Of course,
Ta`addud Azwaaj is much more common among the Arabs. I am an Arab (Syrian), yet saying this. Because, I don't see what there is to be feel bad about at all. Who of this Ummah had more wives than Rasoolullaah
صلى الله عليه وسلم? He had 11 wives. Majority of Sahaabah had more than one wife each. Many had four wives. In fact, it's rare to find a Sahaabi who was married only once.
Women who are accepting of
Ta`addud Azwaaj, then, deserve to be praised. They are very honourable women. They are wholeheartedly accepting of every single aspect of Islaam. Some people only accept those parts of Islaam that "suits them". We are supposed to make our desires submit to and follow the Sharee`ah, not the other way around. Unfortunately, what we see today is so many people subjecting Islaam, the Qur'aan, the Ahaadeeth, etc. to their own whims and fancies. An Aayah of the Qur'aan or a Hadeeth will be absolutely clear and explicit about a certain matter, but they will twist it to mean something else because it does not "agree with" them. Or, to be really honest, because it doesn't agree with their Kuffaar masters such as America. They themselves are the stooges of America and they would like to take the Deen of Islaam and fillet it to produce a new version of Islaam. A new religion, rather. One that America and its allies are okay with. For now, that is. Because later on, even that filleted, spineless, half-baked mock "religion" will have to go too, because it will not be "liberal" enough, "modern" enough, satanic enough.
What is wrong with us, as Muslims? Why can we not submit wholeheartedly to the Qur'aan and the Sunnah? Allaah Ta`aalaa says in the Qur'aan Kareem, Soorah al-Baqarah:
يا أيها الذين آمنوا ادخلوا في السلم كافة
"O you who have Imaan! Enter into Islaam in entirety..."
The word used in the Aayah is "
Kaaffah". Meaning, accepting each and every last aspect of it. If you reject even a single aspect of Islaam, no matter how minute you might consider it to be (although no aspect of Islaam is minute), then you have not entered into Islaam
Kaaffatan "in entirety".
Ta`addud Azwaaj is one such aspect of Islaam which people these days generally have a terrible dislike for.
So, rather than it being an insult, it is instead a very big compliment to say that a particular group of Muslim ladies believe in and accept
Ta`addud Azwaaj.
What we heard is that the Muslim ladies from Malaysia and Indonesia are more accepting of
Ta`addud Azwaaj as compared to others. We have not verified this statement and we stand to be corrected. Brother ardianto, for example, says that it isn't true, and he is from that area, so we will take his word until we have substantial evidence to the contrary.
In summary: It would be a very good and noble thing if the Muslim ladies there are like that.
