right & wrong, end of the day she is an adult (albeit younger than me) & I'm not close enough to her anymore. I would advise her more in the past when I used to be around her in person but I know she resented that & especially now she's older will not listen. I also rarely see her in person. But I think if her more mature & kinder sister has a word it will have more of an effect, so I'm hoping she will see it soon like I did & do so.
 
Isn't there a story somewhere where someone was talking bad about the prophet behind his back and someone came and repeated what the person said to him. Then the prophet told him why he did that if he hadn't heard it the first time the (arrow ) was shot. Correct me if I am wrong. But I heard something like that. Repeating things you heard only causes more trouble. It'll make the person feel bad and it will disturb any chance of reconciliation. It's like when a wife and husband have an argument, none should repeat anything to anyone outside and if someone outside says something about your wife or husband, it shouldn't be repeated. What if the person made a mistake? Their image and their ability to reconcile will be tarnished.
 
Bhabha said:
Isn't there a story somewhere where someone was talking bad about the prophet behind his back and someone came and repeated what the person said to him. Then the prophet told him why he did that if he hadn't heard it the first time the (arrow ) was shot. Correct me if I am wrong. But I heard something like that. Repeating things you heard only causes more trouble. It'll make the person feel bad and it will disturb any chance of reconciliation. It's like when a wife and husband have an argument, none should repeat anything to anyone outside and if someone outside says something about your wife or husband, it shouldn't be repeated. What if the person made a mistake? Their image and their ability to reconcile will be tarnished.
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Yes you're quite right & I never repeat things said behind someone's back but as this situation is very different it's difficult to figure out what the best way to deal with it would be. They are talking about her to her face & causing public humiliation to her, using the language barrier to their advantage. They know eachother in real life as well & the stuff they said shows they have done similar to her in real life too.
 
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I think you should first tell them girls to stop this or otherwise you are going to tell ... and if they do not stop, then just tell the girl that they mock her but I wouldn't tell her anything specific they say so the girl cannot get hurt too much; if she says, 'tell me what they said', then you can tell her some mild things but not any harsh things as that would only hurt her more.

it's true telling her will hurt her feelings but she needs to know so she can put a stop to her honour being dragged through the mud by stopping communication with those girls
 

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