It's not about trying to be a man. If I wanted to be a man I'd lift weights, watch football and get a job in construction. Most women don't want to be categorised... ie you are a women so you belong in the kitchen. I am a women and I belong wherever the hell I choose. Same rights as a man.
If I wanted to cook for a living I'd be a chef, if I wanted to clean for a living I'd be a maid. I want to do what I want, not what people think I should be doing. Yes I would cook for my husband and clean the house and take care of the kids but I also expect my husband to do his fair share to help out. I totally understand if he works all day and I do not, then I would not even want him to lift a finger with the chores because he works all day so the household duties fall to the wife.
You have to understand that people are different and want different things. Some women may love nothing more than to be at home all day cooking and cleaning for their husband and to serve his food and this brings them great joy, fantastic, hooray for you. Some women don't like to do this but seeking an alternative to cooking and cleaning is somehow being feminist. It's called having equal rights.
Even if my husband earned £125k a year I would still WANT to work. Not to show him that I'm "a man" but because I want my own self accomplishment and I want to be successful.
I have no problem with men that want their wives to be maids, what I have a problem with is when they think that is where we belong. If my husband tried forcing me to be a hermit maid and stay in doors all day I'd tell him to sling his hook.