Any married brothers here?

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its better if you direct your question at the married brothers and they can reply as anonymous inshaAllah.
 
Why not ask your question in the brothers section.. asking here may provoke sisters to reply.
 
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Ok well... Did you feel before marriage that you may need more than one wife?

Also did you feel 100% certain about your wife, before marrying her?

How long have you been married?
 
On second thought.. wouldn't it be better to speak to brothers u know personally.. or an older relative? May even the imaam at the local mosque.

getting help here is like trying to squeeze blood out of a stone
 
muslimah sister i completely 150% disagree, i think the brother can benefit from the married brothers responces inshaAllah. Lets try keep this a brothers only thread if it bothers sisters. I would say move it to the brothers section but i honestly think this brother doesnt have access.
 
I am right! it's stuff like this that really peeves me off... when u join the forum, you're welcomed like a long lost relative... then suddenly you're on your own.. that's why I've stopped welcoming ppl.. they'll only feel disheartened later.

you're better off ringing ur local mosque and speakin to the imaam.. you'll still be anonymous that way.
 
muslimah sis you dont understand how embarassing it can be, let the brother have some insight stop hammering him !!
 
muslimah sister i completely 150% disagree, i think the brother can benefit from the married brothers responces inshaAllah. Lets try keep this a brothers only thread if it bothers sisters. I would say move it to the brothers section but i honestly think this brother doesnt have access.

I can't help it... Anon bro has been banging his head here for questions in the other thread too. So far not one single married brother has replied. It'd be a miracle if someone does. I still think he'd be better off asking someone he knows personally. And you could be right, the bro may not have access to the bros section, but they have access here right? The only thing that bothers me is that I can't answer the bro's question cuz I'm not a bro.
 
muslimah sis you dont understand how embarassing it can be, let the brother have some insight stop hammering him !!

I'm not hammering the bro.. He wants help but no one is bothering. I want someone to help him cuz I can't. I feel sorry for him.


the bro's post on the other thread..
I can't help much if I am a buyer, it's the consumer society and all the choice that's thrown in our faces!

She does like me, basically everything was going to go ahead until my parents said are you 100% and I said "no 50/50 and but after marriage everything would be ok" - basically I was taking a "leap of faith". Then things were broken off and she was very upset, in tears and cried all day.

Are there any married people here?

how many times does the poor guy have to ask?
 
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Just feeling really down now :cry: I am listening to Quran on the commute and at work use one of those anti-depressant lights/day light simulator.:giggling:

Even at home I feel lonely. Can't really talk to mum. My brother has his uni/friends. My friends can't be around more than a few hours a week. I'm dreading the Christmas holidays... I just want to sleep and not wake up till summer imsad
 
Just feeling really down now :cry: I am listening to Quran on the commute and at work use one of those anti-depressant lights/day light simulator.:giggling:

Even at home I feel lonely. Can't really talk to mum. My brother has his uni/friends. My friends can't be around more than a few hours a week. I'm dreading the Christmas holidays... I just want to sleep and not wake up till summer imsad

sorry akhee, i would answer you but im not married. inshaAllah a married brother will answer shortly.



Muslimah_sis - forgive me, i see your intentions were good.
 
What is the big deal about him asking what he wants to anonymously? We are all anonymous on this forum if you think about it. For example, what difference would posting under "Anonymous" instead of Ismahaan make? At the end of the day I'm anon. to everyone on here because nobody knows me personally. I'm just an internet persona to you.
 
well at least the daylight simulator is makin u laugh lol. Looks like ur suffering from SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Maybe you could prolong the period of using the lightbox. Or move to sunnier climates. :X

Why don't u jus pick up the phone..ring the imam and say you're worry about blah blah blah..... I bet ya, he'll put ur mind at rest.. take my advice..it usually works lol.
 
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Talking to the imam would be a very good idea. Sometimes all you need is the opinion of one very reliable and knowledgeable person. May Allah help you.
 
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Ok well... Did you feel before marriage that you may need more than one wife?

Also did you feel 100% certain about your wife, before marrying her?

How long have you been married?

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Does one have to be married to answer those questions?? because I think brother before they are married would have same answers when they are married.

I'm not married but i'll answer them anyway I dont feel I need more then one wife unless a problem/issue arises and it would be more benficial to get married again.

I think there will always be an element of doubt in the back of my mind but can anyone ever be 100% sure how the marriage will go???no

I have been married exactly 0 days.


Wouldn't it be a good idea if the sisters were to answer the questions aswell? I think it would provide a better insight.
 
Muslimah_sis - forgive me, i see your intentions were good.
lol it's ok bro.. misunderstandings happen.. it's cool.


What is the big deal about him asking what he wants to anonymously? We are all anonymous on this forum if you think about it. For example, what difference would posting under "Anonymous" instead of Ismahaan make? At the end of the day I'm anon. to everyone on here because nobody knows me personally. I'm just an internet persona to you.
he might know people here who know him personally... and not everyone remains anon. Some people go on to become more than jus net buddies. What's wrong with being anon. anyway? :?
 

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