Drugs! Heroin! need help & advice...pls

[AnonymousPoster]

some more links
about support for families
some more info on support for families of drug abusers
overall there are a lot of information there about addiction, recovery and help.

there is also well-known prayer used in AA, maybe it can bring some Peace to you.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.

thanks for all ur links...i will check them out

 

[AnonymousPoster]

He better off in prison, cuz he making all ur life a misery, why do all of you have to suffer just because of these 2 shaytans. call the cops. if they dont give up the drugs. u gotta scare them.Make them fear you. Make them listen to you.

There are only two of them, they cant hurt you. your his family.. Havent u got any older family members that can talk to them. If not tell the imam of the local masjid, let him have a work with them.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

thank you for ur reply. u see if only u'd understand. no1 can approach them in that sense. they are asleep all day, they wake up at 10pm ish...then all night they are awak & out. if we try to approach them in their 'waking' times...they get ever so angry, start banging doors...shouting..it upsets my mother and we dnt want the whole neibours talking or getting disturbed.

whoah that aint good,, the devils always pee'ing in their ears. Its from saheeh hadith sis
hmm, sis, do they respect quran? try reciting some quran to them when they wake up, and then read aloud the translation so they hear it (if ur scared then read it to urself but read it reeaally loud! and sis start playing really soothing nasheeds although quran works best.
try to do nice things for them although i know it can be really hard and then when they become soft then give them dawah.
if i was in your shoes i would probably just make dua and talk to them now and then... i have other ways lol, im a boy so its different for me i guess.

i remember once, one of my brother wanted a £1 late @ night. our family is in financial breakdown. it was just me & mum at home. no1 had a penny in our purse that time (we dnt keep money @ home). he was doing the usual, shouting, demanding. then he went to the kitchen and was walking aboutwith the knife. i got my mum in my room, locked it, and called the police. they came and took him away, while they wer talking him away, he was saying 'stop them, i wasnt gona do anything mum! i never would' that made us feel more guilty, i no my brother do such thing, but that day was too far. my mother cried to the police, seeking help. telling them to keep him away.

we've all been through rough times sis, i understand how it can be. you must remember that Allah is testing us from above seven skies, i hope you pass this test and enter jannah inshaAllah.

i hate UK in that sense! they say the only way 2 keep them away, is not to let them in the house. becuse he hadnt done anything to us, and theres no damage either. so they cnt force charges. . we even tried to sort them out with homeless councils. but here in the UK there is no policy or help really for males. because homeless houses are given priority to children, elderly and females. therz nothing we can do

dnt wry inshaAllah, the source of trouble will one day inshaAllah become your source of strength (your brothers). Why dont you try moving away? theres a hadith about a man who killed 99 but then he moved away to a new area to repent, perhaps youor brothers can also move?

dont give up on them sis, may Allah reward you with the highest places of jannah!!!

:wasalamex

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Havent u got any older family members that can talk to them. If not tell the imam of the local masjid, let him have a work with them.

no we dnt...not really. its come to a state wer der not scared of any1. not my dad...(his old anyway) not any uncles and we have only two grothers...and thats them . the imam will be ignored, theres no point in that. and police cnt do anything, as they havnt abused any1 yet

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

no we dnt...not really. its come to a state wer der not scared of any1. not my dad...(his old anyway) not any uncles and we have only two grothers...and thats them . the imam will be ignored, theres no point in that. and police cnt do anything, as they havnt abused any1 yet

are you in london?? I got quite a brave group of friends (all bros) lol, should we try something?

im not promising nothing till i talk to them though :X

 

[SATalha]

its so easy 2 get in 2 drugs in my area. Iam from east london and da dealery r like ur Old time friends. Anyway sister hope things get better 4 u. Jus turn 2 Allah, start making some REAL dua. And giving them some books on death and islam. It might help. I truely feel 4 u sis. I know sum 1 inda same sit as u. I wud suggest moving 2 a different area away from the local dealerz, but that depends on ur financial sitiua ion

 

[SATalha]

Thats a good idea get sum broz 2 giv dawa 2 them. I mean intense dawa, everyday. Make them become ur bro friends.so that they will b caling them taking them 2 talks etc

 

[Annie]

Salams brother i really feel sorry for your family,why dont you ask an imam to talk to your brothers,an imam might be able to make them understand and inshallah he might lead them to the straight path.
wasalam

 

[AnonymousPoster]

are you in london?? I got quite a brave group of friends (all bros) lol, should we try something?

im not promising nothing till i talk to them though :X

yes a east londerner. some local brothers tried once. they avoid them. it wnt work bro. but thanks for the offer. may allah reward u.

regarding mooving away like SATalha + u said. well its not possible with a father in his pention yr, mother too old to earn & two brothers sleeping @ home NOT earning. mooving is impossible.

and yes brother. wen my sisters are around, they do loud dua's, reciting, surah's, play nasheeds, leave islam channel on etc. hope 'noor' enters them. ...im also sure they respect the quran. because they do pray once in a while and do tell my nieces off for prayers & being a good muslim. i just think they think they r too late to return to islam. i remember once they wer saying, "we know we will burn in hell. theres nothing we can do."...they've lost faith within themselves

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Salams brother i really feel sorry for your family,why dont you ask an imam to talk to your brothers,an imam might be able to make them understand and inshallah he might lead them to the straight path.
wasalam

im a sister. thank you 4 ur advice, but it is impossible. we've doen that too. i feel the only way to fix them is by having gaurds they'll be scared of. but thats a dream...they dnt fear any1 anymore.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Mashallah they still got iman inside them.But they need that push to make there iman stronger

I dont think there is a solution to this, its up to them. they gotta make that move, and just stop..

