never been so confused.

when I reverted to Islam my dad didn't. It was hard expalining things to him and I didn't wear the hijab infront of him for a while but in the end I realised it was fairly easy to talk to...however he is still persistant in the sense he is always trying to prove I am still 'like him'. Constantly trying to find out if I have a boyfriend or not. lol dream on dad! Anyhow I hope Allah guides you and makes it easy for you InshAllah.
 
Without realizing it, your mom has done you a great service in telling you to "focus on your studies". I suggest that is what you do right now. But, unlike your mom, I think you can do that without forgetting about Islam (or any other religion). So, don't forget about Islam, if that is the decision you have made, but do focus on your studies. Let them be #2, after Allah. Then at the end of the semester you will have a marvelous report to share with your mother, and you can say, "Oh, by the way Mom, remember I told you I was thinking about Islam, well, I became convinced about it, and have been a Muslim for some time now."

Based on what she said, she is more concerned about your studies than whether or not you are Muslim or not. So, by focusing on your studies you can show her that Islam is not a threat to her dreams for you. If she can understand that, she will probably celebrate with you, that you have found something that blesses your life.

Hint: don't tell her you're engaged to get married in the same year. :D
 
I totally see that she is doing me major favours by telling me to focus on my studies. But of course they’re gonna be #2, behind Allah.
I really don’t see how Islam would interfere with my studies, it hasn’t thus far. :)
But the fact that she is more concerned about my studies than Islam also shows me at it doesn’t seem to be a big deal to her, which is great!

Hehehe, she would go insane when/if I get engaged Inshaa Allaah.
 
Asalaamu 'alykum.


Inshaa Allaah, you're already getting used to the arabic :p


Whenever you got the time, you could check these links out:


http://www.sparklywater.com/sparklywater/downloads.html
http://www.islam.com/salat/salatfinal.html

http://www.bahagia.btinternet.co.uk/
http://muslimconverts.com/prayer/how-to-pray-intro.htm
http://muttaqun.com/prayer/toc.html

How to Pray


Whatever site you feel most comfortable with, :) the prayer is of the most important pillers in islaam. If you have any questions regarding that - please do ask!



Peace.
 
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Thanks so much for those, Fi_Sabilillah. :D
I have been praying but I'm not quite sure if I've been getting things right. In fact, I'm quite confident I haven't been. If any questions arise I will tell you guys asap!
 
:sl: brother or sister of Islam.

Abu Huraira reported:

Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The world is a prison-house for a believer and Paradise for a non-believer.

Sahih Muslim, Book 42, Number 7058


Allah says:

“This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion [al-Maa'idah 5:3 – interpretation of the meaning]

Allah did not chose to give this favour just to a one race but to the whole of humanity. Therefore any one can become a Muslim no matter what race or colour he/she is. No matter whether they are single, married, divorced or a child.
Any sins no matter committed prior to Islam no matter how bad they were are forgiven. One is totally reborn and starts with a clean record.
forgiven.

I will pray for you in my Dua! May Allah Ta'ala sents many many blessings on you!

:w: :muslimah:
Sister of Islam
 
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Jazaak Allaah khayr (may Allaah reward you) sister Righteous Lady! I forgot to add that:

‘Amr ibn Al-‘Aas narrates, “When Islam entered my heart, I went to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and said, ‘Give me your hand so that I may pledge allegiance to you.’ The Prophet spread his hand, but I withdrew mine. He said, ‘What is wrong ‘Amr?’ I said, ‘I want to make a condition.’ ‘And what is that?’ he said. I said, ‘That Allah will forgive me.’

Then the Messenger of Allah said, ‘Did you not know that Islam wipes out what came before it, and that Hijrah [Emigration for Allaah's cause] wipes out what came before it and that Hajj [the Pilgrimage performed in Makkah] wipes out what came before it!” (Sahih Muslim).​



So all your past mistakes and sins are forgiven anonymous, inshaa Allaah! :)
 
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Fi_Sabilillah said:
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Jazaak Allaah khayr (may Allaah reward you) sister Righteous Lady! I forgot to add that:


‘Amr ibn Al-‘Aas narrates, “When Islam entered my heart, I went to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and said, ‘Give me your hand so that I may pledge allegiance to you.’ The Prophet spread his hand, but I withdrew mine. He said, ‘What is wrong ‘Amr?’ I said, ‘I want to make a condition.’ ‘And what is that?’ he said. I said, ‘That Allah will forgive me.’

