Infants to toddlers learn right vs. wrong (viz., morality) and consequences of their choices from their parents (or other care givers); children learn more about morality and consequences from their culture, including their clerics; teenagers learn still more from their peers and their idols; adults learn still more from considering concepts and evaluating experiences, thereby assigning a value to any act (e.g., from minus ten to plus ten) as a measure of its morality.
Any value, however, has meaning only with respect to some objective. Those of us who identify our prime goals to be own survival and the survival of our families (which for humanists includes all humanity – or even all life) measure moral values relative to those goals. Meanwhile, those (religionists) whose prime goal is gaining “eternal life”, measure moral values with respect to that goal.
For humanists, therefore, the highest moral value (a plus ten on a scale from minus ten to plus ten) is to EVALUATE; for religionists, on the other hand, the highest moral value is to OBEY (i.e., to serve their god as specified in their “holy book”), which in practical terms means obeying their clerics. In my view, that some grownups (not yet adults) still rely on clerics to define right and wrong and alleged consequences (e.g., heaven vs. hell) is sad – as could be demonstrated with many examples.