Why A Muslim Should Forgive Others?

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Forgiving is to forgive who hurts you, to control the feeling of revenge or the feeling of hurting this person back inside you. Forgiving means forgiving this person in the Dunya, you don’t hurt him back, as well as on the Day of Judgement in front of Allah. It doesn’t mean you don’t punish him, but between you and Allah you don’t forgive him. It means you forgive him in all cases.

Forgiving doesn’t mean to not learn from your mistakes, rather you have to learn from this experience. The prophet peace be upon him said “A believer should not be stung twice from the same hole“. You should treat this person with cautious but not badly.

Allah described those who forgive as being good. He says: “Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men; – for Allah loves those who do good” [Aal Emran 134]. He also says: “Whether ye publish a good deed or conceal it or cover evil with pardon, verily Allah doth blot out (sins) and hath power (in the judgment of values)” [Al Nisaa 149]. And in Surat Al Taghabun: “But if ye forgive and overlook, and cover up (their faults), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Al Taghabun 14]

Allah also says: “Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen, those in want, and those who have left their homes in Allah´s cause: let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Al Nur 22]. These previous Verse indicates that Allah may forgive those who forgive others. Forgive people so that Allah may forgive you.

Islam is a religion of peace that is why Allah encouraged people to forgive. The prophet peace be upon him said: “It is not halal for a Muslim to shun his brother for more than three nights, that is they meet, and this one turns away and that one turns away. The better of the two is the one who says the greeting first.” So shunning your friend for more than three days is forbidden. And to encourage Muslims to forgive the prophet peace be upon him described the one who will start greeting the other is the better.

Levels of forgiveness

There are three levels of forgiveness:

1st: to forgive while you feel angry. This is the lowest level. When someone hurts you on purpose, you feel angry and you have the opportunity to hurt him as well, but you chose to forgive him for the sake of Allah.

2nd: To forgive and don’t feel angry. You saw the act of the person who wants to hurt you, but you didn’t get angry, however you acted as if you didn’t see anything. In addition to forgiving him for the sake of Allah.

3rd: To forgive and to treat him with goodness. This is the highest level. You don’t only forgive and not only you don’t hurt him, but you also treated the one who hurt you with goodness. It needs a very strong faith to treat who hurts you with goodness.

Anas, a close Companion of Prophet Muhammad reported, “A Jewish woman brought a poisoned lamb to the Prophet, and he ate of it. When the woman was brought to him, people suggested, ‘Shall we kill her?’ The Prophet said, ‘No.’ I have recognized the effects of that poisoning in the Prophet’s throat ever since.” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Ahmad, and others). This is how the prophet peace be upon him treated who wanted to kill him. Of course the person who will want to hurt you, don’t want to kill you, he wants something less. Although, the prophet peace be upon him forgave her. This is one story of the prophet regarding forgiveness, there are many other stories.

Why should a Muslim forgive?

The first reason why we should forgive others is to please Allah. We should have this intention in all of our deeds. When you forgive you forgive mainly for the sake of Allah. Also it trains you to deal with Allah only, you do what pleases him and stay away from what makes him angry. You don’t see people, you see only Allah. Whatever the people do you just don’t care as long as Allah is pleased.

The second reason is to behave yourself. To learn how to control your emotions. Even if you feel really angry, you will control you anger and will kill the feeling of revenge that you have, so that you become stronger, and not easily broken. The first time you forgive you will feel really angry, after a while you will not have this anger and then when someone hurts you, you will just smile and say I don’t care and you will treat him with goodness.

The third reason, forgiving is a way of doing dawah without speaking. If people is dealing with someone who forgives, and always finds an excuse from who hurt him, they will definitely love him. Consequently they will knew that Islam is a religion of peace.Forgiving is ruled so that hatred is not spread among people. If hatred is spread the society will corrupt. Islam is a religion based on love and peace between people, this is why Allah promised who forgive great rewards.
 
2nd: To forgive and don’t feel angry. You saw the act of the person who wants to hurt you, but you didn’t get angry, however you acted as if you didn’t see anything. In addition to forgiving him for the sake of Allah.
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You knew what he did but you didn't get angry as you don't care about what he is doing. You know that you are treating Allah in everything not persons.
 
hend.abuauf said:
You knew what he did but you didn't get angry as you don't care about what he is doing. You know that you are treating Allah in everything not persons.
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Please be informed that Islam is a way of life based on honesty, sincerity, truth, goodwill and justice.

Rather than pretend that your nation is sovereign and free, it is better to accept the truth and work from there whilst seeking to obey and please God, otherwise you are a part of the problem.

