Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

I think you should tell him despite the possible embarassment and rejection. why?! becasue unless u tell him u aint gonna find out what he feels, maybe he feels the same for u, and maybe he is looking for marriage as well, u could be the one. Never underestimate the power of faith. Unspoken words are worse than spoken words. Let it out and if it don't work out u'll know it ain't meant to be and whats the worst that can happen, it's not like u gonna see him again ur both leaving for different unis anyways.

But one thing if it does work out, get married, don't do anything the wrong way.:thumbs_up
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

first anon yes if he rejects me i would be really upset it will break my heart
2 anon that`s what a part of me thinks. i nearly forgot about him till i met his mother by accident and she liked me! surely that has to be a sign.
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

How can you be sure that you like him when you haven't even spoken to him?
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

You met the mother, but not the father. So think before u make that move, i wouldn't take the risk.

How well do you know this brother?
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

i havent spoken to him because you need a mahram there. i am friend with his cousin and many people speak nothing but good of him i also like the way he carries himself. anon isnt it more important when you meet the mother:confused:
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

:salamext:

ask your cousin to propose on your behalf, if he accepts then marhaban, if he rejects then Allahu a'lam.

but first talk to your parents before even asking your cousin, i hope all goes well for you inshaAllah


may Allah grant you whats best for you inshaAllah
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

:sl:

Don't tell him any thing, just tell your mother about him n she will talk to his mother, If the brother is pious and you are pious too, then there shouldn't be any problem, unless he's engaged..:X

One more thing: ask your mother for nikah..in this case you both can get an education in same uni...

This is the best way you can be together........:blind:
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

sis i think u should ask the cousin ur friends with to drop it to him. If he accepts and is pious like u say, then he will do something about it. either he will marry u or tell u to wait. But at the end of the day u aint gonna find out nothing unless he says something, and thats gonna happen when he knows about it. If u aint gonna let him know then there is no point is there to even occupy ur mind with any illusions?!
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

You said you've had this feeling for a few months. How are you sure that it's not simply an infatuation that will pass in maybe a month's time?
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

Assalamu Alaikum

Pray Istikhara inshallah, and then tell your parents. If it works out, pray istikhara again..and may Allah subhana wa ta'ala be with you in making the right choices inshallah. Don't talk to the bro directly. Firstly if you get rejected, it will make you depressed, and if you are accepted, it will put feelings inside of you that weren't there before. So either way its like you're screwed lol. Try to do it through your parents, and Allah knows best.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

:sl:

Jazakallah kheir for everyone who replied. (Charisma nice advice). I decided to be quiet because my parents are not going to let me get married now so its pointless.
 
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Re: Hijab but kisses

maybe (but unlikely) the guy was her husband? white guys can be muslim too (i know, wow). Instead of broadcasting it here..why didnt you approach her and tell her the grave sin she has committed? Only kidding, we dont know who she is!

I dont mean to be rude or anything.. i also lost a chance to tell someone that men cant wear gold.. i bet alot of people here dont know this.

You know what they call girls who wear hijab... The BurkaBabes
 
Re: walk home

Beleive me walking home is so much more than you think. I know of a real life story where walking home lead to the girl having feelings for the boy, despite her claims of having right intentions and being pious, and the whole thing turned into some next up drama.

Anyways im not saying this wil be the case for every case, but if i were you, i wouldn't rule out the possibility of it happening. Cuz when two ppl are together the third part is teh shytan.

Just try to get home as quickly as you can and if does drop u off home, there is no nedd to feel that you're being rude and should drop in a word or two. But inevetably thats what we end up doing.
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

the exact same thing happend to me..and we stayed away all summer and guess what! ended up at the same uni! ..really i think leave it and inshallah it'll be ok.
 
Re: 2 Option. 1.tell him 2.be quiet

:sl: sis, even tho ur parents dont want u 2 get married rite now, maybe he could be a possible groom for you wen u are able to get married. maybe tell your parents that u have him in mind for a possible marriage proposal? im sure your heart is telling you something? i think you should follow your heart, otherwise ur always gonna be thinking 'what if'. and u mite end up regrettin your decision. I think you should follw your heart.. whatever is gonna happen is in Allah's hands.
hope all works out well for u :D
 
Re: Hijab but kisses

snakelegs said:
if a person wears hijab they will be seen by some non-muslims as a representative of muslims as a whole. so i think they would have a special obligation to present a good example.
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Of course, but where will you draw the line on this sort of policing?

There are other "nominal" Muslims who drink. There are those who listen to music. There are those who fly planes into buildings.


And there are Christians who engage in adultery, and start wars of aggression, and do all sorts of other things not truly representative of Chrsitianity.

Even if you have figured out that you don't want the world to get a false idea reagarding one's religion, it is difficult to control the way other people think and act. A soft word of information might be wise here, but a word of rebuke would probably just alienate the girl from any further growth in her faith.
 
Re: Hijab but kisses




I seek refuge in Allah (The One God) from the Satan (devil) the cursed, the rejected

With the name of ALLAH (swt) -The Bestower Of Unlimited Mercy, The Continously Merciful


Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh (May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon you)

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Anonymous Tester said:
.......[*]Is it better that she not wear the Hijab at all if she acts that way with it on?.
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---what she did is wrong but she must not remove veil. Insha Allah
( God Willing ) she will realise her mistake & won't repeat it.

[*]As a Non-Muslim, who knows a lot about Islam is it my place to make a comment to her about it, or is that to rude? .[/QUOTE]


---u can talk to her personally & gently pointed out of her mistake without hurting her feeling/ego.


[*]Anything you have that I can tell her which will basically tell her she is completly wrong etc, like no kissing guys, or physically touching them (from quran).[/LIST]Thanks.[/QUOTE]


- in chapter 24 ( sura light ) there is a verse that tells both the believer men & women ( not the exact words ) to lower gaze & protect chastity . There is another verse that says to avoid those acts which can lead to adultery. So , coming close to opposite sex , kissing -----these are surely steps to future immoral acts.


U can give her a book on how to be a goody goody Muslimah :)

 
i need help,,,,im nt a good muslim , wel da reason is cuz i hav a boyfriend and i dunt no wah to do, i do alot of finks im nt proud of ,bt cnt stop, he says he loves me n i cnt break his heart ,he wil reli be saaaad i cntt do it ,im nt dat heartless bt i do want to be a good muslimah, plzz if u hav any ideas or anyfink or can help me i wil aprreacite it
thank you
 

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