Imraan
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Assalamwalaikum. Advice please.
Can we encounter people that are very humane and have the best of character yet they may not be practising Islam or any other faith in that matter?
I think its possible and I think it would be narrow minded to regard someone as not being of good character just because they don't observe their faith the way they are supposed to or any faith in that matter. I think it's absolutely possible for example look at humanitarian workers, they have got to be motivated, compassionate empathetic selfless and charitable enough to do what they do. There are volunteers who would claim they didn't believe in any religion, any god but their actions are 'I'm guessing' based merely on the notion of preserving humanity.
Normally a good character has to have a basis on something / a foundation to always fall back on. We as muslims of the practising type think twice before our actions and try to base our morals / behaviour on Islamic ettiquette as well as our parental upbringing where those of us have been privileged to receive in various degrees.
Moving on, when meeting new people as colleagues or friends or friends of friends or someone who takes part in local masjid outdoor activities but you never see them for salaah or when looking for a potential spouse is it fair to disregard someone that honestly and outrightly
from the outset claimed 'they weren't practicing and don't observe daily prayers etc.' although they come across as nice, down to earth and of sound character. Is it better to keep them at a distance and keep reservations on them?
From a marriage perspective (as theres a lot riding on it, it's a life changing event and a very big decision and in the end Allah swt knows what the outcome will be way before you even thought about anticipating such event), as practising muslims should we be looking for like for like or set a suitable minimum shouldnt we as a means of precaution? Theres only so many precautions one can take and it can still end badly. Being too precautious also limits and places restrictions in getting married. Finding middle ground can also be difficult too. What should people do? Pray and hope for the best or be patient and tell one self it's not all doom and gloom despite worrying about society and what it is turning into. (I realise I may be referring to my own insecure views here but still a valid point in general on a global scale)
In my view of the people who are muslims in my community / country UK the pool for the non practising types is / or has already surpassed the volume of people who do actively practise Islam to a minimum I.e. daily salaahs and remembrance of Allah swt. In Ramadan and on eid celebrations majority of people who are Muslim by identity come out and this number grows every year. However all the other days of the year the numbers that partake in daily salaah etc seem like a small fraction.
So other than praying Is there anything else we can do?
My understanding is that I don't judge people just by looking at them or on a first or 2nd encounter. I look at how well and how long have I known them and guestimate what their character might be like based on their actions. Off course when it comes to marriage it's hard to gauge what truly lies in someone's heart because we just don't know them well enough at a level detailed enough, hence why we have all these character references, family background checks and all sorts.
Jazakumullah Khair
Imran
Can we encounter people that are very humane and have the best of character yet they may not be practising Islam or any other faith in that matter?
I think its possible and I think it would be narrow minded to regard someone as not being of good character just because they don't observe their faith the way they are supposed to or any faith in that matter. I think it's absolutely possible for example look at humanitarian workers, they have got to be motivated, compassionate empathetic selfless and charitable enough to do what they do. There are volunteers who would claim they didn't believe in any religion, any god but their actions are 'I'm guessing' based merely on the notion of preserving humanity.
Normally a good character has to have a basis on something / a foundation to always fall back on. We as muslims of the practising type think twice before our actions and try to base our morals / behaviour on Islamic ettiquette as well as our parental upbringing where those of us have been privileged to receive in various degrees.
Moving on, when meeting new people as colleagues or friends or friends of friends or someone who takes part in local masjid outdoor activities but you never see them for salaah or when looking for a potential spouse is it fair to disregard someone that honestly and outrightly
from the outset claimed 'they weren't practicing and don't observe daily prayers etc.' although they come across as nice, down to earth and of sound character. Is it better to keep them at a distance and keep reservations on them?
From a marriage perspective (as theres a lot riding on it, it's a life changing event and a very big decision and in the end Allah swt knows what the outcome will be way before you even thought about anticipating such event), as practising muslims should we be looking for like for like or set a suitable minimum shouldnt we as a means of precaution? Theres only so many precautions one can take and it can still end badly. Being too precautious also limits and places restrictions in getting married. Finding middle ground can also be difficult too. What should people do? Pray and hope for the best or be patient and tell one self it's not all doom and gloom despite worrying about society and what it is turning into. (I realise I may be referring to my own insecure views here but still a valid point in general on a global scale)
In my view of the people who are muslims in my community / country UK the pool for the non practising types is / or has already surpassed the volume of people who do actively practise Islam to a minimum I.e. daily salaahs and remembrance of Allah swt. In Ramadan and on eid celebrations majority of people who are Muslim by identity come out and this number grows every year. However all the other days of the year the numbers that partake in daily salaah etc seem like a small fraction.
So other than praying Is there anything else we can do?
My understanding is that I don't judge people just by looking at them or on a first or 2nd encounter. I look at how well and how long have I known them and guestimate what their character might be like based on their actions. Off course when it comes to marriage it's hard to gauge what truly lies in someone's heart because we just don't know them well enough at a level detailed enough, hence why we have all these character references, family background checks and all sorts.
Jazakumullah Khair
Imran
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