Appears that the only ones with their heads screwed on correctly are the much reviled Islamists who accept the truth and work to establish justice and truth, and it is clear that the truth and justice is with God.
 
hend.abuauf said:
I don't get what your point has to do with what i am saying
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If your nation's leaders are ruling with falsehood and injustice, the first thing to do is admit that and then work to rectify the problem, claiming you live in paradise, and that there is such a thing as democracy and freedom only exacerbates the problem and makes you a passive backer of such falsehood and injustice, if your unjust leaders and usury barons then go around blackmailing leaders of other nations in private and openly, and make them partakers in injustice it is essential that people are informed since kadhib in such a situation would be khiyaanah, and the leaders of such nations would become a part of the problem, then citizens of such domino nations would also become a part of the problem if they saw the truth but in turn decided to pretend that they were democracies, God fearing christian nations, God fearing pagan nations, and God fearing Muslim nations, since practicing such denial and self deceit would cause psychological maladies and opposition and anger when the plain and just truth is presented and strove for by the few, and if the reviled and hated few who strive for truth and justice are then persecuted, everyone else would be partakers in the injustice.

One would have to read or watch the animated "king's new clothes" in order to understand the concept.

A believer doesn't turn a blind eye to injustice and thereby become a partaker in it and thus indicate to Allah psychological preparation for ad-dajjal, and Allah is not one eyed.

The only time you ignore a problem or wrong is when there is no benefit in addressing it or because the problem is rectified.
otherwise you do your best in truth, justice and sincerity to rectify the problem and if unable, to humbly beseech God for help.
A good and successful society is one where people walk in truth, sincerity and justice in community and individually.


Without winking,
I bear witness that there is no god but Allah and i bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.
 
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Your point is correct but i am not talking about nations or leaders as they have a different ruling

What i am saying is that when you deal with your colleagues, on a personal basis, this what a muslim should do, i am not talking about enemies, i am talking about friends family colleagues and neighbors

When i say forgiving, this doesn't mean that that is the only way, there is other ways to solve problem without damage but Mentioning forgiveness is because Allah recommended forgiveness.

Sometimes you have a close friend whom you can tell about his mistake but other times you are dealing with someone whom you cant tell about his mistake but on both cases you should forgive even if you will talk to the person about the problem or not.

The point is forgiveness not how to solve your problem with others

With some people if you spoke, the problem will become bigger and un resolved and you will not be able to forgive. This is of course not recommended

Also when people learn how to live to please Allah in the first place. The society will be a better society and so the leaders. I live in a muslim country that has no justice applied but i can tell you that the people on daily basis dont apply justice between themselves

That is why i believe that each person should try to improve himself and his family and his community at that point the whole society will be rightous. This is my point of view it may be right or wrong
 
Another thing not with all people you should forgive. With some people you have to show them that you are angry so that they will not think that you are a coward or weak or un able to defend your self. This is also recommended in some situation

There is a huge difference between forgiveness and showing weakness, Allah mentioned forgiveness when you are able to revenge and with some people you have to show them that you are able to revenge but you will forgive. And with others you have to revenge if this is not the first time
 
وَأَيُّوبَ إِذْ نَادَى رَبَّهُ أَنِّي مَسَّنِيَ الضُّرُّ وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ

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And (remember) Ayub (Job), when he cried to his Lord: "Verily, distress has seized me, and You are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy."

Allah says: wa-dhkur, Allah is not in the habit of constantly repeating things which are available for study, our pragmatic scholars of the past realised that the best information they'd find is in the previous scripture and looked into it a little,

Reading the book of Job (pbuh) will show you that he kept sparring with the devil and accepting and absorbing hits and trying to pretend that all was good, it was only when he came back down to earth and realised the pity of his situation that he called upon Allah saying that he was in distress and needed Allah's mercy, and only then was he responded to.
there wasn't much in his control, so Allah made him strike a piece of grass in order to play his part, as He made Musa (pbuh) strike the sea and Maryam (as) shake the solid palm tree.
It is recorded that there were a few people including a friend who tried to tempt him to accept the pitiful situation, the devil tried to tempt him to curse Allah, but he finally learned the right method.

With Yusuf (pbuh), it was a story of pragmatism, taqwa, effort and faith in Allah, and it paid off.
he also sparred, but from a position of pragmatic faith.
they threw him in the well, and lied that a wolf had eaten him, he stuck their money back in the bag the first time, then stuck the cup in their bag the next time, and kept his brother after having told him not to stress, and accused them of theft lol. The difference was that his unjust brothers had stiven in falsehoid abd injustice, in the cause of shaytaan, and ultimately failed in their plot, and he strove in the cause of truth and justice, the cause of Allah, and was successful. He forgave them when they accepted the truth, humbly submitted to Allah, and asked him to seek forgiveness for them due to Allah having preferred him.

some scholars claim he was wrong to petition the king through the servant, but Allah makes it obvious that Yusuf did his part, since it was via the king's dream that Allah had him recalled and absolved.
he clearly said: "it was she who tried to seduce me from my true self", rather than deceive himself and others.
 
