My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

[BeTheChange]

Police won't disclose details 1) Data Protection 2) Fear of retaliation 3) Don't have time or resources to investigate 4) Does not view the incident as a 'crime'

The law works in favour of the criminals that's why there are so many vigilante groups.

 

[Studentofdeed]

Police won't disclose details 1) Data Protection 2) Fear of retaliation 3) Don't have time or resources to investigate 4) Does not view the incident as a 'crime'

The law works in favour of the criminals that's why there are so many vigilante groups.

Wow surely in a western country it would be more developed. How are they any different from the thrid world countries with police. In the US, they arrest anyone who even looks at them wrong

 

[Imraan]

As you can imagine its been very stressful dealing with the police and calling local councillors etc to make sure it is not once again left on the back burner.

i've had suggested to me that I should make a short video of how this marriage journey started with hopes and dreams to now showing how we are oppressed and the length's this family is going to by their cowardly acts, to oppress me and my family, the video will highlight my experience and my thoughts on who we are dealing with.

if published and goes viral throughout the UK once it reaches London, it will defame and disgrace the reputation of the family. I don't plan to call them out by name or pictures.... because that would be bad, i plan to highlight my marriage experience with so and so family, i shouldnt be location specific as it would not be fair on the rest of the community. But at the same time there will be some helpful tips here and there to aid the non marrieds...

The video will have every chance to gain sympathy from the public however it may make the London family increase their oppression and may escalate it from stones and bricks to something else.

I'm just worried about the consequences thats all and whether im ready to face them bearing in mind i have my family to worry about, these people are cowards, shameless and clearly have no morals towards humanity.

Leaving it all in Allah's hands and sitting back and doin nothin about it won't solve this problem, i think we've sat back long enough.

the police are saying the evidence so far is not enough, its my word against those who were stopped on the motorway, so getting a prosecution may be difficult, i feel let down but I will continue to fight, i risked my life pursuing these guys just to get them caught!

theres so much going on at the moment, corona virus, black lives matter, the death of the 12year old school girl caused by her fellow pupils, no job/on furlough, the trauma and the resistance to injustice and unjust people.

if only i could take my family, leave town and settle somewhere else under a different identity just to survive this madness.

 

[Al-Ansariyah]

Assalamualaikum

if published and goes viral throughout the UK once it reaches London, it will defame and disgrace the reputation of the family.

Not just reputation, but sympathies from people will lead you to more depressing thoughts. You will get drained into it which will eventually affect your health, I believe.

Leaving it all in Allah's hands and sitting back and doin nothin about it won't solve this problem, i think we've sat back long enough.

Absolutely, don't let yourself be oppressed so much. It's not good. Know that there isn't any barrier between the invocation of oppressor and Allah SWT. Umm... Is there any way you can convey this bold written message to them? It can be indirectly. At least it will instill a fear in their hearts ,even if it's of atom's weight. Don't give up, try all the means,if they don't work wait for justice in akhirah. This life is gonna end soon and you will definitely get justice from the BEST JUDGE.
There's a hadith I got:
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation or anything else, he should beg him to forgive him before the Day of Resurrection when there will be no money (to compensate for wrong deeds), but if he has good deeds, those good deeds will be taken from him according to his oppression which he has done, and if he has no good deeds, the sins of the oppressed person will be loaded on him."

 

[Imraan]

Assalamualaikum
Not just reputation, but sympathies from people will lead you to more depressing thoughts. You will get drained into it which will eventually affect your health, I believe.
Absolutely, don't let yourself be oppressed so much. It's not good. Know that there isn't any barrier between the invocation of oppressor and Allah SWT. Umm... Is there any way you can convey this bold written message to them? It can be indirectly. At least it will instill a fear in their hearts ,even if it's of atom's weight. Don't give up, try all the means,if they don't work wait for justice in akhirah. This life is gonna end soon and you will definitely get justice from the BEST JUDGE.
There's a hadith I got:
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation or anything else, he should beg him to forgive him before the Day of Resurrection when there will be no money (to compensate for wrong deeds), but if he has good deeds, those good deeds will be taken from him according to his oppression which he has done, and if he has no good deeds, the sins of the oppressed person will be loaded on him."

Clearly the people who I am dealing don't care about life in the grave, the akhira, they're not into guidance, I tried to help my ex wife when she was with me, it just didn't want to sink in. I guess thats why I include in my daily prayer for Allah swt to teach them and to use whatever means necessary.

I don't need the sympathies for comfort, I need sympathies for support, there may be some brothers out there in my town that may get inspired to come and help me. its hard asking for help especially with this situation where they come randomly on any given night to destroy my home. Whilst I pray for relief and rescue from Allah swt I feel that if it hasn't come in form of a miracle then it has to come to me in the form of humans. I need people, I need strength, I need righteous, i need brave, if you watch the CCTV video's you would be appalled the way they come and vandalise my house. I am one man in my house with two women. I used to be ashamed (to expose my stupidity, stupid choices which led me to these circumstances) to ask for help, I never used to like people pitying me, now I have no shame and open to anyone willing to help me.

