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salamunalikum..

has anyone here dropped out of university?? i rly want to do so, im in my first yr of uni, doing pharmacy...but i have NO idea what ill do after...maybe im just being lazy...

i hate exams, i hate working, i hate the lectures...i dont even turn upto them and im the laziest person in academic work among my m8s....but my parents dnt understand!!
 
nuj said:
salamunalikum..

has anyone here dropped out of university?? i rly want to do so, im in my first yr of uni, doing pharmacy...but i have NO idea what ill do after...maybe im just being lazy...

i hate exams, i hate working, i hate the lectures...i dont even turn upto them and im the laziest person in academic work among my m8s....but my parents dnt understand!!
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When I became Muslim I found college very difficult, I wish I had been stronger, I dont see how I could have but when I think back now, I see so much benefit if I had stayed.

Let me give you an example, if I had stayed at college then I'd have some sort of evidence that I'll be able to cope with an Islamic course, now I dont have that, although my reasons for leaving, in my view were important, I still thinking staying at college would have had a good side, though the bad would outweigh it.

Id reccomend you stay, unless of course the bad is outweighing the good, i.e. you fear mixing with guys or something serious not just you dont like lectures.
 
LOL....nah the guys are okay...large portion of my yr are muslims and its good cos u can just ignore the brothers and they dnt get offended...so nope there isnt mixing with the girls i stay with...

but seriously...i think its bad for my err...imaan because i be lazyyy allllll year and then i have to do like 2 weeks of intense revision b4 the exams...and then the lazy bit comes back in...and when i cum home i cant be botherd to do much...but alhamdulilah i never miss my prayers or nething thats the good thing...u can skip lectures and pray if u fear the time mite pass

but on the otherhand laziness is evil for this life and the hereafter...and i use uni as an excuse to be lazy... also the work is boring-ish...i think...

and despite us not mixing with the guys...theres still fitnah..there always is....
 
Dont quite you'll regret it later, you need a challenge in life but if you do decide to leave make sure you have something planned to replace uni.
 
oh yeah...btw theres the debt thing..

il be in err...12k debt...and il be paying them back about 13k. i did the calculations....but nobody in my family seem to be too worried about this...they go i can pay it back when i start working...but wat if i die in my fourth yr..whos gonna pay back my debt for me??

my parents dnt want me to be a drop out because i think they'l feel ashamed of me...lol....stupid customs.
 
nuj said:
LOL....nah the guys are okay...large portion of my yr are muslims and its good cos u can just ignore the brothers and they dnt get offended...so nope there isnt mixing with the girls i stay with...

but seriously...i think its bad for my err...imaan because i be lazyyy allllll year and then i have to do like 2 weeks of intense revision b4 the exams...and then the lazy bit comes back in...and when i cum home i cant be botherd to do much...but alhamdulilah i never miss my prayers or nething thats the good thing...u can skip lectures and pray if u fear the time mite pass

but on the otherhand laziness is evil for this life and the hereafter...and i use uni as an excuse to be lazy... also the work is boring-ish...i think...

and despite us not mixing with the guys...theres still fitnah..there always is....
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Do you think laziness will go when you dont have a routine? You get up to pray am guessing then you stay up or go sleep then wake up to go uni, imagine u didnt have to go uni ud jus end up in bed.

I think shaytan is just confusing you, logically having uni will keep you in more of a routine than if you dont have uni. The rest is hard work.
 
i get upto pray .... yes...but i go sleep and end up missing my lectures...i kinda just attend the err...afternoon ones...ish....somedays.

my attendace is v.bad...(my parents dont know!)
 
Fi_Sabilillah said:
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Before you do anything - remember to also do istikhaarah inshaa Allaah.

http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-c...ing-allaah-subhaanahu-wa-taaala-guidance.html
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oh yes...istikharaa...i keep meaning to do it..insha'allah i will...but FIRST i need to convince my paaarents to lemi drop out....

the thing is...a yr ago i wasnt practising so when i got my A-level results....and the uni accepted me..mum told me not to go uni....and me being an idiot insisted i wanted to go (i did this out of err...i was being rebelious)..

and NOW i cnt convince her to let me drop out...after what feels like embracing islam, uni and stuff like that seem so trivial to me..

and my dad...err....i avoid him. lol
 
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How about doing the istikhaarah to decide whether you should really drop out or not?
 
nuj said:
salamunalikum..

has anyone here dropped out of university?? i rly want to do so, im in my first yr of uni, doing pharmacy...but i have NO idea what ill do after...maybe im just being lazy...

i hate exams, i hate working, i hate the lectures...i dont even turn upto them and im the laziest person in academic work among my m8s....but my parents dnt understand!!
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is it coz u hate the course ur doing? u must hav gotten a good mark to get in2 pharm in first place, so im sure u got the capacity to do well at uni if u like ur course insh :)

take care
all the best
:w:
 
jazakallah for your comments.

ive been getting negative feedback from everyone i talk to this about...meaning my family and friends...

the course is v.boring atm. i only like ONE class and that morley dispensery...its a bit interesting cos its about pharmacy...but now ive lost intrest in even that....cnt imagine my self doing this for another 4 years!!! *gulps*

i think il give it another year...plus my parents refuse point blank to let me drop the course....

