Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: brothers.staring :(

muslimgyal4life i am not that confident lol abdulhakim:X jazakallah khair for that advice but i wouldnt wear the niqab anytime soon
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

kitty i do lower my gaze but i can literally feel them when they looking is really bad umm abdullah i did not hear it, it must have been funny as they all smiled and one kind of laughed. U KNO THE WEIRD THIN IS THAT I AM COVERED FROM HEAD TO TOE SO THERE IS NOTHIN NOTHIN TO STARE AT! YA ALLAH!
 
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Anonymous Tester said:
kitty i do lower my gaze but i can literally feel them when they looking is really bad umm abdullah i did not hear it, it must have been funny as they all smiled and one kind of laughed. U KNO THE WEIRD THIN IS THAT I AM COVERED FROM HEAD TO TOE SO THERE IS NOTHIN NOTHIN TO STARE AT! YA ALLAH!
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Hmm.. inshaAllah, let it go. Sometimes, these things just happen unfortunate as they may be. :)
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

Salamualikum.
well ukthi i know tis hard but all you can do is ask a muslim brother you know to have a word with them inshallah, if not then just ingnore best thing. allah hu alim what is happning to the youth! :(
Ma'assalama
 
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Pious brothers can slip sometimes. They're only human. However, are you sure that they were talking and laughing about YOU? You said that they said "comment". What was that comment? The shaytan probably made you suspicious and is trying to cause a rift between you and your brothers. I've been in situations like that but I always conclude that I imagined it (which I probably did actually). So don't :exhausted next time sis.
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

Assalamu'Alaykum

You can tell them to " FEAR ALLAAH!" in a serious voice. That should do it.

Do not be clumsy when you walk past them, that may make them feel like they have an effect on you.
 
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What you did was great Mashaallah. May Allah reward you for it. It's a form of dawah so don't stop doing it. Maybe the sister will really think about what you said to her in private. I used to cry everytime someone told me to wear the hijab as a 13 year old but I eventually decided to after pondering the reasons muslim women wear it.
 
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habibti4allah7 said:
i was walking today and ive seen a sister with an hijab on with the most tightest pari of jeans ive ever seen in my life. and to top it of...she had on an revealing shirt on. as a sister, i wanted to talk to her and tell her that its haraam what she is wearing (i dont think its wrong...as a sister i should let her know) i greeted her very respectful and told her that its haraam what she is wearing and as a muslim woman...she should cover up more and loosen her pants. she got really upset and told me that she is cover up and that she feels its fine. she told me no one should judge her expect allah. she told me to leave her alone and that she doesnt have to wear that long black dress (sorry i dont know the name for it really sorry:cry: ) anywaz i was very upset because i dont think i did anything wrong. i strong agree that sister should dress more modest and not tight. did i do anything wrong???
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No, sis you didn't do anything wrong. MashaAllah, i actually applaud you for doing what you did. Many people would have just walked on by, even if they felt that it wasn't right seeing a Muslim sister dressed in such a state.:thumbs_up
 
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Firstly we shouldn't title anyone with the word 'pious'. Because we don't know if they are or not. Quiet a shock when they turn out otherwise, I tell ya! There's a hadith about it as well.

Newayz sis, the next time your out, carry yourself in a way that gives off vibes saying you won't take no crap off anyone. Keep a serious expression on your face and walk as if you'll kick a** if anyone asks for it. I can't explain how but it works.. body language! :D
 
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Lol, something like that happened to me. I was wearing a hoodie that said holla back on it. this Muslim guy (who was in my class) said Holla back and was wondering who the heck said it LOL. i looked and looked away. But he jus kept starin at me when i walked on by lol. Then i was waiting for my mom after class was over and him and his friend were laughing and looking at me :offended: So sis, all i can say is *attention seekers.* dont let em know that ur takin notice or theyll bug u more. They stopped eventually, cuz everytime they did something, they saw on my face that i was serious and totally not liking it ;D
 
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kitty i do lower my gaze but i can literally feel them when they looking is really bad umm abdullah i did not hear it, it must have been funny as they all smiled and one kind of laughed. U KNO THE WEIRD THIN IS THAT I AM COVERED FROM HEAD TO TOE SO THERE IS NOTHIN NOTHIN TO STARE AT! YA ALLAH!
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thers a face to stare at ;D
 
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The best thing to do is to pray 2 rakat nafl salah tonight (or whenever u get the chance) and pray sincerely to Allah for help.

