My situation..help please

[Looking4Peace]

yea marry the guy if you love him and he has good deen, dating is pointless, take it from me, even long term relationships outside of marriage which i had turned out to be a waste of time, cause me headache after headache and he turned out to be bad news nothing but head games, irresponsible, better off getting to know someone without dating and than marriage.

 

[afriend]

yea marry the guy if you love him and he has good deen, dating is pointless, take it from me, even long term relationships outside of marriage which i had turned out to be a waste of time, cause me headache after headache and he turned out to be bad news nothing but head games, irresponsible, better off getting to know someone without dating and than marriage.

Yeah....definately.....Always ends up in....nothing but heartbreak.....Every single time! (not bragging here) I'm not the sort you can just get tired of.....if u get what I mean.....

That's why it's best to have a wife....Alhamdulillah I'm getting engaged soon...So that's one thing off of my chest

 

[lolwatever]

this is an excellent example of why i think you're a fake. i've know some nutty muslims before - but i've never run into one this nutty.
if you are for real, i think you need professional help.

Snakelegs, in islam we take people on their face value so long as there's no evidence to suggest crookery... otherwise.. i wouldn't be using this forum because who knows, the mods might be gangsters who want to collect our emails via registration and sell the email list to spamsters... (no zAk i'm not trying to give you an idea here ;D )

salams

 

[lolwatever]

Yeah....definately.....Always ends up in....nothing but heartbreak.....Every single time! (not bragging here) I'm not the sort you can just get tired of.....if u get what I mean.....

That's why it's best to have a wife....Alhamdulillah I'm getting engaged soon...So that's one thing off of my chest

wow congrats brooo!! mabrook man that's AWESOMEEEE newwwsss mashalah (invite me to ur wedding ok? i'll attend via video link )

 

[afriend]

wow congrats brooo!! mabrook man that's AWESOMEEEE newwwsss mashalah (invite me to ur wedding ok? i'll attend via video link )

haha!! LOL.....

It's just engagement :rollseyes........But I'm not 100% sure if things will go ahead, I might chicken out in the last minute ...But seriously.....I'm going to do instikhaarah about this, i'm really worried if I should do this or not......But it's not happening soon....if it does inshallah, then it'll be after I turn 15/16.......

 

[lolwatever]

haha!! LOL.....

It's just engagement :rollseyes........But I'm not 100% sure if things will go ahead, I might chicken out in the last minute ...But seriously.....I'm going to do instikhaarah about this, i'm really worried if I should do this or not......But it's not happening soon....if it does inshallah, then it'll be after I turn 15/16.......

yeh bro definately istikharah is the way to go! all the best with it. i might add to bro ali2cool, do istikharah about giong ahead with that girl b4 u take any serious move.. Allah's guidance is THE BEST.

salams

 

[syilla]

Yeah....definately.....Always ends up in....nothing but heartbreak.....Every single time! (not bragging here) I'm not the sort you can just get tired of.....if u get what I mean.....

That's why it's best to have a wife....Alhamdulillah I'm getting engaged soon...So that's one thing off of my chest

congratulations to you...

May Allah get you married as soon as possible...and live happily with your family.

 

[julie]

Salam Sister Julie,
As Muslims, we are not allowed to date!

I know. But...hmm..it has become normal in Malaysia to date and all that. If you come here, you can see Muslims wearing tube/skirts, clubbing and drinking, hugging partners in public, and so on. So I am pretty 'good' Muslim I think compared to them in that case. I know I'm wrong to think like this but it actually is. Anyway I only meet my boyfriend twice a year due to the distance.

 

[lolwatever]

julie, during the prophets time, everyoneeeeee drank, fornicated and killed lil baby girls.... that didn't make the prophet think 'they'er all doing that, so if i drink a lil achohol ill still b good compared to them'

remember the hadith of the prophet "Islam began strange, and shall return to be strange, so glad tidings to the strangers"

so be a stranger if needs be and don't worry about the rest and get marreid instaed of Boyfriending.. trust me it'st he best way.

 

[Looking4Peace]

I know. But...hmm..it has become normal in Malaysia to date and all that. If you come here, you can see Muslims wearing tube/skirts, clubbing and drinking, hugging partners in public, and so on. So I am pretty 'good' Muslim I think compared to them in that case. I know I'm wrong to think like this but it actually is. Anyway I only meet my boyfriend twice a year due to the distance.

doesnt make it right and as a muslim dont compare urself to those that are worse, i might compare my old self before i was a revert to how most girls acted and i was an angel compared to all of them but now being a revert i still realize those few things i did especially partying, drinking and being with someone without marriage were wrong and know not to go back to doing any of that.

 

[mlsh27]

A "good" Muslim is not defined by what others are doing worse than you, but those who follow Allah swt.

 

[julie]

My mom wouldnt allow me to get married before I finished my study. I admit I'm not a good Muslim. I'll try to improve myself next time. Thanks for your advices.

