What Should I do?

Ismahaan said:
You will be happy on this Earth inshaallah. Do you think that he's your only hope of happiness? I think that you're in love sis. Maybe yu're not thinking rationally lol
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Allah is sufficient for me,and yes i do love him,he's the most genuine person I have ever met, who always puts others 1st,in this case his family.
 
Kiron said:
:cry: The man you are talking about helped me realise i was a Muslim,and please don't speak ill of him.I respect him alot.Allah is the Judge.
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That wasn't my intention sis sorry if I offended u, but u need to look at the bigger picture if he won't marry u beacuse mommy said so, then is this the type of men u want, I'm giving u advice from exprience from what I gather your a revert and best thing for u is a man with strong iman, but at the end of the day it's your choice, but don't beat your self up over this guy, realise they're plenty of brothers out there and you deserve to be happy and not constantly fighting for someones affections.
 
tomtomsmom said:
Is it possible to have someone go to his parents in your defense and see what their reasoning is? Maybe they have thoughts about you that are untrue and just need to be cleared up. Would this be allowed in Islam?
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hi its complicated,this only happened last night i need to have more patience.But you are right there are some things that are untrue about me.I have Allah to protect me from the evil in people.
 
FBI said:
That wasn't my intention sis sorry if I offended u, but u need to look at the bigger picture if he won't marry u beacuse mommy said so, then is this the type of men u want, I'm giving u advice from exprience from what I gather your a revert and best thing for u is a man with strong iman, but at the end of the day it's your choice, but don't beat your self up over this guy, realise they're plenty of brothers out there and you deserve to be happy and not constantly fighting for someones affections.
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Ive been a muslim all my life,but it was just by name, eg i wasn't praying,and remembering Allah.He's listening to his mother because in the Quran it says to respect your parents, and Mashallah he is.But i know that he can convince her otherwise,im just going to pray and be patient and if we're mean't to be then Inshallah we will be.
I don't need to fight for his affections,that's not the problem at all.
 
Kiron said:
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Ive been a muslim all my life,but it was just by name, eg i wasn't praying,and remembering Allah.He's listening to his mother because in the Quran it says to respect your parents, and Mashallah he is.But i know that he can convince her otherwise,im just going to pray and be patient and if we're mean't to be then Inshallah we will be.
I don't need to fight for his affections,that's not the problem at all.
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I see, The quran says respect your parents, but it also respect says your children, and plently of hadith speak of not preventing your children from marrying a person of their choice if they meet the islamic criteria, and when u say
I don't need to fight for his affections,that's not the problem at all
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can u elaborate on this if u don't mind?
 
FBI said:
I see, The quran says respect your parents, but it also respect says your children, and plently of hadith speak of not preventing your children from marrying a person of their choice if they meet the islamic criteria, and when u say can u elaborate on this if u don't mind?
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true,ur right and I hope he thinks about that too.I know that he loves me with all his heart,Mashallah nobody has understood me spiritually better than he has.I don't doubt that he doesn't.If thats wot u mean.
 
IbnAbdulHakim said:
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Allah tests those he loves, sister please listen to this:

When you find that the test is painstaking, and when it is the most difficult, realise that this is a stepping stone for you to reach greater heights of jannah. SubhanAllah can you imagine the great reward in both dunya and akhirah which you might get? So sister do that which is best islamically, may ALlah help us all.

:salamext:
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:thumbs_up Thanku i intend to
 
aww sister...dnt worry hopefully things will lead the right way...insha'allah. just wondering how lon have you known this guy?
 
salaam sister. its hard to say but unfortunely some people will always judege...but always remember the only person who can really judge you is allah. i know alot of arab men in these situtations and its a hard choice when it comes to family and love. if he really love you sister...he would choose to stay with you and let his family get to know you a little more. Give it time...if he doesnt come back then it wasnt meant to be. im talking from experinence bc ive been in ur situtation before. dont give up okay sister
 
salaam sister. its hard to say but unfortunely some people will always judge you...but always remember the only person who can really judge you is allah. i know alot of arab men in these situtations and its a hard choice when it comes to family and love. if he really love you sister...he would choose to stay with you and let his family get to know you a little more. Give it time...if he doesnt come back then it wasnt meant to be. im talking from experinence bc ive been in ur situtation before. his family talked about me and they didnt even know me and i would have this anger inside and hurt. but only allah knows who you really are. allah will granted you love...its really not up to you....its up to him to make the decision. ishallah everyone works out for you.
 
habibti4allah7 said:
salaam sister. its hard to say but unfortunely some people will always judge you...but always remember the only person who can really judge you is allah. i know alot of arab men in these situtations and its a hard choice when it comes to family and love. if he really love you sister...he would choose to stay with you and let his family get to know you a little more. Give it time...if he doesnt come back then it wasnt meant to be. im talking from experinence bc ive been in ur situtation before. his family talked about me and they didnt even know me and i would have this anger inside and hurt. but only allah knows who you really are. allah will granted you love...its really not up to you....its up to him to make the decision. ishallah everyone works out for you.
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:w: sis and jazakhallah,welcome to the forum
 
Irfan's Wife said:
:sl: :cry: I did Istikhaarah for marriage, twice.I recieved beautiful signs from Allah and i am so grateful.Now the man who I intended to marry say's he can't marry me because his mother refuses...and he chose his family over me.I'm not angry,but i just can't accept it because if Allah is showin me that it is right how am i supposed to give up???? Allah tests those He loves,and I believe im being tested.He's cut me off completeley because it is too hard for him to speak to me.
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I have no idea why are you crying :? For what :? If a man is not able to protect you, in front of his family or someone else ,what do you expect from him :? To raise your children :? The husband first role is to protect and love his wife. Run fast from him and never turn your head back.
 
Irfan's Wife said:
Ismahaan i didn't mean to call you bro just seen it!!!
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It's okay sis.

If you got a sign from Allah that you should marry him, or that will marry him, then I'm sure you will. Don't worry sis. Just be patient and everything will be alright inshaAllah.
 
Ismahaan said:
It's okay sis.

If you got a sign from Allah that you should marry him, or that will marry him, then I'm sure you will. Don't worry sis. Just be patient and everything will be alright inshaAllah.
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:) thanks sis Inshallah I hope I do x
 

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