Trust me these 2 rakat nafls are an absolute lifesaver.

Theyve helped me a million times over, times when u think theres no way out, suddenly 2 rakats later everythings sorted.

Have u ever considered that maybe they werent laughing at u, maybe ur mistaken? Just a thought, Allah knows best.

THE LAST THING U WANNA DO IS CONFRONT THEM!

Going up to them and saying, 'what u staring at?' ' u got a problem bro?' or that comment someone wrote about a TV on their head is a definite no no. :D

If they did intentionally stare/laugh at u, then this is why they did it.
so u'd react and say something back, next thing u know the guy apologises and offeres u a cup of coffee or something daft as a way of saying sorry.

All of a sudden u got urself a new friend. Someone who'll always end up smiling at u the next time u pass them and someone who'll now have the confidence in asking

'how are u?',
'did u watch/listen/smell so and so last night?'

You'll probably enjoy that little attention u got from him, and you'll find yourself wondering.....will i bump into him again? i gotta think of something smart/funny/witty/cool to say!

..........why?......cos shaytaan will make all these actions seem appealing, and dam it he's good at what he does!......thats why.
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At the end of it all (It'll probably end in tears and regret) shaytaan will be gleefully rubbing his hands together thinking 'job done!'

trust me. thats what (SOME) guys do. we're sick. :hiding:

JUST IGNORE THEM AND READ TA'AWWUZ. (A'udhu billahi minashaytaan nirrajeem)
 
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Jazzy said:
Lol, something like that happened to me. I was wearing a hoodie that said holla back on it....
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U wore a hoodie that said 'Holla back' on it and when he did u didnt like it.


which begs the question........


why wear a hoodie that says 'Holla back' on it in public in the first place?????
wear one that says nothing on it. why attract the attention?

Save ur holla hoddies for when ur among mahrams and girlfriends.
 
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Mashallah. Well said Zayd.

btw: what happened to the 'Ash19' username, (r u hiding from me????)
 
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sister i really don't think they meant to harass you or anything, as wrong as they are to have been staring at you, perhaps best to ignore it.. if it wasn't that i don't want to stir fitnah i would have probably explained a bit further.

perhaps anonymously drop a message to them about lowering their gaze or something..

don't stress inshalah, just keep it up and chill :)

:w:
 
ive been sad for many months now. i know dating is not allowed but ive have been with my b/f for about a year n a half now. his family hates me. they tell me that i shouldnt be muslim and spanish people arent allowed to marry arabic men. spanish women are allowed to be muslim because we are such a disgrace to the religion. his mom has threats me all the time. then he has treated me so horrible in front of them. also he hasnt been good to allah lately. he lost his faith in allah and ive tried to help him because he used to be a very good muslim. ever since his family has told him how they feel, he changed. he tells me horrible things and breaks my heart. but other days he acts as if he never said those things. he says sorry but keeps doing it. i dont wanna leave him because i love him and i have faith in him but its hard. we are planning to get married and im scared because im heartbroken. what should i do???
 
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Conoces esa frase:
No formen yunta con los incrédulos.
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¿Si él no tiene la fe a vivir por el Allah, porque quieres a casar con eso hombre?

Entiendo que hay muchos sentimientos fuertes entre ustedes, pero si ya estas afligido, ¿cómo estará mejor despues? Como se comenzar su unión, su vida casada sera como se vivirlo todo los años a venir.

Tambien, si tienes el deseo para respecto como su esposa, entonces tienes que recibir el mismo respecto de él y su familia ahora. Sin eso respecto en el presente, no puedes tener la expectative para el futuro.
 
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no offence sister but a person in a relationship before marriage doesnt exactly define a good muslim and Allah knows best.

Also its best for you to give up evil for the sake of Allah and Allah will inshaAllah replace you with something much better (dont say you cant imagine it, Allah knows best and has set restrictions for reasons he knows, if you agree to this then SAY "I believe in Allah!!!" and do that which he has advised).

I wish you the best my sister.

fi aman Allah!

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