The sight of my mother in shock last sunday was too much, she was in the middle of prayer, BANG BANG BANG!, she was frantic, I can't have that again I will persevere in capturing these people to get to the bottom of it. To make things worse, these are Bengali Muslims, i've heard about people doing these things as a one off to get something off their chest but five times....? these people are destined for hell Insh Allah.

for a long time my heart has been suffering from grief, brother in the video describes it...

being on the receiving end of oppression this long.... it has made my life miserable as the brother says...

 

[keiv]

Brother, have you thought about getting a private investigator? If you were able to get their car information, that's enough for them to work off of to track them down and get you whatever information you need to figure out who they are.

 

[IslamLife00]

The police said there is not enough evidence? Nothing in the CCTV video they can use?
Moving somewhere else may be safer, but you can't be certain they will stop. Unless you move somewhere far, but every place has its challenges.
Making a video, I think will make it worse for you.
Make dua and keep doing whatever you need to do. It may take some time but inshaAllah this matter will be solved completely and you can move forward in life with ease.
Try make dua upon breaking fast, one of the times in which dua is answered.

[FONT=&quot]It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:There are three whose supplications are not turned back: A just ruler, and a fasting person until he breaks his fast. And, the supplication of one who has been wronged is raised by Allah up to the clouds on the Day of Resurrection, and the gates of heaven are opened for it, and Allah says, ‘By My Might I will help you (against the wrongdoer) even if it is after a while.’” (Sunan Ibn Majah)[/FONT]

 

[Imraan]

Brother, have you thought about getting a private investigator? If you were able to get their car information, that's enough for them to work off of to track them down and get you whatever information you need to figure out who they are.

Alhamdulillah, All praises to Allah swt, the UK's ANPR (Automatic Number Plate Recognition) has traced the vehicle leaving london, the vandals have driven from london to cause damage and then drive back. Insh Allah we get a prosecution, I have been told that arrests are imminent for those individuals that were apprehended in the vehicle when they were stopped on the motorway. it's with the police investigator at the moment and the Lonodn MET will be liaised with. I pray they discover evidence which implicates members of my ex wife's family as they are the ones ordering it and financing it.

Please remember me and my family in your prayers. Jazak Allah

 

[Imraan]

The police said there is not enough evidence? Nothing in the CCTV video they can use?
Moving somewhere else may be safer, but you can't be certain they will stop. Unless you move somewhere far, but every place has its challenges.
Making a video, I think will make it worse for you.
Make dua and keep doing whatever you need to do. It may take some time but inshaAllah this matter will be solved completely and you can move forward in life with ease.
Try make dua upon breaking fast, one of the times in which dua is answered.

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:There are three whose supplications are not turned back: A just ruler, and a fasting person until he breaks his fast. And, the supplication of one who has been wronged is raised by Allah up to the clouds on the Day of Resurrection, and the gates of heaven are opened for it, and Allah says, ‘By My Might I will help you (against the wrongdoer) even if it is after a while.’” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Can't move somewhere else due to current covid situation and financial reasons, even if I did, they probably will attack my relatives houses instead.

Police are acting upon evidence, the ANPR details, my live eyewitness account in the emergency call, if the police do their job right and by Allah swt will they will, these criminals will come clean and we will have a successful prosecution insh Allah, even better if it can be linked it to the ex's family in London.

with the CCTV these guys came wearing hoods and bandanas covering their mouths as masks.... they did say the CCTV alone is not enough as per the previous four occasions. This is why I had to try and obtain a number plate and get these guys caught at the same time.

I believe everything that happened that night, happened by Allah's will. Them coming at 11:20pm and fate that I was able to get out of my house so quick, get in my car, drive to their escape route, spot them so quickly and follow them until they were caught. Chance favoured me that night Alhamdulillah and I believe that all happened by Allah's will.

 

[IslamLife00]

the police are saying the evidence so far is not enough, its my word against those who were stopped on the motorway, so getting a prosecution may be difficult, i feel let down but I will continue to fight, i risked my life pursuing these guys just to get them caught!
theres so much going on at the moment, corona virus, black lives matter, the death of the 12year old school girl caused by her fellow pupils, no job/on furlough, the trauma and the resistance to injustice and unjust people.
if only i could take my family, leave town and settle somewhere else under a different identity just to survive this madness.

Can't move somewhere else due to current covid situation and financial reasons, even if I did, they probably will attack my relatives houses instead.

Police are acting upon evidence, the ANPR details, my live eyewitness account in the emergency call, if the police do their job right and by Allah swt will they will, these criminals will come clean and we will have a successful prosecution insh Allah, even better if it can be linked it to the ex's family in London.
with the CCTV these guys came wearing hoods and bandanas covering their mouths as masks.... they did say the CCTV alone is not enough as per the previous four occasions. This is why I had to try and obtain a number plate and get these guys caught at the same time.
I believe everything that happened that night, happened by Allah's will. Them coming at 11:20pm and fate that I was able to get out of my house so quick, get in my car, drive to their escape route, spot them so quickly and follow them until they were caught. Chance favoured me that night Alhamdulillah and I believe that all happened by Allah's will.

