Divorce laws reform in England and Wales

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Junon said:
Im disappointed with the OP, I know its not intended but we shouldn't encourage inadvertently the 'casualisation' of marriage. We know where it can lead.
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I believe, and I might be wrong since I am far from an expert at these things, that what the OP meant is not that divorce should be trivial.

My understanding of "no blame" divorce laws is not that people can casually divorce for no reason. But that traditionally countries required one spouse to officially blame (as in on a public record) the other for something in order to ask for a divorce. This leads to court battles over children and money. And ends up costing more money than it is worth and causing even more stress for everyone in the family. The idea of it being "no blame" simply means that if there is an issue that they consider is serious enough and that is unable to be fixed, both husband and wife can both agree to divorce without publicly stating the other one's wrongdoing to the government.

Naturally, a divorce is a VERY serious thing and should only be undertaken as a last resort if there are no other possibilities and everything has been tried to fix the issue.
 
The OP's post is clear, he was just showing that what the western world just progressed in now in regards to divorce, Islam had it 14 centuries ago. I think it's important to point things like this out so people see that Islam is already what people are only getting civilised in now. This is an excellent way of dawah
 
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Mandy said:
I believe, and I might be wrong since I am far from an expert at these things, that what the OP meant is not that divorce should be trivial.

My understanding of "no blame" divorce laws is not that people can casually divorce for no reason. But that traditionally countries required one spouse to officially blame (as in on a public record) the other for something in order to ask for a divorce. This leads to court battles over children and money. And ends up costing more money than it is worth and causing even more stress for everyone in the family. The idea of it being "no blame" simply means that if there is an issue that they consider is serious enough and that is unable to be fixed, both husband and wife can both agree to divorce without publicly stating the other one's wrongdoing to the government.

Naturally, a divorce is a VERY serious thing and should only be undertaken as a last resort if there are no other possibilities and everything has been tried to fix the issue.
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Jazaakallah khair sister for articulating what I was trying to get across but in a better way than I did, and it seems I should have used a better, clearer choice of words, as my words have caused misinterpretation, even among those who know my posts over the years, and I apologise for this.

One example of what you have stated above, is the following hadeeth well known by those studying Islamic family law and divorce law, when the wife of Thabit bin Qais wanted khula from her husband. Note the dignified way in which she did not apportion any blame to him:

Narrated Ibn `Abbas (May Allah be pleased with them both)
The wife of Thabit bin Qais bin Shammas came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I do not blame Thabit for any defects in his character or his religion, but I am afraid that I (being a Muslim) may become unthankful for Allah's Blessings." On that, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said (to her), 'Will you return his garden to him?" She said, "Yes." So she returned his garden to him and the Prophet (ﷺ) told him to divorce her.

Sahih al Bukhari 5276
https://sunnah.com/bukhari/68/25

Some translations of the hadeeth say “I fear I may fall into disbelief” .

And Allah knows best and may He forgive me for any mistakes.
 
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