Reluctant groom

[Showkat]

Reluctant groom
http://www.7cgen.com/index.php?showtopic=9505

A poem partly inspired by Baba Ali


Just finished uni
Done my masters
And I’m twenty three
Got a job sorted
Career guaranteed
Life is on track
But one setback

Aint got no wife
To complete this life
Had enough of playing
Home and away

Got married at eighteen
Arranged to a stranger
Doesn’t matter
She’s related
I was mentally sedated
Brainwashed and blackmailed

So I did the deed
Reluctantly
I said yes
Then got stressed
When I thought about it

She came over
But I still continued with my lover
Parents knew
No one cared
Family traditions maintained
That’s all that mattered

But I felt mentally and physically shattered
Not easy pleasing two women

Kids came
Legit and illegitimate
Father of four
My life was a bore

Living like Jekyl and Hyde
Two mobiles
Always on edge
Drink and drugs
Feeling like a criminal
My life sucks

Time to decide
What to do
Make tough decisions
Upset the parents and family

What do i want?


Lived most of my life for others
Never thought or was bothered
Went with the flow
Now I’m feeling down and so low

Went to a talk
Not to stalk
women
But to learn
And understand
Why I am in this dunya
Is it for satisfying desires and lusts?

The speaker
Appeared to be a joker
Showing videos
And humour

Place was packed
Like sardines stacked
Brothers and sisters
Some in the deen
While others searching
And some lost souls

Made me think
That Friday night
So I took a break
For one night
From zina and drink

Woke up on Saturday
Feeling exhilarated
Better than along time
Time to focus
And not move with the locusts

Heading for hell
Laughing and smiling
Brainwashed totally

Me I’m trying
With the deen
and want to be seen
In the masjid and in sajdah
Bowing only to Allah

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Please also read Reluctant Bride
http://www.7cgen.com/index.php?showtopic=4817

As usual comment and forward widely inshAllah

Also I know someone will ask the question if hes married why does he say that he is single, the answer is below

Yes the guy does have a wife, he was forced/coerced to marry a relative but from his thinking shes not his wife in the true sense because he had very little choice in the matter. His family wanted him to marry back home and bring her over to please the extended families and to have an unpaid slave as well as grand children. The fact hes not fulfilling his responsibilities as a husband means little to his parents.

I hope that makes things clear inshAllah. Maybe someone knows of actual cases where the issues mentioned in the poem actually apply and can enlighten us more.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

smashed it.... deep

 

[Maidah]

^ so i guess the marriage did not bring any postive change into his life, just kinda made it worse. Well i have seen that happening, in an extended family parents think once they are married they wont be able to think of divorce as that will ruin the family reputation. When that is out of the question because of so much pressure, the boy and the girl will just compromise with each other for the sake of elders decision and their hapiness. Most of the time this compromise follows consequences such as having a secret wife or mistress. cuz marraige is not gluing two ppl together like pieces of paper and expect them to stay that way.

I think if u have been forced into marriage to somone you don't like or didn't want to get married to, life will be so much easier if you just accept the decision. It's not like accepting defeat cuz the only person you'e fighting against is yourself. The time spent in regretting and being deppy over once life and marraige, just spend that time working on the relationship, who knows maybe the r'ship will flourish like never before. :thumbs_up

 

[unknown_JJ]

kool!! i like it...

 

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smashed it.... deep

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Snap.