Unmarried Muslim women

[Rabi'ya]

at the end of the day Allah has allowed men to marry more than once. and as women we should accept that. Also, sisters, remember that the wives of the Prophet (saw) were jealous and were nasty to each other on occasions. We will never be as pious as them but as long as we strive to do our best, what more can be expected of us?

 

[Al_Imaan]

I agree with Deen, if my husbands marries another woman lets just say I would gain a lot of sins because I be horrible towards him and snappy, the truth is that women are all different some havent got a problem with their husband re-marrying while others do.

1 thing that seriously annoys me is when people try to make you feel bad or guilty for not allowing your future hubby to remarry, they dont even think that maybe the sisters that say No are trying to save themself from sins, from jelousy and so on.

Anyways everyone is different

this is mostly common with many asians......they talk so much about other ppl's business...i with u on this...it annoys me too....i know my family and all the other afghans that we know would talk bad if my future hubby remarries...

 

[Umar001]

this is mostly common with many asians......they talk so much about other ppl's business...i with u on this...it annoys me too....i know my family and all the other afghans that we know would talk bad if my future hubby remarries...

Well thats their problem, if they wanna give their good deeds to others they can.

I just think sisters who are strong enough and mature and controling enough to not let their emotions over ride them should be congratulated and should be praise in a good way.

And I have the upmost respect for them. Because it's not easy. But they do it, and put their faith in Allah for a reward and may Allah grant them that and Allah is the best of those grant reward.

 

[youngsister]

I understand iman, true, Rabya yes true nobody is saying that its not right, Subxannallah.

Every muslim woman knows that its allowed and many like myself respect sisters who can share their husbands, but also many wouldnt personally do it, full stop. Trust me jelousy leads to a lot of sins..., if a person strives to be a good muslimah and knows she cant handle her husband remarrying then she can have a say on it.

We have to realise that not everyone is the same so lets stop being so judgemental.

 

[Umar001]

I understand iman, true, Rabya yes true nobody is saying that its not right, Subxannallah.

Every muslim woman knows that its allowed and many like myself respect sisters who can share their husbands, but also many wouldnt personally do it, full stop. Trust me jelousy leads to a lot of sins..., if a person strives to be a good muslimah and knows she cant handle her husband remarrying then she can have a say on it.

We have to realise that not everyone is the same so lets stop being so judgemental.

Not to contradict you or argue with you but I also think its alot of the Husband's fault now days most men do not help the situation. And I also think it is something to do with the upbringing, and mostly I think it is to do with the fact that SOME sisters if not most do not want it for their own desires, jelousy nad so on can be fought and strived against for something someone wants, but if its something which someone dislikes then its easier to say 'well I'd be jelouse'

NOT THAT ALL SISTERS DO THAT.

 

[youngsister]

Jelousy was an example, many that I know dislike it, simple as.

 

[Al_Imaan]

Well thats their problem, if they wanna give their good deeds to others they can.

I just think sisters who are strong enough and mature and controling enough to not let their emotions over ride them should be congratulated and should be praise in a good way.

^^they dont really realize that all their backbiting is wrong....i just hate that...im afghan too and im thankful to Allah(swt) that He didnt allow those "cultural afghan habits" get to me....and i agree that sisters who are really strong enough....should be praised....it really shows how strong their imaan is...

 

[Natural]

Well my thoughts are no one can take what Allah has for me. Therefore no matter how often I my see a muslim man try to chase down the Euro standard of beauty, I believe that Allah already has someone picked out for me that will love me for me. And ladies of all ethnicities, think about it, do you really want someone that does not want you, regardless of the reason?

 

[Ismahaan]

It's true that Arab men love European women, but most men do too actually.
However, in most cases, what is familiar to a person is what is most beautiful to them. Everybody has a personal preference but pale women are internationally recognized as more beautiful than their darker skinned sisters. This colour/race issue is kind of trivial. As one sister already said, there is someone that you're already destined to marry (if you are destined to marry). You're not going to marry all Arab men, or all white men, or all black men or all asian men. You'll marry only one man.

 

[IceQueen~]

for a man to marry a non muslim woman there are conditions:
1-she should be from the people of the book (jew or christian),

2-she should be virgin and chaste,

3-and there should be a strong chance and intention that she'll become muslim

 

[Mawaddah]

for a man to marry a non muslim woman there are conditions:
1-she should be from the people of the book (jew or christian),

2-she should be virgin and chaste,

3-and there should be a strong chance and intention that she'll become muslim

As for that 2nd condition sis, The term 'virgin' shouldn't really be applied, and only chaste. A woman may have been married before also.

Wallahu A3lam.

 

[IceQueen~]

that's true

I heard those three conditions from a talk by Khalid Yasin...but he probs said chaste then...