Then the Messenger of Allah said, ‘Did you not know that Islam wipes out what came before it, and that Hijrah wipes out what came before it and that Hajj wipes out what came before it!” (Sahih Muslim).​




So all your past mistakes and sins are forgiven anonymous, inshaa Allaah! :)
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:sl:

Thank you brother of Islam! :thumbs_up

:w:
Sister of Islam :muslimah:
 
Anonymous Tester said:
Which is great to hear. I have done a lot of things before I found Islam that I'm really not proud of.
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When IF you actually convert to Islam..then Allah Ta'ala will clean your past of sins whatever you have done...He will sents lots of blessings on you and will promise to protect you whatever people do something nasty to you or pressure difficult on you..I feels in your heart that you actually love God in your heart because l have feeling that..if you really love God and He will come to you at speed than one second!

May Allah Ta'ala sents many many blessings on you!

:w:

Sister of Islam
 
I do love Allah (swt), RighteousLady. And I have converted, it's just that nobody knows about it yet.
I'm still as happy with my decision as I was when I had just reverted, alhamdulillah!!! :D
 
Assalaamu Alaikum

I am soooooo late lol

Congratulations on revertion to Al-Islam. May Allah grant you with Jannah (Paradise) beaneath which rivers flow. May Allah keep you on the right path forecer until you meet Him (Allah) :D


Congratulations once again our dearest brother/sister In Islam :D
 
Earlier tonight I was in the car with my mother and sister and they started saying things like "Revert Muslims aren't as respected as born Muslims in the Islamic community" and "Organised religion in this day and age is for the weak, it is up to us to make our own decisions, not to be bossed around". I didn't know what to say! :cry:
I know they're wrong, but I just couldn't express it to them!!
 
Asalaamu 'alykum.


May Allaah make it easy for you.


You have to tell them that Allaah doesn't judge us on what color we are or anything like that, and Allaah only sees our hearts, intentions and actions. Tell them that the best of people after the prophets were reverts, guess who they were? We have a full section packed with their life stories. It's the companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him.) :) Infact alot of reverts are in a better position than us born muslims since Allaah forgives all their past sins once they become muslim.

Use this verse from the Qur'an:

O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things). [Qur'an 49:13]


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And if they don't believe in organised religion, then you should ask them whether they believe in disorganised religion? Since one can only find out what God likes/dislikes by believing in the concept of Prophets and Messengers who recieve revelation from Allaah. What other way is there?

What most people don't understand is that the people of old said the same, if you look in the Qur'an - you'll see that people say that these are simply 'stories of old', yet Allaah refutes them because thats exactly what the people before them said! Think about it, one thousand four hundred years may seem like a long time right? This is when Allaah's final Messenger came, and these people who may seem old to us are saying the exact same thing:

When to him are rehearsed Our Signs, "Tales of the ancients", he cries! [Qur'an 68:15]


That's because there a people who simply don't know. The message is simple really, Allaah created us so we would obey Him, He sent us messengers with clear/unreplicable signs in order that we obey Him. Then we would die and be raised back to life by the One who created us first, and be questioned on whether we obeyed the Messenger sent to us or not. (This is when you can talk about the positive aspects of islaam.) Those who believed and did good to please Allaah will be rewarded by Him, and those who rejected and disbelieved will be punished since they turned away from the purpose of their creation.


The main questions you need to put forward are - aren't you responsible for your own actions? And if you believe in your Creator, don't you believe you will return to Him and be questioned on everything you did? Don't you think God needs to send a true Messenger who will distinguish between what is wrong and right for mankind? Because we know that in some cultures something may be liked whereas in another that exact same thing is counted as something evil. So the Messenger comes with clear proof and authority, that is why the Qur'an is also known as Al-Furqaan [The Criterion - to distinguish between truth/falsehood, good/evil etc.] :) And Allaah knows best.


If you don't understand what i meant or unsure of anything, please do ask.



 
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Thanks again, Fi_Sabilillah! (For everything!! :) )
I will try to get those points across and to raise those questions! :D
But what got me about the whole thing was the fact that they were accusing Islam of taking away me making choices in life, when Islam is my choice, so it's like without realising it, they're doing just what they're accusing Islam of doing. My mom knows I'm thinking about it, but I didn't know my sister knew, unless she doesn't and was just going along with what mom said?
 
Asalaamu 'alykum. (Peace be upon you.) :) Remember that whenever a muslim greets you with the greeting of peace, you have to greet them back also.


