*** Allaah loves to see the effect of His blessings on His Slaves ***

[Zaheer A Khan]

Bismillaah:

Abu Nadrah رضي الله عنه relates:

" I came to the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم while (I was) shabbily dressed. He said, ‘Do you have wealth? I said, Yes. He said, What (kind of) wealth? I said, All kinds (from) camels and slaves and horses and sheep. So he said, '' If Allaah gives you wealth, then let it be seen (on you).''

Takhreej:

{ Imam Ahmad in his Musnad # 15457 with a Qaawi [ Strong ] chain }

Another Hadeeth:

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:

"Allaah loves to see the effects of His blessing on His slave."

Another Hadeeth :

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:

" None will enter Paradise who has an atom’s weight of pride in his heart." A man said, "We like to wear nice clothes and nice shoes." He صلى الله عليه وسلم said: (It is not like what you understand), "Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty. Pride means denying the truth and looking down on people."

Takhreej:

{ Imam Muslim in his Saheeh #131 and At Tirmidhi in his Jami }

Imam Ibn al Qayyim Al Jauziyyah رحمه الله تعالى commented :

"Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty, includes the beautiful clothing which was asked about (in the same hadeeth). It is a generalization that means beauty in all things… Allaah عروجل loves the effects of His blessings to His slave to be made manifest, for this is part of the beauty that He loves, and that is part of the gratitude for His blessings which forms an inner beauty (beauty of character). Allaah loves to see the external beauty of His slaves which reflects His blessings on them, and the inner beauty of their gratitude to Him for those blessings.''

{ Al Fawaa'id 1/185 }

Beauty in clothing and outward appearance is of two types, one which is commendable and one which is blameworthy. The kind of beauty which is to be commended is that which is done for the sake of Allaah عروجل and in helping to obey Him and fulfill His Commands. What is condemned is the extravagance in clothing or food and drink or in housing etc. that can lead to destructive pride and haughtiness.

*** And Allaah knows عروجل best ***

 

[Flos]

And what about hassad?

 

[Ümit]

And what about hassad?

What about it? İ dont understand your question.

 

[Flos]

What about it? İ dont understand your question.

When you show happiness, someone could envy you and cause ayn and hassad...

 

[Ümit]

When you show happiness, someone could envy you and cause ayn and hassad...

Yes, that is why the last few sentences of brother Zaheer A Khan's post is important:

{ Al Fawaa'id 1/185 }Beauty in clothing and outward appearance is of two types, one which is commendable and one which is blameworthy. The kind of beauty which is to be commended is that which is done for the sake of Allaah عروجل and in helping to obey Him and fulfill His Commands. What is condemned is the extravagance in clothing or food and drink or in housing etc. that can lead to destructive pride and haughtiness.*** And Allaah knows عروجل best ***

in other words, you should find a golden mean where you are not a scrooge (you have enough money, but you put on old worn out clothes as if you cannot afford anymore than that...but you also do not exaggerate and spend half your salary on stuff to look good for people when you actually cannot afford it.

So, if you have found that golden mean, than others that cause ayn and hassad is their problem...because you are not doing it for them...you are doing it for yourself, you look after yourself, and you do it because Allah wants you to take care of yourself.

Exaggertation can go both ways...either
you spend too much to look good where you cannot afford it (be modest)
or
you spend too little and you look unkempt where you should pay more attention to your appearance.

 

[Flos]

Yes, that is why the last few sentences of brother Zaheer A Khan's post is important:


in other words, you should find a golden mean where you are not a scrooge (you have enough money, but you put on old worn out clothes as if you cannot afford anymore than that...but you also do not exaggerate and spend half your salary on stuff to look good for people when you actually cannot afford it.

So, if you have found that golden mean, than others that cause ayn and hassad is their problem...because you are not doing it for them...you are doing it for yourself, you look after yourself, and you do it because Allah wants you to take care of yourself.

Exaggertation can go both ways...either
you spend too much to look good where you cannot afford it (be modest)
or
you spend too little and you look unkempt where you should pay more attention to your appearance.

Thanks brother for explaining. And "taking care of ourselves" is a good reminder. For instance, I have to work on that a lot. I don't care about myself, rather about others and then I end up in troubles. I had been a bit scared of putting myself first...

 

[Ümit]

Thanks brother for explaining. And "taking care of ourselves" is a good reminder. For instance, I have to work on that a lot. I don't care about myself, rather about others and then I end up in troubles. I had been a bit scared of putting myself first...

Yes, that is the problem of a lot of people who try to be a good person. Helping is never bad...you should always help other people if you are able to do so.
However it starts to be a problem when other people let you help them just because of their own convenience...because then, it is not helping anymore...it is taking advantage of someone.

There was this guy living in our town...our families know each other...one day his dishwasher broke down and he asked me if I could repair it...so I went to his house, discovered the malfunctioning part, ordered a new one and repaired his dishwasher...he was so happy, he thanked me a thousand times.
I felt really good about it. Then after a while he started to call me more frequently to repair stuff, usually something small like a toaster or mixer or something...and everytime he did thank me a lot...and I never suspected anything behind it.

But when he asked me to repair a second toaster (a different one than the first one) I got suspicious...because which person owns two toasters and uses them both at the same time?
and why would someone ask anyone to repair his toaster when he has a second one at home?

So I started to get suspicious and discovered that he collected those broken stuff...let me repair them and then sold them for a few bucks at the flea market.

I never confronted him with this...but I did stop helping this guy out.

 

[Flos]

Yes, that is the problem of a lot of people who try to be a good person. Helping is never bad...you should always help other people if you are able to do so.
However it starts to be a problem when other people let you help them just because of their own convenience...because then, it is not helping anymore...it is taking advantage of someone.

There was this guy living in our town...our families know each other...one day his dishwasher broke down and he asked me if I could repair it...so I went to his house, discovered the malfunctioning part, ordered a new one and repaired his dishwasher...he was so happy, he thanked me a thousand times.
I felt really good about it. Then after a while he started to call me more frequently to repair stuff, usually something small like a toaster or mixer or something...and everytime he did thank me a lot...and I never suspected anything behind it.

But when he asked me to repair a second toaster (a different one than the first one) I got suspicious...because which person owns two toasters and uses them both at the same time?
and why would someone ask anyone to repair his toaster when he has a second one at home?

So I started to get suspicious and discovered that he collected those broken stuff...let me repair them and then sold them for a few bucks at the flea market.

I never confronted him with this...but I did stop helping this guy out.

That's a good example! To me, emotional manipulation is the worst. That makes me think of Judgment day a lot and then I don't know what to do. Like, what if that person never forgives me for not helping (although I can't help)...