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I need your advice. Please be honest and tell me what I should do. I feel embarrassed asking as I'm worried I might be being a bit greedy. But I can't help feeling used.

What happened is I told my friend that I'm staring a business making islamic clothing from home. My friend gave me some clothes to sew for her daughter and niece. I made four sets but didn't charge her because it was the first time and she is my friend.


The week after she gave me 50 sari blouses to alter. When I saw 50 blouses I nearly fainted and jokingly said I am going to charge her £5 per blouse. I havent done them yet. Then last week she gave me material to sew 3 jilbaabs for her daughter and niece. When she came to collect them, I expected her to ask how much money she owed me. But she took the clothes and left. I felt too embarrassed to say anything.

I now realise that she expects me to do everything for free. Maybe because I didnt charge her the first time. I feel sad about the whole thing. I feel ashamed too as I think I may be being greedy. But I started this to make money in the first place.

Now I don't know what to do or how to rectify the situation. Am I being greedy or is it justified of me to expect to be paid. Please advise me. I feel so incompetant. :(

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Just tell her straight if she's a friend she'll understand.
 
No,you're not being greedy.

your friend should have the sense to pay you without you having to ask.

Especially since theres 50 of 'em :rollseyes
 
It seems that your friend is asking for too much sis. I mean, a couple of blouses here and there for free is ok since she's your friend... but 50? Come on now. I wouldn't even ask my sister to do that! Anyway, you can find my answer in the other thread you put up in the sis section.
Hope i helped a little bit.
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Aslaam'alaikum

Your friend should know better because that is just being ungreatful on her behalf. If you don't want to confront her about it, just dont do them for her and when she asks why the clothes aren't done just tell her that you are busy with your business and people are 'paying' for their clothes to be sewen so you have to give them priority...

it's abit funny aswell.
 
Aww MashAllah...you so sweet bl3$$...Ukhty you aint greedy Nah nah nah, just asking for whts right InshAllah, if she a true mate InshAllah she will understand..Peace! and good luck, do whats right sister! x
 
Oh thank you, thank you for your replies. I was beginning to lose hope lol. May Allah reward you all. Ameen.

I feel better and not so greedy now but how should I say it? Some words would be helpful plzzz :?


DaNgErOuS MiNdS said:
it's abit funny aswell.
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bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet :heated:
 
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hehe yeh no harm in saying that you charge a fee, that's purely halal business.

Hehe its a bit of a lesson for the future though, personally (and even islamically) you should neverrrr start anything unless you've got a contract written up... coz even if she's ur best friend, misunderstandings and misinterpretations can occur and unease begings to occur and shaytan gets involved.

so in future set things straight from the beginning, write it on paper, do it the Islamic way, trust mee ti saves sooo much hassles and embaresments later on, and it keeps you both really good freinds.

for now, just say you're charging a fee, purely halal, its not being greedy... it's just being a good business person ;)
 
salam
sis, you are using your time to help your friend, surely your frined will understand that such efforts will need her to pay you, otherwise she will continue to take advantage of you
and you know what people say, time is money:shade:
wasalam
 
Muslimah_Sis said:
bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet :heated:
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i know :giggling: thats just taking the mick, maybe she'll bring a whole truck-load after the blouses are done.

But this situation is nothing new it happens alot, i've seen it manny times and usually is solved once guidlines are set out.
 
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sis u need to get her 2 pay otherwise she gna take advantage of u big tym! Shes already started to by the sounds of it

I mean my AUNTY sews my clothes and i INSIST on payin her, thats her way of earnin a LIVIN like hello>??? Jus charge her like half the price or sumat so long as u gettin da dosh
 
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Yikes!!!!!!!!!! That's awful i would feel well guilty if i did that.

Ukhti just tell her straight, that you started this business to make money and insha' allah she'll understand. Don't feel embarassed because you haven't done anything wrong.

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Tnx for ur help guys. Some funny comments too :giggling:

I went out and bought a reciept book lol. Cuz actions speak louder than words innit!

I'm also just gonna say sumthing like "Erm.. that one is £6 pounds sweetheart, and that one blah blah blah."

A BIG tnx to all of you for helping :statisfie
 
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Tnx for ur help guys. Some funny comments too :giggling:

I went out and bought a reciept book lol. Cuz actions speak louder than words innit!
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salaam
YOur supposed to be making the money baaaji ji lol. Insha'Allah you have success with your business venture ;D
 
Oh My.

50 blouses? ;D

I'll say your friend was being inconsiderate, but as we're not supposed to talk bad about our fellow brothers and sisters, lets just say that it never crossed her mind that she had to pay for it (although it seems weird hehehe ;D )
I know I would be really pissed off though!!

But I know what you mean sis.....when I was in yemen, I was one of the only sisters there who could bake real cakes you know ;D and once in a while I would bake for my friends and bake for their weddings and all that.
But then, after a while......they started piling up all these requests on me, and I just felt it wasn't fair, I mean.....they wouldn't even ask if it was ok with me or anything , it wsa just like they would drop in and 'place an order' I was like " Hello!!! I'm not working in a bakery!! " ;D
But I felt really bad to tell them........but alhamdulillah with the help of my mom I got up the courage

But sis you're not being greedy.....Not at all :) this is a b usiness anyway, and alhamdulillah a halal means of earning money.
Maybe it might seem hard to come out with her because you are feeling this way......but if she's really your friend she will understand insha'allah
Most probably she will even feel embarrassed herself for not thinking about asking you the costs of the sewing earlier!!

Just come out plain and clear with her sis....It's difficult I know, but then, If you keep it to yourself, eventually your feelings towards her may turn hard because you may start thinkin that she's taking advantage of you and all that :(

So best do it quickly and avoid any fitnah Insha'allah

All the best :)
 
DaNgErOuS MiNdS said:
salaam
YOur supposed to be making the money baaaji ji lol. Insha'Allah you have success with your business venture ;D
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Ameen ameen ameen!!! I will inshaAllah bro. And your gonna help me innit by buying my jubbas online? ;D I got some stripey material for brother's jubbas and it reminds me of prophet Moses. I'll put some pics up when it's made then you can tell me if it's good or not.

AsilahRana said:
Just come out plain and clear with her sis....It's difficult I know, but then, If you keep it to yourself, eventually your feelings towards her may turn hard because you may start thinkin that she's taking advantage of you and all that :(

So best do it quickly and avoid any fitnah Insha'allah

All the best :)
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You're sooo right sis it happens. I'm just glad I asked for advice when I did. From now on business is strictly business :phew
 
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