That's is just so sick! If everything you said is true and you have not given them any reason to treat you like this, then all I'll say is that they don't deserve you as a daughter-in-law.
he wants to make a decision to keep you or not, does he? Well do him a favour and make the decision for him. Tell him you want out.
Can it get much more dire? Like his sister killing/hurting you for him? I don't know how you haven't gone crazy. If I was in your shoes I'd have shown this family stars in broad day light! Spare your sanity and get out of this marriage. I can tell people like that rarely change.
Thankyou Muslimah Sis...I have been going crazy lately and now they have started to act as if nothing happened and everything is so normal...i have tried to be as honest as possible here and if i have made mistakes then i do apologize...and may Allah(swt) forgive me....you are right about the fact that the things she said are absoutely ridiculous and even if they are not going to act on it she should realize what she is saying will be perceived as such...but i am so confused at this point...i will inshallah do istikhara and inshallah Allah(swt) will guide me as to what will be the right decision for me...i have talked to so many people and the way they put it they blame me for everything...and then i start to feel like as if its all my fault...eve though i know it can never be all my fault if u know what i mean...it goes both ways...if only my husband could just talk to me things could be so much better...i think there would be no problem at all...the only thing is tht he involves his mom and then she gets upset that i'm upsetting him when in reality i just want to discuss things with him...please pray for me everyone...i need all the prayers and i don't want to get sick and depressed which is what i have been feeling lately and its not healthy for me....please just remember me in your duas!!!!
.... if we have to make a decision or if he wants to talk about his feelings he talks to his mother....
. It's not possible for us to re-pay mom/mom-in-law for what they sacrifised for us & our dear ones. If listening lectures can make them happy , we must show our pateince .And remember , there is minimum 2 rewards from God for each good deed 
; I know how painful it must be but ur in laws are not responsible for it. When u decided to came outside Pakistan , surely u knew that it won't be possible for u to see parent regularly.
i have listened to one too many lectures and it's not just about listening to lectures she wants me to do exactly as she wants and when i don't she gets upset with me....i'm an educated girl who has her own opinions and a right to live my life the way i want....i will gladly listen to whatever she wants to say but she has no right to force me to do something i don't want to...and i don't think that's fairNormally elder people love to give lecture .........try to listen to them , don't protest ......it make them very happy :statisfie
---yah , that's ok but u try ur best not to fight again. It's very easy to find faults with others , it's hard to correct ourselves. Try to do the hard thing , Insha Allah , the best result will be granted for u
thanks, I understand now sis. And I don't think you're over-reacting at all. I can imagine how frustrating it is when your own husband doesn't understand you. In fact I know cuz I've been there.
I didn't mean you. Its' your husband who doesn't want to deal with things. And yes he should've learnt by now. Especially as he can see the damage it's doing to the marriage. If you get a third party involved, make sure it's someone who's wise and knowledgable. An imaan would be the best. Firstly because he won't be biased and secondly he can explain things to your husband from an Islamic perspective. But do you think your husband would agree to you both talking to the imaan?
I didn't you it's you who doesn't want to deal with things, but your husband. And yes he should've learnt by now. Especially as he can see the damage it's doing to the marriage. If you get a third party involved, make sure it's someone who's wise and knowledgable. An imaan would be the best. Firstly because he won't be biased and secondly he can explain things to your husband from an Islamic perspective. But do you think your husband would agree to you both talking to the imaan?
i'm not so sure about that as he is not very Islamic...just as an example with all the problems that I have been facing lately i started praying more and more as it gives me peace and he started asking me why are u praying so much?u are becoming xtremist....so i don't know how he will react to that either....i just don't make any suggestions anymore just do what he wants....i am praying istakhara but i have not had any feeling that are different or any dreams so i will keep praying it every night and leave all the rest upto Allah...
Try to make him to talk. Are men which think are less men if they cry on wife shoulder :-[. Chit chat with him, he must say something. If you keep talking with him, he will not have time to run at his mommy either. Its a basic manner - to listen the person which talk with you.