 

[snakelegs]

snakelegs ur being more mean then me now lol he is only 18 remember and from an islamic country, he isnt used to how people are here even if to our standards a virgin who kissed someone some time ago and attended a few parties is anything but filthy and being she wants to become a muslim he shouldnt of used that word so to say, he shouldnt of made such a harsh statement but you shouldnt be ridiculing him as well and neither should i have.


and again [BANANA]dont have a cow[/BANANA]

you are correct - i shouldn't have made such a harsh judgement.
no cows here.
p.s. so let's accept that he is real and i am just being a b****, then i think if he thinks this girl is filthy because she kissed 3 guys when she was 15 and in spite of the fact that she will happily become a muslim, and that american girls are generally filthy and this girl is the best he could do here
and he is so desperate that is driven to accept the filthy broad, because she's less defiled than other american girls, my personal opinion is that he should go back to iran, where at least the woman are clean. he is in the wrong country and obviously can not handle the culture at all.
again - no cows in sight! it's just my opinion and nothing more and, once again, it probably shows more about me than about him.

 

[lolwatever]

My mom wouldnt allow me to get married before I finished my study. I admit I'm not a good Muslim. I'll try to improve myself next time. Thanks for your advices.

All the best sis.. but remember that you never know when death will strike, people alot younger than you have had unexpected deaths, so don't risk waiting too long before you do your best to improve.. that applies to me and everyone else too..

all the best, salams

ps: if your parents not letting you get married, remind them that it's your right in Islam and no one has the right to stop you for a non-religious reason.. so do ur best to convince them if that's what you want.

 

[lolwatever]

you are correct - i shouldn't have made such a harsh judgement.
no cows here.
p.s. so let's accept that he is real and i am just being a b****, then i think if he thinks this girl is filthy because she kissed 3 guys when she was 15 and in spite of the fact that she will happily become a muslim, and that american girls are generally filthy and this girl is the best he could do here
and he is so desperate that is driven to accept the filthy broad, because she's less defiled than other american girls, my personal opinion is that he should go back to iran, where at least the woman are clean. he is in the wrong country and obviously can not handle the culture at all.
again - no cows in sight! it's just my opinion and nothing more and, once again, it probably shows more about me than about him.

dude... i'm not his lawyer, but from what i understand, this is his question

"If she become Muslim, should her past be taken into consideration"

The answer was No.

what's so hard to understand about that?

 

[snakelegs]

Snakelegs, in islam we take people on their face value so long as there's no evidence to suggest crookery... otherwise.. i wouldn't be using this forum because who knows, the mods might be gangsters who want to collect our emails via registration and sell the email list to spamsters... (no zAk i'm not trying to give you an idea here ;D )

salams

if true, this would prove that muslims are better people than i am, when it comes to this. i know that a person who is really practicing their religion, would have kept their big mouth shut.
once again
[MOUSE]i am sorry!!![/MOUSE]
if i was just being a b**** and agree that it is totally possible that the guy is for real, and if he is. i don't know what more i can say.

 

[lolwatever]

i'm just disgusted at how a question can be greeted with so much rudeness.. like far out.. a youth asked the prophet if he can fornicate, if any of you guys where in his shoes, you would hav prob turned off the kid n caused him to apostate...

as for snakelegs.. lol i didnt take ne offense.. but personally i don't see anything at all rong with the question. that's all it is.. a question.

and i'm not being biased against non-Muslims, a Muslim who fornicates or kissing non-Mahram's is caleld filthy by Allah AND the Prophet, so you Muslims, what are you going to say about that? huh? come on!?

 

[Looking4Peace]

but she wasnt muslim when she kissed and shes willing to be a muslim and most of all she will be a virgin for him so i dont think the way he said it was totally neccessary and anyway muslims are suppose to talk in a respectable way that was far from it sounded pretty ghetto lame to me calling the girl filthy and even using gthe word wh*re once or twice.

 

[lolwatever]

but she wasnt muslim when she kissed and shes willing to be a muslim and most of all she will be a virgin for him so i dont think the way he said it was totally neccessary and anyway muslims are suppose to talk in a respectable way that was far from it sounded pretty ghetto lame to me calling the girl filthy and even using gthe word wh*re once or twice.

what on earth does virginity have to do with anything!?? you're so obsessed with that word.

To me someone who reverted but fornicated, stole, murdered, raped, swore and had drugs is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy purer to me than a Muslim who swears and doesn't fornicate and steal etc.

So get your standards right.

Bedoins asked the prophet questions in much ruder ways.. that's not the prioirty of this thread, you could advise him instead of give him a lashing over emotions!

 

[Tania]

I heard once a man talking about this relations and he said something like that: every man wants to have girlfriends before marriage to live to the full but still when comes the time of marriage he wants his wife to be untouched. So from where so many girls?