make dua please

[noor grant]

i am writing this to ask for duas to help me fight this fitna in my life. i have being considering to be a non practising muslim more and more. even on the verge of leaving islam and practising modest conservative christianity.
It all started when i divorced a muslim who was very unfair and rude to me and my family. I got nothing but flack from the muslim community and rude comments and insinuations that i was a weak muslimah and caused the divorce or did something to drive him away. I only recieve empathy from christians to be honest. I only recieve support, and care to recover from divorce from christians. The mosque and the muslims in my city did nothing to console me in fact they are more harsh and judgemental then anyone. I try to say they don't matter and I have allah. but its hard. I feel i owe more gratitude to the christian communities and infrastructure who saved me and built up my esteem and security again literally and figuritively.
I still have muslim girls who I can talk to occasionally but they stay preoccupied with other things and do not have time for me.
i have even been attracted to marrying a christian man before but I never did it...something does hold me back. But I think if one did propose to me and i like his character, his acceptance and he allowed me to raise my kids as i like. then i would accept.
ugh, subhana allah. I just don't know why the muslims in the west are less understanding and less empathetic then the christians. please make dua that i don't leave allah.

 

[nourkhair]

I think you are right it is hard not to care what people think but then again you should know feel that way because its always the people around you that judge you people from outside your community can't judge you. When times are hard you are being tested. So please be patient just because some muslim people bother you does not make all muslims bad or your religion. Instead focus on your faith or lack of faith. Because people can be cruel but thats no reason to leave reason to leave a religion unless you already had doubts before hand. Ask yourself
Do you not like being a muslim and Why.
Did you even try to be a practising muslim with your heart in it.

 

[noor grant]

yes i was very practising before i met my husband. but his lack of faith influenced me in a bad way...

 

[noor grant]

I have prayed for years. I have met so many bad muslim men, men who cheat in my opinion because i believe in one man one woman, but they were married and looking for another wife behind their wives back.
I have met men obsessed with intimate relations and only wanting that out of marriage and i had to block them literally because they were harassing and immature
And men who want to waste my time and never introduce me to their parents like they should promptly
. I don't go to bars and clubs either to meet people. these people I met on regular marriage sites because the mosque told me i was too fat to marry and they refused to help me!!! since they told me that i left them to their own rudeness and never asked them for help again. I find them rude and judgemental.
I have met a loving, kind, respectful, god fearing, kind, loyal, trustworthy, honest, compassionate and attentive man who is not muslim. I don't care about his label. I know his heart and mind is pure. I find him more compatible and then any muslim I have ever met. I don't want to look for others ever again because this man would take care of me forever and does take care of me. he nurtures me and shows compassion and empathy. he helps me grow and helps me fight all the negative stuff. he is aware of islam but doesn't believe its fair to woman...which is valid because how can it be fair if a muslim man can marry a christian and a muslim woman like me can't marry this decent loving honest guy who has been better to me then anyone?

 

[AbdurRahman.]

Sister no matter what Muslims say and how they treat you, if u apostate and die as non-muslim it will be an eternity in hell, so you have to hang on to Islam for dear life

 

[Umm♥Layth]

i am writing this to ask for duas to help me fight this fitna in my life. i have being considering to be a non practising muslim more and more. even on the verge of leaving islam and practising modest conservative christianity.
It all started when i divorced a muslim who was very unfair and rude to me and my family. I got nothing but flack from the muslim community and rude comments and insinuations that i was a weak muslimah and caused the divorce or did something to drive him away. I only recieve empathy from christians to be honest. I only recieve support, and care to recover from divorce from christians. The mosque and the muslims in my city did nothing to console me in fact they are more harsh and judgemental then anyone. I try to say they don't matter and I have allah. but its hard. I feel i owe more gratitude to the christian communities and infrastructure who saved me and built up my esteem and security again literally and figuritively.
I still have muslim girls who I can talk to occasionally but they stay preoccupied with other things and do not have time for me.
i have even been attracted to marrying a christian man before but I never did it...something does hold me back. But I think if one did propose to me and i like his character, his acceptance and he allowed me to raise my kids as i like. then i would accept.
ugh, subhana allah. I just don't know why the muslims in the west are less understanding and less empathetic then the christians. please make dua that i don't leave allah.

I'm a former divorcee and I can relate to the unsupportive environment of the Muslim community. I don't think it has anything to do with the west, in fact, if you were in the east you would have gotten even more flack and humiliation. I was engaged twice before re-marrying and both times I was made to feel like I owed the men something for marrying a divorcee LOL, please, the privilege was theirs. They stupidly didn't realize the good deeds they's accumulate by marrying somebody with a child. It is all from ignorance and cultural bias sis.

Think of your situation as a TEST OF FAITH. Clearly, Allah said in the Quran, that merely saying "I believe" isn't enough. You'll be put to the test and in my estimation, dealing with an unloving and unaccepting community is part of this test. It personally made me realize that yes, I wanted to remain a Muslim, but I never, ever wanted to be like them and here I am, many years down the road, ready to change the status quo. I don't care if I stand alone, but I WILL stand against all this ignorance and retarded behavior that comes from inflated egos.

I know it isn't easy to make lemonade when life throws you lemons, but please do try to look at the good in your situation. The Christian community may seem appealing at the time (I also experienced similar things to you) and very inviting, but you have to look deep within and remember why you became a Muslim. Was it for your ex husband? Was it for the community? Why are you seeking support from people when you can easily turn to Allah? don't depend on any human and never have expectations of them because they will always disappoint you. If I told you the things I went through with the community... it would be a huge embarrassment to any Muslim who read it, so I'll spare the details.

There WILL be better days. Take time to heal and focus on yourself. Forget about jumping into another relationship so soon. You need to find love for Allah, love for yourself and love for your deen before going there again. Enjoy this time! When it is time to look again, do not do it the same way you've been doing it. Get close to Allah and have HIM arrange a marriage for you, it will be amazing insha'Allah, you'll see!

 

[Serinity]

A Muslim Woman can only marry a Muslim man. This is your test. Remember your purpose. you did not enter Islam for the community, or the people, but for Allah. Because it is the Truth.

Allahu alam.