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

and yes brother. wen my sisters are around, they do loud dua's, reciting, surah's, play nasheeds, leave islam channel on etc. hope 'noor' enters them. ...im also sure they respect the quran. because they do pray once in a while and do tell my nieces off for prayers & being a good muslim. i just think they think they r too late to return to islam. i remember once they wer saying, "we know we will burn in hell. theres nothing we can do."...they've lost faith within themselves

:salamext:

get them to just sit down once with you over some nice roasted marshmallows popcorn perhaps under the stars and put on this lecture:

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Do not despair that Allah will not forgive you for your sins, nor should you take Allah's forgiveness for granted. One must strive to strike a balance between the two by asking for tauba from Allah for their sins. As Brother Yasir mentions in the cd: "...you must strive to be the best of the sinners because the best of the sinners ask for tauba...

From the Back Cover: We continue to commit acts of disobedience against our very purpose of existence and we often times don't notice. Shaykh Yasir warns us from taking a lax attitude towards asking for forgiveness and also reminds us, using heart softening ahadith, not to fall into despair or neglect the importance of tauba.



Trust me!! it works and sister try to smile more, Allah works in miraculous ways, dont lose faith inshaAllah !!

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Mashallah they still got iman inside them.But they need that push to make there iman stronger

I dont think there is a solution to this, its up to them. they gotta make that move, and just stop..

sadly thats probably the only solution. its horrible waiting though. cos i want to see my parents happy b4 they leave this duniya. so them changing in 2oyrs aint gonna be good enough! also theyv been on it for 8-9 yrs now. the longer they r on it, they r damagine ther body, and they may leave this duniya b4 we no it. ..i dnt want them to....not like that

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

sadly thats probably the only solution. its horrible waiting though. cos i want to see my parents happy b4 they leave this duniya. so them changing in 2oyrs aint gonna be good enough! also theyv been on it for 8-9 yrs now. the longer they r on it, they r damagine ther body, and they may leave this duniya b4 we no it. ..i dnt want them to....not like that

im just wondering, have you ever actually given them an introduction to hell and heaven?


to be honest... i never really had that much interest in islam till i found out properly about heaven and hell... then all i ever wnted to do was find out how to avoid hell lol.


sis have you tried gettin someone to talk to their brothers mates? maybe a solution can be found there :?


if you was a user here i would pm you something to give you more hope... but sadly i cant because your not a fulluser

sorry

 

[AnonymousPoster]

im just wondering, have you ever actually given them an introduction to hell and heaven?


to be honest... i never really had that much interest in islam till i found out properly about heaven and hell... then all i ever wnted to do was find out how to avoid hell lol.


sis have you tried gettin someone to talk to their brothers mates? maybe a solution can be found there :?


if you was a user here i would pm you something to give you more hope... but sadly i cant because your not a fulluser

sorry

thank you brother for the link b4. uv helped me today a lot. made me re-think. & i will not stop giving dawah, even if they dnt like it. I wish i had a older brother like you who would have not let gone of his little brothers. if only i had one more brother...no i havnt really given dawah on heaven & hell...i'll try that...but how? i cnt approach them with it...they wnt listen, they''ll shut the door. shall i play it loud?...and brothers mates r useless...ther on it too ...and inshallah, i will try to make my mother & father smile more & that shall make me smile.

 

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may Allah help you

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Try harder, Mashallah if these brothers spent that energy they spend doing bad doing good, than inshallah they can change other people too. Dont lose hope sis, inshallah they will change, do dua for them..
Inshallah hope it works out for you. feel sorry you have to go through this.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

:salamext:

sis it would probably be best if you played it out loud that way they wont shout at you or anything.

also for a better understanding of hell check out:

http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-multimedia/33381-hell.html


sis also try be happy lol, wallahi everyone goes through tests and its just amazing what some positive and cheerful thinking can do. remember our prophet saws our beloved nabi, a sahabi said he didnt see him once without smiling.

im not saying this to sound mean but wallahi just attempting to keep a more sound and peaceful mind can make a complete difference to people. I hope it helps you be more brave and happy inshaAllah, i pray your parents get sakeena soon inshaAllah

:wasalamex

 

[AnonymousPoster]

:salamext:

sis it would probably be best if you played it out loud that way they wont shout at you or anything.

also for a better understanding of hell check out:

http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-multimedia/33381-hell.html


sis also try be happy lol, wallahi everyone goes through tests and its just amazing what some positive and cheerful thinking can do. remember our prophet saws our beloved nabi, a sahabi said he didnt see him once without smiling.

im not saying this to sound mean but wallahi just attempting to keep a more sound and peaceful mind can make a complete difference to people. I hope it helps you be more brave and happy inshaAllah, i pray your parents get sakeena soon inshaAllah

:wasalamex

thank you + anon. may allah reward all of u's that have helped me in this thread. i had this bottled up 4 9 yrs! didnt think any1 would be able to help until i came accross this forum. i feel as though i went through counselling now...thanks all

ill make dua for u's too

 

[Islam_sister]

Asalaam Alaykum My Sister!
Sister i am soo sorry to hear about this.. Yes now a days kids are getting caught up in drugs and it is mainly from the friends that they hang around with. Try and try hard to talk to keep on talking to them. Always pray to Allah (SWT) Allah will help you through this tough time you and your family are going through.. Sister i pray that Allah Will give you and your family Patience.. Don't give up hope sis.. Insha'allah they will stop.. Hun! And sister if i get any information on how to stop this horrible additcion that your brothers are in i will let you know ASAP Insha'allah.. Just never give up sister and Keep Praying.. and i will also pray for your family sister..

Ma Salaama
Allah Hafiz


P.S
You and your Family Stay Stong!