*sigh*

insha'allah i will benefit people if and when i graduate.
 
:sl: Why don't you change from pharmacy to somethng else? sure it might be a waste of all you've done so far but it might get you to where you wanna be...(Working to pay of the debt?)

Anyway all the best with whatever you plan to do....laziness is a curse, wallahi itz really difficult to overcome it but just try :D lol not good advice but best I can do :okay: :w:
 
nuj said:
salamunalikum..

has anyone here dropped out of university?? i rly want to do so, im in my first yr of uni, doing pharmacy...but i have NO idea what ill do after...maybe im just being lazy...

i hate exams, i hate working, i hate the lectures...i dont even turn upto them and im the laziest person in academic work among my m8s....but my parents dnt understand!!
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ı think you should thank allah for your situatıon..do you know how many students study for years and years to be a university student ın TURKEY?LET ME SAY , ABOUT 1.500.000 PEOPLE..THEİR ONLY DREAM İS TO BE IN UNİVERSİTY...THEY SPENT HUGE SUMS OF MONEY...5 BİLLİON DOLARS IN A YEAR OVERALL...YOU SHOULD GO ON I THINK
Fİİ AMANİLLAH
 
yigiter187 said:
ı think you should thank allah for your situatıon..do you know how many students study for years and years to be a university student ın TURKEY?LET ME SAY , ABOUT 1.500.000 PEOPLE..THEİR ONLY DREAM İS TO BE IN UNİVERSİTY...THEY SPENT HUGE SUMS OF MONEY...5 BİLLİON DOLARS IN A YEAR OVERALL...YOU SHOULD GO ON I THINK
Fİİ AMANİLLAH
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whoops, i probably sound ungrateful with all the 'hate' lol, but actually i dont hate it just...it doesnt intrest me...
i dont think its worth spending huge sums of money to get educated...and to get a good paying job isnt my ambition ... its an ambition others have for me...
the only reason im carrying on with it is to make my parents happy...but ive come up with more cons to uni life than pros..

i.e. arrogance, ambition, icreased love for worldly life, mixing, debt, less fear of death...and much more.
btw these are all personal cons...im not implying this applies to everyone.
 
i know exactly how you feel, guess the best way is to find a way to break it to your parents...very gently:exhausted
im doin pharmacy an i sort of started losing interest in it about the second year in..in the final year now an kinda wishing id done somethin about it earlier. anyway i probably wont graduate an my parents al have to find out less gently. which is the only thing that worries me at all.
so yeah if you have decided and your sure...make em aware of what you want, better now than later.
 
nuj said:
whoops, i probably sound ungrateful with all the 'hate' lol, but actually i dont hate it just...it doesnt intrest me...
i dont think its worth spending huge sums of money to get educated...and to get a good paying job isnt my ambition ... its an ambition others have for me...
the only reason im carrying on with it is to make my parents happy...but ive come up with more cons to uni life than pros..

i.e. arrogance, ambition, icreased love for worldly life, mixing, debt, less fear of death...and much more.
btw these are all personal cons...im not implying this applies to everyone.
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ı just said the situatıon ın turkey...ı meant that we should thank allah considering other people having harsh conditions..excuse me!:cry:
 
M.I.A. said:
i know exactly how you feel, guess the best way is to find a way to break it to your parents...very gently:exhausted
im doin pharmacy an i sort of started losing interest in it about the second year in..in the final year now an kinda wishing id done somethin about it earlier. anyway i probably wont graduate an my parents al have to find out less gently. which is the only thing that worries me at all.
so yeah if you have decided and your sure...make em aware of what you want, better now than later.
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aaah, so it doesnt get better in the second year??? uh-oh...i was hoping maybe things wud perk up then...
 
My advise is to talk to a counselor SOON!! It is only your FIRST year. It gives you motivated or deters you from your goal. This semester is almost done I am sure so just go to the career center and see what will motivate you to be less lazy and do the work required. In the end you need that piece of paper that says you completed the courses and have graduated. A lot of good jobs see if you completed your bachelors degree...it looks good on your resume. Talk to some of your friends and see what their goals are...That can motivate you as well or they might help you in the direction of a good major that you may enjoy. The last, last final thing you should do is quit and decrease your education. If you fear going out and doing something to jeapordize your deen start looking to get married and tell parents that you are interested in marriage...even while your in school. I know many people who do the nikkah and manange school I am sure you can do it as well. Finally, I ask you to get advise from the experienced folk like seniors/juniors in college because they have a lot of advise.

Pharmacy is a well respected field, good work hours, less stress than doctor, and make good money. I say you continue and motivate yourself by doing the above...Or just change the major by going to a career center in school (most have it). All high schools have it....Get info. about what you may want to pursue...Don't forget to make dua and istikhara before you chose...
Hope that helps and update us what you plan to do.
 

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