Allaah Almighty says in the Qur'an:

When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally. Certainly, Allah is Ever a Careful Account Taker of all things. [Qur'an 4:86]

​

So you should reply with the same greeting by saying:

wa [and] alaikum [upon you] as-salaam. [be peace]
That's just a tip, its quite good when you want to show other muslims that you're a muslim, especially since its a greeting of the people of paradise also!

And those who kept their duty to their Lord will be led to Paradise in groups, till, when they reach it, and its gates will be opened (before their arrival for their reception) and its keepers will say: Salamun 'Alaikum (peace be upon you)! You have done well, so enter here to abide therein."

[Qur'an 39: 73]
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In regard to your question:
What most people don't recognise is that islaam makes people see their own true colors and understand their personality. People have excelled in many fields once they've become muslim, and their submission to Allaah has helped them advance further.

For example if you look at the companions of the Messenger of Allaah, Khalid ibn Al Waleed was a General, and never lost a battle in his life. Uthman ibn Affaan was a business man and excelled in that field also. Umar ibn Al Khattaab was a man who was a heavy drinker and some scholars stated that he would die at a young age because he drank alcohol so much, but when he became muslim - he became a just ruler of nearly two thirds of the world!


You see how Allaah raises the status of the believers,
“Whosoever does right, whether male or female, and is a believer, we shall make them live a good life, and We shall pay them a recompense in proportion to the best of what they used to do.” [Sûrah al-Nahl: 97]
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Whereas for the disbeliever:
“But he who turns away from remembrance of Me, his will be a narrow life, and I shall bring him blind to the assembly on the Day of Resurrection.” [Sûrah TâHâ: 124]
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http://www.islamicboard.com/basics-islam/40051-qur-speaks-happiness.html



You need to tell your family that man needs certain restrictions and guidelines in life from the One who truely knows them - their Creator, otherwise we're simply wandering in darkness with no light, with no guide to tell us what truely is wrong or right.

When we find that light, we can follow it knowing that we are going in the right direction. Knowing that your Creator appreciates the good that you do, and He is prepared to reward you for it. Whereas those who are too arrogant to accept it will be punished for being rebellious, even when He is calling them towards His Mercy and reward.


Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things.

Allah is the Protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light. Of those who reject faith the patrons are the evil ones: from light they will lead them forth into the depths of darkness. They will be companions of the fire, to dwell therein (For ever).

[Qur'an 2: 256-7]



Tell them that you don't feel that you're being controlled, but instead you're being guided to what is right. What you know is right, and tell them that you find that feeling of tranquility and peace in your heart. That feeling of content that every person strives for.

The Messenger of Allaah, peace be upon him - himself said that the rich man isn't the one who has alot of wealth, but the one who is content. You feel content since you know that it is Allaah who provides for you, and no-one can harm you or benefit you except by His will. And even if the whole world turns against you, the One who has power over them is on your side. Since He loves you, and you love Him.

So remember Me; I will remember you. And be grateful to Me and do not deny Me. [Qur'an 2: 152]

And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided. [Qur'an 2: 186]



Please do ask more if you're unsure of anything, and may Allaah strengthen you and us all in faith. ameen. :)
 
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Thanks again, Fi_Sabilillah! (For everything!! :) )
I will try to get those points across and to raise those questions! :D
But what got me about the whole thing was the fact that they were accusing Islam of taking away me making choices in life, when Islam is my choice, so it's like without realising it, they're doing just what they're accusing Islam of doing. My mom knows I'm thinking about it, but I didn't know my sister knew, unless she doesn't and was just going along with what mom said?
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Assalaamu Alaikum

What does your sister think of Islam? :)
 
Wa alaikum as-salaam,
Anyway, we just had dinner and my Mom brought up yesterday's conversation in the car and now my Dad is in the know.
My sister was quite vocal on how "all religion is a scam". I did raise some of the question and points you informed me of, Fi_Sabilillah. Only to be yelled down with falsehoods. No matter how much I tried to correct what they thought of Islam I would just be yelled at and told I was wrong.
This is a family that I THOUGHT would be supportive, this is a disaster. :enough!:
Now I'm just hoping this information doesn't get passed onto my friends.
My Mum also confirmed her argument that I don't need religion dictating to me what I can and can't do and that I should be able to make my own choices.
Why is it that she feels it's okay for her to say what's right and wrong by me and Allah (swt) cannot?
 

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