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This is your point of view and i respect it as i believe it is correct and i find that it has nothing to do with forgiveness as forgiveness doesn't mean to shut the door and all means of resolving

When the prophet re entered makkah he said to the people "اذهبوا فأنتم الطلقاء" and he let them go because he knew that they knew that he is the stronger but before that he didn't shut the door and he didn't just accept persecution in makkah but he made a hijrah to madina this has nothing to do with forgiveness

If You understand what i am saying is that forgiveness means not to take steps or reasons in any situation because of forgiveness, you misunderstand me

Forgiveness has nothing to do with all what you say

And how to you interpret the Quran verses that talk about forgiveness?
 
hend.abuauf said:
Your point is correct but i am not talking about nations or leaders as they have a different ruling

What i am saying is that when you deal with your colleagues, on a personal basis, this what a muslim should do, i am not talking about enemies, i am talking about friends family colleagues and neighbors

When i say forgiving, this doesn't mean that that is the only way, there is other ways to solve problem without damage but Mentioning forgiveness is because Allah recommended forgiveness.

Sometimes you have a close friend whom you can tell about his mistake but other times you are dealing with someone whom you cant tell about his mistake but on both cases you should forgive even if you will talk to the person about the problem or not.

The point is forgiveness not how to solve your problem with others

With some people if you spoke, the problem will become bigger and un resolved and you will not be able to forgive. This is of course not recommended

Also when people learn how to live to please Allah in the first place. The society will be a better society and so the leaders. I live in a muslim country that has no justice applied but i can tell you that the people on daily basis dont apply justice between themselves

That is why i believe that each person should try to improve himself and his family and his community at that point the whole society will be rightous. This is my point of view it may be right or wrong
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We are all humans, and servants of God, the requirement to serve God in truth, sincerity and justice applies to all people and jinn.
 
hend.abuauf said:
This is your point of view and i respect it as i believe it is correct and i find that it has nothing to do with forgiveness as forgiveness doesn't mean to shut the door and all means of resolving

When the prophet re entered makkah he said to the people "اذهبوا فأنتم الطلقاء" and he let them go because he knew that they knew that he is the stronger but before that he didn't shut the door and he didn't just accept persecution in makkah but he made a hijrah to madina this has nothing to do with forgiveness

If You understand what i am saying is that forgiveness means not to take steps or reasons in any situation because of forgiveness, you misunderstand me

Forgiveness has nothing to do with all what you say

And how to you interpret the Quran verses that talk about forgiveness?
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I will try to avoid unnecessary dispute since the truth is available in the Quran, hadith, other sources of knowledge and the intelligence gifted to the human being if used in truth and sincerity, and i will confirm the truth comprehensively - forgiveness applies when a person is in the position to forgive, and when forgiveness is not likely to result in sadistic, purposeful and willing repetition or continuation of the crime.

Allah knows best your intentions, i believe i have stated what is necessary and need to go pray 'asr
 
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I totally agree with you and this post is about this case

I agree with you in all what you said in general but i believe that we were talking in two different points [emoji846]
 
my duty is to follow the truth and just way, and your duty is to follow the truth and just way.
we witness for and against ourselves within ourselves before Allah.


Allah knows best and He is the best witness and most just of judges.
 
Sister hend, am I correct in assuming you are an Arab? The name you have is most common among Arabs (not other races), and I noticed that you quoted the Arabic of the Hadeeth and not the English. If so, "abuauf" is the tribal name?
 
Yes i am an arab but where i am from we don't have tribes just families and abuauf is the family name
 
hend.abuauf said:
Yes i am an arab but where i am from we don't have tribes just families and abuauf is the family name
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Yes, the family name. Like "al-Akhras", "abu douleh", etc. That is most common among Arabs in these times. But, those family names are - in reality - descendants from a particular tribe. With a bit of genealogy tracing, any Arab will know which tribe his family is from.

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Do you speak Fus-haa, sister, or only `Aamiyyah?
 
Abuauf is my grand grand father, after the tribe system was demolished but unfortionately i don't know what tribe is my family from, i never thought about tracing my origin before especially that it will be very difficult here [emoji846]

I speak both Fus-ha and 'Ameyyah
 

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