Seeking Islamic ways in handling wife with affairs...

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Muslimah_Sis said:
lol I know bro and I hope it helps to share with us.


MashaAllah I really admire your self-control bro and the way you haven't let this situation affect the atmosphere at home.

I hope to Allah I'm right but if your wife is being extra nice then she may have realised that what she was doing is wrong. Her reaction could be out of guilt. Maybe by seeing this man a few times she's realised that he is not what he made out to be and she's realised her mistake. I pray everything works out for all your sakes.

But I would advise you to sit down and just have a chat with her. Not about what you know, but just ask if she is happy with you and so on. It may give you a clue as to what went wrong in the first place.

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Yes Sis, thank you, nice suggestion, not too much focusing on the problems instead...
 
Panatella said:
Surah 24:3. There is some arguement that any hadith that requires stoning is not a Quranic law and therefore unislamic. While others argue the opposite.
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24:3 states nothing about the 100 stripes
24:4 does say 80 stripes for those who accused married woman of adultery and couldn't produce 4 witnesses

couldn't find anything on the 100 stripes though...
 
myaspires said:
24:3 states nothing about the 100 stripes
24:4 does say 80 stripes for those who accused married woman of adultery and couldn't produce 4 witnesses

couldn't find anything on the 100 stripes though...
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correction, i mean couldn't locate anything about stoning
 
myaspires said:
correction, i mean couldn't locate anything about stoning
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That is what my post said. Stoning was not mentioned in the verse, and to my knowledge comes from hadith. The disagreement is about the validity of these hadith. I don't know any specific hadith, sorry. Perhaps some other members do.
 
Panatella said:
I do not support throwing rocks at people, no. Seems a bit barbaric to me.
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You don’t support stoning because it's "in your opinion" barbaric or because its unislamic. [Please explain by giving strong evidence]

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It is known that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent the Ghaamidi woman who was pregnant as a result of zinaa away until she gave birth, then after the birth he sent her away until she had breastfed the child and weaned him. She came back with the child who had a piece of bread. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave the child to one of the Muslims, then he gave orders that she should be placed in a hole up to her chest, and commanded the people to stone her. Imaam al-Nawawi said concerning this hadeeth: “A pregnant woman should not be stoned until she gives birth, whether her pregnancy is the result of zina or otherwise. This is agreed upon, lest her foetus be killed. The same applies if her hadd punishment is flogging; a pregnant woman should not be flogged, according to consensus, until she has given birth.” (Saheeh Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 11/202)


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May Allaah make all matters easy for you and the muslims, ameen.
 
Fi_Sabilillah said:
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It is known that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent the Ghaamidi woman who was pregnant as a result of zinaa away until she gave birth, then after the birth he sent her away until she had breastfed the child and weaned him. She came back with the child who had a piece of bread. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave the child to one of the Muslims, then he gave orders that she should be placed in a hole up to her chest, and commanded the people to stone her. Imaam al-Nawawi said concerning this hadeeth: “A pregnant woman should not be stoned until she gives birth, whether her pregnancy is the result of zina or otherwise. This is agreed upon, lest her foetus be killed. The same applies if her hadd punishment is flogging; a pregnant woman should not be flogged, according to consensus, until she has given birth.” (Saheeh Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 11/202)


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May Allaah make all matters easy for you and the muslims, ameen.
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There are some that believe this hadith and others like it are not valid, while others disagree. What do you believe?
 
The hadith is in saheeh Muslim, therefore without a doubt it is authentic. Therefore the punishment can be applied, but only in an islamic state. And Allaah Almighty knows best. :)
 
Fi_Sabilillah said:
The hadith is in saheeh Muslim, therefore without a doubt it is authentic. Therefore the punishment can be applied, but only in an islamic state. And Allaah Almighty knows best. :)
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Are there any states in the world today that are considered 'islamic' that this could be applied?
 
I don't think so, but i think the muslims are trying to establish one in Somalia. And Allaah knows best.



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Lets stick to the topic insha'Allaah, its the brothers thread and i'm sure he doesn't want other arguments, jazak Allaah khayr.
 
I don't know why have you bring to topic the stoning and lashing when is not the case. We have here a woman which face certain depression and she needs time to clear up her feelings. The husband should sit calm and wait patient or take the measure said by Muslimah sis. Very discreet don't ruin her mood much more than it is now.
 
Panatella said:
It is my opinion.

I don't know if it is unislamic or not.
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So it's Just an opinion.
Thanks.
Now if you want to see why it's Islamic (under certain conditions) I recommend you to search the forum for the topic or ask Ansar directly.

[sorry for going off topic]

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Tania said:
I don't know why have you bring to topic the stoning and lashing when is not the case. We have here a woman which face certain depression and she needs time to clear up her feelings. The husband should sit calm and wait patient or take the measure said by Muslimah sis. Very discreet don't ruin her mood much more than it is now.
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He asked for the islamic way of handling adultery, his question was answered.
 
Abu Skakeen said:
So it's Just an opinion.
Thanks.

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Yes, that is what I said. And you are welcome.
Abu Skakeen said:
Now if you want to see why it's Islamic (under certain conditions) I recommend you to search the forum for the topic or ask Ansar directly.


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You'll excuse me if I don't accept this forum as an authority on things islamic.
It is an open question in my mind, and is yet unanswered. There are convincing arguements to support both opinions.
 
Panatella said:
He asked for the islamic way of handling adultery, his question was answered.
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But she has 0 affairs. She just talk with a man. With how many women are talking usually the men at office:? Conversation can't fall in the adultery category.
 
Tania said:
But she has 0 affairs. She just talk with a man. With how many women are talking usually the men at office:? Conversation can't fall in the adultery category.
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We have no knowledge of what she is actually doing.

Is it acceptable behaviour for a married muslim woman to have secret conversations, and to meet discreetly with another married man? BTW, she did say in a text message to a friend that she was in love with 2 men.

In the context of the topic, adultery and it's punishments are quite appropriate to mention.
 
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