Alhamdulillah I just read your last post # 209.
When I wrote my reply # 207, you were saying the police doesn't have enough evidence (# 203). InshaAllah now they do.
Everything happens by Allah's permission, bi'idhnillah.

 

[taha_]

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu.


How are you now brother? Is everything going well? May Allah help you and your family


JazakAllah khair

 

[Imraan]

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu.


How are you now brother? Is everything going well? May Allah help you and your family


JazakAllah khair

Walaikum salaam brother taha...thanks for remembering us. I think I'm still suffering the trauma and did have tension headaches. Seems to be getting better now Alhamdulillah. I ask myself "how am I ever going to get out of this?", constantly invoking "wallahul musta'an" and prophet ibrahim as dua when he was in the fire. Praying praying and prayin. Only Allah swt knows how this ends or can end.

It's on our mind everyday and my mother is worried about the whole thing. I go to sleep 3am everyday after fajr keeping an eye on CCTV waiting in case these goons from london come again.

Police investigation slow, I'm having to phone up every other day, they havent even sent the case to the london MET yet and it's been 3 weeks.

Please continue praying for me and my family. Jzk

 

[bint e aisha]

May Allah protect you and your family.

 

[Islami.Mu'mina]

Brother, I just found this post realizing it was you from the Why Fathers Matter post. I can see what you meant everything being complicated. May Allah protect you and your daughter!

 

[Studentofdeed]

Ameen

 

[Imraan]

Brother, I just found this post realizing it was you from the Why Fathers Matter post. I can see what you meant everything being complicated. May Allah protect you and your daughter!

Pray there is good stuff and corrections in our lives to come in abundance. I mean it could have been worse but still me and my family are taking some enemy fire in a social environment where it is considered very rare to get to this level.

 

[xboxisdead]

Pray there is good stuff and corrections in our lives to come in abundance. I mean it could have been worse but still me and my family are taking some enemy fire in a social environment where it is considered very rare to get to this level.

That is the problem...you said the keyword "considered" where in fact it is as common as breathing. Your situation IS the majority and until we wake up it is not going to change...

 

[Imraan]

That is the problem...you said the keyword "considered" where in fact it is as common as breathing. Your situation IS the majority and until we wake up it is not going to change...

Scary isn't it, how failed marriages can lead to family feuds, suffering of others, perverting the course of justice, arson and criminal damage, list goes on.... Asthagfirullah!..... People need to be wary of the punishment of the grave! they only realise when its too late, like on their death bed and days leading up to it. Many people show remorse in the 'end days', by then it is too late! then again Allahu Aaalaam

However there is no escaping pre-destination. Me and my family were meant to go through this. All with the permission of Allah swt. Please remember us in your prayers, may he make it easy for me and my family.

 

[xboxisdead]

Scary isn't it, how failed marriages can lead to family feuds, suffering of others, perverting the course of justice, arson and criminal damage, list goes on.... Asthagfirullah!..... People need to be wary of the punishment of the grave! they only realise when its too late, like on their death bed and days leading up to it. Many people show remorse in the 'end days', by then it is too late! then again Allahu Aaalaam

However there is no escaping pre-destination. Me and my family were meant to go through this. All with the permission of Allah swt. Please remember us in your prayers, may he make it easy for me and my family.

I have a question for both men AND women out there in the world (including me). How many of us are ready to die now and go to the grave? How many of us are ready to die with a safe heart?

Yet we do things opposite of obtaining the safe heart.

 

[Imraan]

I am speechless...

earlier this month the ex filed for an order called a non molestation order ex-parte (without notice to the accused) with the most outrageous conditions which was granted by the family court on a provisional basis, the first hearing in regards to this order takes place 30th of this month where I can challenge it. I didnt think anything of it.

out the blue monday morning police come to my house asking for me, they then phone me because im not at home and tell me to come to station for 30 minutes. so i agree to come after work. I go there at 6, get arrested at 632pm and booked into custody detention at 7pm, they remove all belongings on me, they say not long for interview now. its now after 8pm and im still stuck in cell, they say no interviewing officers available and that i have to stay overnight. the following day i stay in the cell until 3pm, the interview is done at 3pm and i am let go 4:30pm, they give me everything back apart from my phone.

the allegations are that ive been sending malicious text messages, i haven't, they have no evidence incriminating me, just my name and conditions that im not supposed to be threatening the ex wife etc.

The ex wife and her family have staged these text messages weeks after they filed the order and then logged it with police blaming me. The police were very quick in arresting me. Yet here I am trying to get police support for what me and my family have been going through and it has been hard to get.

I've got some more court hearings this year regarding my daughter, this stunt was pulled by the ex to defame my standing in these hearings to make it difficult for me. The mere mention of being arrested and investigated will influence judges for sure.

I will probably decide something about my daughter by the end of the year. Can't live like this.

Bi'idnillah