Ive tried so hard to get you back

[IbnAbdulHakim]

:giggling: ... Ok, here's my shoulder.

Come on grow up!! Why is it that people are sooo :X when stuff like this happens to them?

lol for real its all about falling in love with Allah innit bro :shade:

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Assalamu Alaikum,

Hey im the one in pain here. can everybody rediect their attention towards me please

we are helpin you bro, look if you was here in real life i would seriously take you to a masjid or somethin and just talk with you,

 

[Hamas]

Its like that my brothers, your going to laugh at me and make fun of me?
Thanks for your shoulders but i dont want to lean on your shoulders but being guys you can help me in other ways but forget it.

Its not the average pain that she gave me is it? shes with another guy, imagine what im going through, As bizarre as it may sound theres this girl see and im going to go to her and hope to get some ease, by saying this i dont want to lose any chance of HER comming back to me because she does have access to this forum, shes the one who made me join and shes probably on right now,

How can i dare to expect any ease or peace of heart when i am not even in the shade and mercy of the Almighty. Allah hu Akabar.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ bro why dont you repend and ask Allah for his comfort?

seriously try it inshaAllah

 

[.:Umniyah:.]

:salamext:

Brother, the point that those brothers are making is that it seems like no matter how much we say and advise you keep saying the same thing over and over.

Its almost like you dont even want the advice, you just want us to sit and listen to what 'shes' done to you and feel sorry for you when in reality we arent going to do that because anytime you do something haraam, in other than how Allah subhanahu wa ta'la has commaned us to do it, then we encounter hardship. So this is yours. Instead of calling out to us m call out to the one who can make a difference. Allah!!

We've given you all the advice that we can give, now you can take it or leave it , but know the reality stands. And frankly if shes moved on for whatever reasons then you should too, you cant force the girl to be with you , i dont care how much youre hurting, if she doesnt want to be with you shes NOT going to be with you. You can't change the Qadr. Things happen for millions of different reasons.

So just ACCEPT!!! what has happened MOVE ON!!! and say Al Hamdulillah. thats it! khalas!

 

[Hamas]

:salamext:

Brother, the point that those brothers are making is that it seems like no matter how much we say and advise you keep saying the same thing over and over.

Its almost like you dont even want the advice, you just want us to sit and listen to what 'shes' done to you and feel sorry for you when in reality we arent going to do that because anytime you do something haraam, in other than how Allah subhanahu wa ta'la has commaned us to do it, then we encounter hardship. So this is yours. Instead of calling out to us m call out to the one who can make a difference. Allah!!

We've given you all the advice that we can give, now you can take it or leave it , but know the reality stands. And frankly if shes moved on for whatever reasons then you should too, you cant force the girl to be with you , i dont care how much youre hurting, if she doesnt want to be with you shes NOT going to be with you. You can't change the Qadr. Things happen for millions of different reasons.

So just ACCEPT!!! what has happened MOVE ON!!! and say Al Hamdulillah. thats it! khalas!

Assalamu Alaikum,

Oh my dear sister, how can you be so cold towards me, your brother?

 

[.:Umniyah:.]

Wa Alaikum as salaam

Oh my dear brother, how could you be so unwilling to abid by Allahs laws? accpet Allahs Qadr, and appreciate Allahs warning through way of your fellow brothers and sister? oh how my dear Brother?

 

[rozeena]

bro, r u sure shes nt wiv sum1

 

[Hamas]

bro, r u sure shes nt wiv sum1

What do you mean? i know shes with someone, thats the problem.

 

[Hamas]

Wa Alaikum as salaam

Oh my dear brother, how could you be so unwilling to abid by Allahs laws? accpet Allahs Qadr, and appreciate Allahs warning through way of your fellow brothers and sister? oh how my dear Brother?

Please help me, i just want some peace, i want her out of my heart and mind, just thinking shes with the guy right now kills me. Im so not at peace, where do i go? what do i do? my pain does not affect her even slightly, i cant eat i cant sleep, please help me

 

[.:Umniyah:.]

Brother, thats what im trying to do, but you arent allowing us to help you. The point im making is, the advice we're giving you, is what WILL help you inshaaAllah if you only apply it, sorry bro but theres no fast result, no pill to pop, no magic lamp , nothing. Its not going to be easy, your heart is a VERY deadly weapon if used in the wrong way, or if attached to the wrong things. The point is you must put in work, its not going to be easy, no one said it will be, but inshaaAllah if you do it, it will change you for the better bi'ithnillah.

See the problem that alot of people in your situation have is that , they only repeat the reality over and over to themself , eg. shes with another guy, but they never move pass the reality onto a solution...and thats what youre doing. Okay, now that you know the reality, what are you going to do about it? You've stopped eating, sleeping, and driving yourself nuts....has that changed the reality? or at the very least has that changed how the reality affects you? no bro, not at all, so that should tell you that what you're going about things the wrong way.

