backbiting

[AnonymousPoster]

i have a problem which is i backbite sometimes i am used to doing it i dont even think about it twice on top of that my friends do it so is hard to just sit there what can i do?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

:salamext:

occupy your mind with islamic stuff and try reading a lot of articles on backbiting. If you realise the severity of the sin then it will help you stop and last but not least:

MAKE DUA <-- It does miracles!!

 

[Pk_#2]

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

May Allah (swt) save us from making this sin. Ameen

A beautiful saying of the Prophet (saw) that will ensure the protection of our tongue. The Messenger of Allah (saw) said:

"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT!" [Agreed upon]

Having said that,

Allah (swt) tells us in the Qur'an: "O my servants who have wronged themselves, never despair of the mercy of Allah - for truly He forgives all sins. He is the Forgiving, the Merciful." [al-Qur'an 39:53]

Instead of sitting there, there are other ways:

Allah says: "Who is better in speech than one who calls (people) to Allah and works righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in Islam" [al-Qur'an 41:33]

All the best

 

[AnonymousPoster]

ok thank you bruv

 

[AnonymousPoster]

thank you sis i backbited a lot doez that mean i lost all my gd deeds?
also what do i do if my friends start backbiting?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

your welcome

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

thank you sis i backbited a lot doez that mean i lost all my gd deeds?
also what do i do if my friends start backbiting?

:salamext:

when one repents sincerely his bad deeds are converted into good deeds (ALLAHU AKBAR Allah is sooo merciful!!!) and bro just tell your friends not to backchat. Enjoining good and forbidding evil is part of our deen.

 

[Pk_#2]

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

BarakAllah fik

If they continue you can ignore them, or move away if you get tempted to follow

Just repent sister, we all make mistakes,

May Allah (Swt) forgive our sins. Ameen!

 

[Pk_#2]

thank you sis i backbited a lot doez that mean i lost all my gd deeds?
also what do i do if my friends start backbiting?

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

"Beware of backbiting, for backbiting is more serious than adultery. A man may commit adultery, and drink [wine], and then repent, and Allah will forgive him. But, the backbiter will not be forgiven by Allah until his [backbited] companion forgives him." [Suyuti, Al-Jami` as-Saghir, 1/174, #2919, from Ibn Abid-Dunya, and Abush-Shaykh, Al-Tawbikh.]

Ask for forgiveness from the person inshaAllah!

Or make dua for them!

All the best

 

[AnonymousPoster]

brother woooooooooow i did not know that! jazakallah kheir,tas ok i will ishallah thanx

 

[Pk_#2]

:salamext:

when one repents sincerely his bad deeds are converted into good deeds (ALLAHU AKBAR Allah is sooo merciful!!!) and bro just tell your friends not to backchat. Enjoining good and forbidding evil is part of our deen.

Really?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

:salamext:

Really?

i looked for the hadith, i read it in miskaat ul-masabih its sahih inshaAllah and ive heard it in quite a few lectures. sorry i searched but... meh..

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

btw you have to be really sincere and fulfil all the conditions of repentance! its not an easy thing to do... it requires a true change of heart and perseverance.

May Allah help us all reach that state. Ameen

:wasalamex

 

[Pk_#2]

Ameen! to the dua bro,

I'm looking for it!

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

im still looking for it too, im sure fi-sab and them have heard it.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

i am now lost ask for their forgiveness? i cant do that i am not even in contact with some does this mean that i will not be forgiven? i dont even know some i just backbited because they either done sometin to me or cuz of their looks i know is bad and childish but i am truly sorry

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

hadith?

Except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds, for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Furqaan 25:68-70]

QURAN

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i am now lost ask for their forgiveness? i cant do that i am not even in contact with some does this mean that i will not be forgiven? i dont even know some i just backbited because they either done sometin to me or cuz of their looks i know is bad and childish but i am truly sorry

is it something they cant forget? if it isnt perhaps its best that you back track and find them... the last thing you want is to go to the day of judgement and find a really angry person hungry for your good deeds mg:

 

[Pk_#2]

No you can make dua' for them wait lemme find a hadith or something

Read dis when you have time: http://www.islamfortoday.com/gossip.htm

It is reported from al-Hasan al-Basri (may Allah have mercy on him) that a man said to him: "You have gossiped about me. He (al-Hasan) said: "You have not reached such a position that you can control my Hasanat!" [Translator's Note: The Islamic teaching is that the Hasanat (rewards) of the one who gossips will be awarded to the victim.]

"The expiation with regard to one who has been backbited is that forgiveness be asked for him." [Suyuti, Al-Jami` As-Saghir, 2/390, #6259]

Mujahid said : the expiation for eating the flesh of your brother is that you praise him and pray for good for him, and similar is the case if he has died.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

:salamext:

i just realised theres three conditions to having your past deeds turned into good:

1. Repent
2. Do Good deeds
3. Have Firm Belief in Allah subhana wa ta'ala



may Allah make it easy for us
Ameen