Bro , dont waddle in self pity, if you want to feel better, then actually DO something to make yourself feel better....no one can make you feel better except you! by turning to Allah and asking him to help you, help yourself inshaaAllah.

thats the only way bro...i cant help you, the other bros and siss cant help you, because we cant control the affairs of the heart, we cant change your qadr we cant make her love you....so you have to turn to the one who has control over those matters....Allah ta'la

Please help me, i just want some peace, i want her out of my heart and mind, just thinking shes with the guy right now kills me. Im so not at peace, where do i go? what do i do? my pain does not affect her even slightly, i cant eat i cant sleep, please help me

 

[umm-sulaim]

Akhee seriously....go out, get some fresh air, say subhana Allaah wa bihamdihi subhana Allaahil adheem as you walk (helps) go to the masjid talk to our brothers about deen, read a book bout Allaah's names n sifaat so u can call on him by his beautiful names. Seek Allaah's aid n put yur trust in Allaah, this is all a test,'testing you to see which one of you has the best actions' (liyabluwakum ayyukum ahsanu amalaa)

'whatever is with us will perish n whatever is with Allaah is permenant' (ma 3indakum yanfad wa ma 3ind Allaahi baaq)

Ask the Baaqi azza wa jall to assist u bro.. she's only a woman, n now that u know she's with someone akhee it'll do u now good to think of her like this as u know...

and you know hadeeth zayd in muslim (plz correct me if i'm wrong) 'verily to Allaah belongs what he gives and his is what he takes and everything is for a prescribed time'

This is dunya akhee, forget about her...may Allaah compensate you in your pain.

rasoulullaah alayhi salaatu wassalaam said 'whoever leaves something for the sake of Allaah, his replaced with something better than it'

so leave it inshaa'Allaah...

wassalaamu alaykum

 

[Umar001]

Hey bro, look, the more you think about it the more its gonna get to you. Trust me, I know how you feel, (a brother told me about this whole feeling thing) it aint pretty, you better get ready for real life man.

Anyhow, don't get too attatched to anyone, even in marriage I mean, just becareful.

But talking about it all the time like you do on here aint gonna help.

 

[Hamas]

Its like to you brothers and sisters, she might sound like a bad character but shes not, she prays 5 times a day, we used to pray together, she would pray at home and i would go to the masjid, beautiful were those days, filled with peace and tranquility.

We had a mutual understanding, a joint understanding, something that could not be infiltrated but now she has that with him and not me, that gets to me so much too. Im sorry you guys are probably getting fed up with me.

 

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Its like to you brothers and sisters, she might sound like a bad character but shes not, she prays 5 times a day, we used to pray together, she would pray at home and i would go to the masjid, beautiful were those days, filled with peace and tranquility.

We had a mutual understanding, a joint understanding, something that could not be infiltrated but now she has that with him and not me, that gets to me so much too. Im sorry you guys are probably getting fed up with me.

:salamext:

Brother, we are not getting fed up with you. But at the end of the day, what u did was not allowed Islamically, so pray to Allaah that u want to be with her the HALAL way, and if she is good for you the Inshaa Allaah, Allaah will let u be with her. But brother, give it TIME. nothing can happen in an instant

 

[Nawal89]

Why dont you accept the qadar of Allah?
Its probably for the best.
Plus have some pride. You said shes on this forum too? And for her to see you talking like this? Over something haram?
Man.

 

[umm-sulaim]

nah i don't think she's bad, i just see her as someone who's made a choice that's affected u negatively

but u guys were'nt married right...so la ba's don't worry bout it, your loss is small compared to those brothers or sisters who loose their life partners, the mother/father of their children, your in ni'mah (blessin) compared to that

akhee shaytaan beautifies things that aren't halaal for us, n makes us think we're doin good...

الذين ضل سعيهم في الحياة الدنيا و هم يحسبون أنهم يحسنون صنعا

"Those whose efforts have been wasted in this life, while they thought that they were acquiring good by their works?"

Honestly the way i see it, Allaah ridded u of something that wasn't halaal (relationship) be greatful to Allaah, atleast now u can start fresh in a halaal manner akhee.

 

[Hamas]

I went home and threw up and then had lunch i came back and just a few minutes ago i threw everything back out, i feel so qweezy and ill +o(

I spoke to her on the phone when i went home, she said she has to go and have a bath, do you know what i thought right then? that she was with him today and you know, she kept cutting me off and i kept calling her and i said please im going to literally go crazy, she said thats not her problem thats my problem. I said can i come and see you? she said no i dont want to see you ever, because of him i asked, yes she said.

I just want her to come back, really i do so much but she wont.

 

[Hamas]

Everything all you brothers and sisters tell me to do is right, when you say turn to Allah i agree with that but only if somehow we got back together we would prostrate to the Almighty all our lives but she wants this with someone else.

 

[Nawal89]

I think the cyber councelling section is about getting advice yeah? Not ranting and moaning.